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re: Is anyone else extremely paranoid about dating apps?
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:05 am to goldennugget
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:05 am to goldennugget
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goldennugget
God you're doing it all wrong.
You need to start by proving how sensitive you are. I find that crying during a 1 week anniversary usually does the trick.
Then heap constant praise on how beautiful and intelligent they are.
Respect her wishes and don't be too aggressive I always say.
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Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:10 am to Hammertime
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Once I start talking to a girl, it is always longer than 3 messages. Otherwise, you won't know if you're wasting your time or not. They are also trying to vet you before going out. Idk the protocol for Tinder b/c I don't use it.
In a vacuum makes sense but women on apps like Tinder have multiple men talking to them all at one time. She is going to go for the guy who is actually making a move instead of just dicking around with meaningless getting to know you convos she has had a thousand times in her life. If you aren't being direct with your intentions she will ditch you for a match of hers that is. Women aren't retarded, if you two matched that means you are into her, no need to play it slow. So why waste time.
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From what the girls have told me, there is no situation where a normal girl would answer back if that's what you wrote her. Those are the majority of the messages they get, and I'm guessing that's why they get frustrated with the whole process.
Saying shite like "Nice arse" is a way to show outcome independence which girls like. Another one I like to use is "I can't remember why I swiped right on you" and that gets them going as well. Another thing I do is neg them, opposite of a compliment, such as "Ugly necklace" and then they want to prove you wrong.
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Your whole beta shirtless argument is ridiculous.
1) you don't need a shirtless pic to get girls
2) "betas" are proud of their abs too
3) being "alpha" doesn't mean you're ripped
The point I am making is that a guy with a shirtless pic who messages a girl who has the "not interested in shirtless selfies!" disclaimer in her profile shows he gives no fricks and has outcome independence, which is women like. As far as #1 is concerned once I added a shirtless ab pic to my Tinder profile last year the number of matches I got exploded. Betas are proud of their abs but they would not even bother messaging a woman with the "no shirtless ab pics" disclaimer.
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Also, the girls that say they aren't looking for hookups generally are, and who wants to date a trashy chick? If I wanted to just hook up with a chick, I'd go to a bar
I don't use Tinder to arrange dates, I use it to meet women. I match with them, meet up with them, and decide the type of person they are from there. If dates happen to emerge from that so be it. 2 of my 3 plates from Seattle I met on Tinder.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:12 am to SidewalkDawg
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God you're doing it all wrong.
You need to start by proving how sensitive you are. I find that crying during a 1 week anniversary usually does the trick.
Then heap constant praise on how beautiful and intelligent they are.
Respect her wishes and don't be too aggressive I always say.
The sad part is there are guys on Tinder who actually do this shite. Good looking ones too, not pasty scrawny fat beta types. I would watch my plates use Tinder and you would get guys who seemed like they were on a mission to prove how much of a nice sensitive emotional guy they were.
It doesn't really take much to be in the Top 10-20% of men these days when so many guys act like that.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:13 am to goldennugget
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The sad part is there are guys on Tinder who actually do this shite. Good looking ones too
You match with a lot of good looking guys?
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:15 am to Bestbank Tiger
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Isn't Bumble the one where the female has to initiate contact? That might be why. A bot would be too easy to identify.
Good point- forgot about that. I have found that the quality of girls on Bumble is much better than Tinder. I think they like it because just because they match with someone doesn't mean they have to talk to them and the dude can't message them first.
ETA: Pro-tip. You are way more likely to get swiped right if you have a dog in your main picture. Doesn't even have to be your dog. Just find a stranger and ask to take a picture with their dog. Then you're golden.
This post was edited on 4/5/17 at 9:17 am
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:22 am to Hacker
I used them all in BR and New Orleans, except eharmony (too much to do initially). PoF was the only one that was a waste of time. Full of bots, hookers, and trannies. I'd say that makes up about 95% of their people. Okcupid and Match were the best.
If they didn't fill in their profile, I thought of them as fake and wouldn't message them. Maybe a 10% success rate overall, and 30% for the girls I actually would mesh with well IRL.
I ran out of girls after selecting age, distance, and kids, so I got off of it for a while. That and I'm not going out with some uggo.
If they didn't fill in their profile, I thought of them as fake and wouldn't message them. Maybe a 10% success rate overall, and 30% for the girls I actually would mesh with well IRL.
I ran out of girls after selecting age, distance, and kids, so I got off of it for a while. That and I'm not going out with some uggo.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:23 am to athenslife101
I tried Match out once years ago. Very attractive former junior high classmate saw my profile and sent me a message thru AOL IM. Thought I'd hit the jackpot. Turned out she was taken and was cruising through Match profiles with her 200 lb fat friend and messaged me trying to see if I'd be interested in her friend. Deleted Match profile after that and never tried online dating sites again.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:26 am to Rebelgator
quote:I fricking
You match with a lot of good looking guys?
in the coffee place quote:Like I said, idk about Tinder. I'm talking about regular dating apps.
goldennugget
Why don't you come to New Orleans and compete with SS's eyebrows on Bumble?
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:27 am to Tiger Prawn
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Turned out she was taken and was cruising through Match profiles with her 200 lb fat friend and messaged me trying to see if I'd be interested in her friend.
Lol had that happen to me too. And if you come across the ones whose pictures are all group photos, it's likely they're the unattractive one.
I honestly think legit sites like eHarmony and Match are probably a goldmine in big cities like NYC or something. In Baton Rouge the options are VERY limited. shite.. you end up already knowing half the people on there anyway.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:30 am to Hammertime
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Why don't you come to New Orleans and compete with SS's eyebrows on Bumble?
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:40 am to SuperSaint
Come on man, that was a funny gif
The Bumble would humble GN. I'm kinda curious to see how I'd do since I'm not downsy looking, but certainly not a model. I have much better success IRL than online.
Can't bring myself to make a FB account though
The Bumble would humble GN. I'm kinda curious to see how I'd do since I'm not downsy looking, but certainly not a model. I have much better success IRL than online.
Can't bring myself to make a FB account though
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:44 am to goldennugget
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The 80/20 rule is that 20% of the men get 80% of the women.)
How in gods name does anyone believe this?
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:44 am to athenslife101
Well, I don't have to worry about that any more.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:49 am to Hammertime
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Can't bring myself to make a FB account though
It's worth a shot. I do hate that you have to have a Facebook to have a Bumble acct- but you don't have to add anyone or anything. Just create one, add a few pictures, and "like" a bunch of stuff on facebook so you'll have mutual common interests with people.
The good thing is good for shooting the shite with girls. You can usually tell pretty quick who would be worth meeting irl. Kind of like the OT- good way to pass the time if nothing else.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 9:53 am to Hammertime
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I'm kinda curious to see how I'd do since I'm not downsy looking, but certainly not a model.
Omg.Posted on 4/5/17 at 10:01 am to sweetwaterbilly
quote:I just got on mine again after a long hiatus. Sorted it this morning. If I open the search up to anywhere, almost all of my top matches are bigger cities in the Northeast, CA, Texas, and Tel Aviv. Best match in P-Beach.
I honestly think legit sites like eHarmony and Match are probably a goldmine in big cities like NYC or something
Only have 11 within 25 miles of New Orleans. Since I block uggos, fakes, and girls I have already talked to/been out with, that isn't a lot at all. I have seen three of them on it before. Only qualifications are 23-33, online within the last week, no kids, and wants or might want kids. So yeah, it is slim pickings around here.
You also need to keep in mind that if you are deemed ugly, Okcupid won't show you that many good looking girls
Posted on 4/5/17 at 10:10 am to Hammertime
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I just got on mine again after a long hiatus.
That's what I like about Match. You can log back in after forever and see if there's anyone new without actually re-subscribing.
I guarantee your options are still better than BR
It is insane how many are weeded out once you select "no kids."
Posted on 4/5/17 at 10:22 am to sweetwaterbilly
The fakes don't fill out their profiles, so they don't click the "doesn't have kids" button.
Went through the ones in BR with the same standards. Results are.....5 matches that have real profiles. I am friends with one of them.
Went through the ones in BR with the same standards. Results are.....5 matches that have real profiles. I am friends with one of them.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 10:39 am to Hammertime
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Come on man, that was a funny gif
The Bumble would humble GN. I'm kinda curious to see how I'd do since I'm not downsy looking, but certainly not a model. I have much better success IRL than online.
Can't bring myself to make a FB account though
It's been a while since I've been on those things, but Bumble was eons better than Tinder in major cities as long as you're educated and not unfortunate looking. Tinder was full of trash. If I remember correctly, Bumble pretty prominently displayed education, company, job, etc., so that stuff stood out more and will help if you're not unemployed.
Posted on 4/5/17 at 11:21 am to athenslife101
I've tried 2 and they went nowhere. I didn't find anyone close enough to mesh with at the same place in life. I'm ready to try again but I'm not driving hours or schedule everything to get to know someone, date someone and get urges met.
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