re: Is anyone else extremely paranoid about dating apps?

I typically have a set schedule throughout the week that doesn't facilitate meeting a bunch of random chicks. I go to school with guys, and work primarily with all guys (don't interact with the girls). Internet dating works well for people like me. A lot of people are stuck in a rut, their friends suck, or have just moved to a new place.

I meet people all of the time, but I don't get to find out about them as quickly as I can online. It isn't hard to get digits if you have a personality.

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Serious question, as I have no clue, but are chicks really unwilling to do this? I thought these dating apps were just because as you get further out of college, there aren't as many chances to even meet someone organically.

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I want a psychologist to analyze this shite, but I really do think it's made women less approachable in person. I have no problem going up and talking to women I don't know, but nowadays so many of them want no part of it.

I'll see a cute girl sitting by herself at the bar and she'll be swiping on her damn phone. If she just put it down for a second she'd be approached by every guy in the bar, but she'd prefer to look at people she doesn't know online.

Someone needs to study how much the internet has changed our social patterns. In many ways people are averse to things that aren't connected to technology. You'd assume if women are willing to meet someone in person they don't know based off pictures they've seen online then they'd absolutely be willing to talk to someone in a bar, but I find that's not the case.

Same thing with things like Uber. I'm sure they do some sort of background checks and yea I guess they could track you afterwards, but is there really something THAT different between a stranger picking you up from an app vs hitchiking? But I don't see people hitchiking regularly these days.

It's super weird and interesting to me.

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How in gods name does anyone believe this?

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Because it makes sense.

Ugly guys getting girls is rare. The average guy isn't sleeping with a lot of women, unless he is rich. The average woman will get more sex than the average man. The top % of men (the really good looking men) will get more than anyone else.

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I've had a couple who clearly had doctored or old pics when we met, but I haven't had any horror stories.

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I joined OKCupid a while ago. The 2nd one I met from there looked so fine in her pictures. Meeting her in person, it looked like those pictures were taken 50+ pounds ago.

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Because it makes sense.

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No. No, it doesn't.

The theory falls apart rapidly when you walk outside with your eyes open. There are INSANE amounts of holes in that theory.

"Dating" apps = instant gratification. The world is becoming like a video game simulation.

I only started reading a few posts to this thread and it disappoints me. Is this what beautiful, successful, amazing women have to go up against?! [I can be rather confident… ;-)]

I am on Bumble now only after spending three month membership on Match to have 25% success. I say 25% because I had 2 decent dates, 1 in which we connected really well and "dated" for about 6 weeks. I figured about this point I would ask about exclusivity, just to be turned down. "I'm not looking to jump into a relationship." I wasn’t going to invest in someone who didn’t have the same path as me. Although I beat myself up for being the 'common denominator' for failed dating life, however I still think I am pretty freaking awesome. Maybe I AM looking for love in all the wrong places. Nonetheless, I sure hope to not match up with any of the negative posters on here. I still try to keep an open mind with online dating, because I do see success with them. I can easily count five couples I know whom have met on online dating sites.

I would agree that first impressions are BIG! However even attractive men share the wrong pictures. And it’s an immediate turn off. On a personal preference, I think that shirtless mirror pictures give off that he is looking for more of a sexual encounter, and that’s not what I am after. Or that he’s full of himself and has to blast his “masculinity”. I like pictures with smiles and cute candid shots where I can see his face, body language, and sense of style. After that, a creative short profile bio is effective.

But who am I to critique men’s online dating profiles, because in the long run I am still single too!

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dcs930

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Post pics here. You'll be inundated with date offers.

Oh man!!

There's always a catch, it seems!

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You still have to meet the other person. It's only instant gratification for people not wanting to actually meet IRL

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Online prospecting is the gratification for most of em.