re: How should I handle this situation figuring out my Dad used my birth money?

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Nope. If my parents would have supported me through school to a point that my expenses exceeded my savings, then not only would I not be pissed, I'd have been grateful

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I completely understand you feeling that it's not your parents responsibility to pay for your school, and that if they used the money you saved, then ultimately paid the extra, you'd be grateful. But you are 18 years old in college, why would you not be paying your fee bill yourself if you had the savings and it was known that you had to pay your own way? Going into graduation thinking you have a savings to maybe put up first months rent on an apartment only to find out your parents have been using that money on you without your consideration is a terrible situation to be left in. Now I'm not saying it's a point that I'm going to fight with them. I'm not going to submit a bill. But I'm also not going to pretend like I'm going to write them a thank you card either (for using my money, I've thanked my parents for college before in general). I'm probably going to be a little irritated. Not that I deserved for them to pay for everything with their money. But that they should have let me know what was going on. Like I said, I cannot think of a single good reason why a parent would not keep their kids updated. Maybe super young kids since they don't have a great concept of money. But by the time you can hold a job, they should be up front with you. Anything else seems crappy to me.