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Tips for dealing with young kids and "traumatic" experiences?
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:40 am
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:40 am
So, a little background first. I have a 3 1/2 year old girl who absolutely loves animals! We have 4 dogs at our house, two of which she doesn't play with because they are my hunting dogs and stay outside, and they tend to knock her down, but she will go to the fence and pet them and talk to them. The 2 dogs inside are a 5 year old shih tzu, and we just got a great dane and she is 8 wks old. My mother in law has several dogs, and my mom had a rat terrier that was three or four. She got him about a year and a half ago from an elderly couple who couldn't care for him. Instantly my daughter fell in love with this dog, and him with her, he would whine and get super excited when my mom would say my daughter was coming. She would sometimes beg to go to nana's house just to see Ace. Since she was 2 months old she goes to my moms on thursdays because my mom wants to spend time with her. Well this past thursday at about 9am my mom and my daughter were outside letting ace use the bathroom and from across their backyard( it's surrounded on 3 sides by a piece of woods about 20 acres)a coyote runs out and up to the dog and wrestles him to the ground and then picks him up behind the head and runs back into the woods with the dog still hollering and yelping, all while my mom and daughter watch in horror from 30 feet away! My mom tried screaming to see if he would drop him, but no luck. She didnt want to go after him because my girl would have followed. My mom calls me pretty hysterical at this point, as ace was pretty much a member of the family, and says something got ace, and in the background i can hear my daughter freaking out too. so i haul arse there to see about her and she is crying and asking to go home to see her puppies. Well now she wont go anywhere in our house by herself, and on 2 seperate occasions(the only two times she had to come outside after dark) when we were leaving somewhere after dark she really freaks, almost to the point of hyper-ventilating. Shes never been scared of the dark or anything like that before, and when i have to bring our puppy out at night she begs me not to go and when I explain i have to she tells me to not let anything get the puppy. I understand this was very troubling for her to witness, im just wondering how long its going to take before she somewhat gets over it, or what, if anything, i can do to help her! Its pretty hard knowing what she saw , and seeing her be so scared! I know this is ridiculously long, but thanks in advance for tips!
This was ace:
This was ace:
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:42 am to TIGER984
shite happens
Kids are resilient
she'll get over it.
Kids are resilient
she'll get over it.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:43 am to TIGER984
Buy her the movie Lion King
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:43 am to TIGER984
If you stare at the words long enough you see a picture. Crazy!
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:43 am to TIGER984
There is only one way. Take the girl with you and hunt down and kill the coyote. This will teach her vengeance, justice, and that violence solves everything. These are the tools she will need to grow up to be batman.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:45 am to TIGER984
Holy wall of text. Is your enter key broken or something?
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:48 am to TIGER984
I came in here thinking this was something legit, but its just a story about how your mom just stood there while a "member of the family" was carted off into the woods to be eaten.
Glad I'm not in that family.
Glad I'm not in that family.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:56 am to TIGER984
Could have gone without reading this. Happy Tuesday morning.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:07 am to TIGER984
That's tough, man.
Mine are 4 & 6, and I think I would just try and make them understand that whole "circle of life" thing. Animals eat other animals. it's ok to be sad but there is nothing for her to be afraid of. It won't help much, and I completely understand the misery of watching your little one hurt like that while you are unable to do anything about it, but as another poster said...kids are resilient. It will pass.
Mine are 4 & 6, and I think I would just try and make them understand that whole "circle of life" thing. Animals eat other animals. it's ok to be sad but there is nothing for her to be afraid of. It won't help much, and I completely understand the misery of watching your little one hurt like that while you are unable to do anything about it, but as another poster said...kids are resilient. It will pass.
This post was edited on 3/3/15 at 11:08 am
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:07 am to TIGER984
i have a 3 year old and we will soon be dealing with the loss of her great grandmother, who she calls "grandmaw".... i doubt she'll ever remember her personally, but i know for a while after her passing, when we make trips to my parents' house, where my grandmother currently lives, she'll look for her to be there, as she "knows" grandmaw...
losing my grandmother (the only grandparent left) is gonna be hard on us, i know, but i doubt she'll ever remember it.... she's too young, i think, to fully have long lasting memories of sentimental value yet... guess we won't really know until later down the road, but yeah....
losing my grandmother (the only grandparent left) is gonna be hard on us, i know, but i doubt she'll ever remember it.... she's too young, i think, to fully have long lasting memories of sentimental value yet... guess we won't really know until later down the road, but yeah....
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:09 pm to TIGER984
No way in hell I am reading that wall of text.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:35 pm to TIGER984
The bigger you make it, the bigger it will be, and the bigger impact it will have on her. So don't make it more drama than you absolutely have to. Only address the issue if you absolutely need to directly respond to a question from her about it.
Let her know that she is safe and protected without directly addressing the situation, the dog, or the coyote.
If you want to kill the coyote, don't involve her in any of it. Don't even let her know that you did and certainly don't show her the dead coyote.
Let her know that she is safe and protected without directly addressing the situation, the dog, or the coyote.
If you want to kill the coyote, don't involve her in any of it. Don't even let her know that you did and certainly don't show her the dead coyote.
This post was edited on 3/3/15 at 12:38 pm
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:38 pm to TIGER984
my youngest was that age when our old dog died. it wasn't violent or tramatic like that, but his breathing changed and he started to try to find a place to hide, so I knew. I wound up telling my boys, about 3 and 5 at the time, that Miles was going to die and we needed to go say goodbye and give him hugs, etc. They took it well, and the young one still mentions missing him from time to time, but in a sweet, not sad way.
kids are tough and/or too young to understand completely, which helps. she'll be fine. especially when you bring her a hooded cape made of coyote pelt and a coin purse made from yote scrote
eta: very much this
kids are tough and/or too young to understand completely, which helps. she'll be fine. especially when you bring her a hooded cape made of coyote pelt and a coin purse made from yote scrote
eta: very much this
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The bigger you make it, the bigger it will be, and the bigger impact it will have on her.
This post was edited on 3/3/15 at 12:47 pm
Posted on 3/3/15 at 12:57 pm to TIGER984
This is why dogs are a bad idea.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 1:00 pm to TIGER984
That's a bold coyote to do that in broad daylight with people right there.
Posted on 3/3/15 at 1:13 pm to TIGER984
Sorry to hear about Ace.
I'm a veteran parent. Your kid will get over it given time. They really are, like they all say, resilient. Might be a month or two.
That being said... it's your duty now to avenge your dog. You are going to take up coyote hunting. I'm not joking. Your family needs some fricking payback, and you are going to deliver.
I'm a veteran parent. Your kid will get over it given time. They really are, like they all say, resilient. Might be a month or two.
That being said... it's your duty now to avenge your dog. You are going to take up coyote hunting. I'm not joking. Your family needs some fricking payback, and you are going to deliver.
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