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My Wife Has Been Diagnosed with Lupus
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:35 pm
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:35 pm
What can we expect? Any of y'all have experience with this ?
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:36 pm to Hoyt
Isn't that when the body attacks itself?
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:36 pm to Hoyt
Wow. I'm terribly sorry. No experience so I don't have advice, but certainly sending prayers.
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:38 pm to Hoyt
I think it largely depends on what type it is. Or, more specifically, how it manifests itself in her.
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:40 pm to Hoyt
A girl I know beat its arse, and so can your wife. Good vibes to you both and Prayers sent!
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:40 pm to Hoyt
Lupus is a spectrum. Some people have minimal symptoms and live normal lives. Some people go into multiorgan failure and die.
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:40 pm to Hoyt
One of my closest friends has this. She is a few years younger than me and frequently has bad arthritis pain in her hands. Otherwise than that, she lives a normal life. Couple years ago she got a medical marijuana card(her boss was the one to suggest it). She smokes maybe once a week(or takes edibles) and she says that has helped her lupus more than anything else. That she was able to get off a few meds because she wasn't having as much pain/swelling in her hands.
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:41 pm to Hoyt
A friend's wife has had it for years and I never knew until recently. My mother's friend was 'diagnosed" with Lupus from a Baton Rouge doctor and then found out years later that she never had it. God Bless
This post was edited on 12/2/14 at 1:42 pm
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:53 pm to Hoyt
My wife's little cousin was diagnosed with that. Every med they put her on made it worse. After about 3 doctors and 2 1/2 years of missed diagnosis turned out to be lime disease. I'm no doc but I'm sure that's a better situation. Prayers to you and your family.
Posted on 12/2/14 at 1:53 pm to Hoyt
quote:
What can we expect? Any of y'all have experience with this ?
Watch House
eta: sorry to hear, prayers sent
This post was edited on 12/2/14 at 1:54 pm
Posted on 12/2/14 at 2:09 pm to Hoyt
No family members, but I've had friends and I deal with it a lot, professionally (don't ask). I don't intend for this to be preachy, so sorry if it gets there for you.
The disease progresses differently, sometimes vastly, for most patients. There are exciting new drugs and treatment modalities coming out to treat various parts of it. Patients generally have to cycle onto Prednisone periodically, and that's a devil's bargain if there ever was one.
The basics remain the same, though. Remain as active as possible (although she will likely have to watch her sun exposure, particularly with various medications), eat right, get plenty of fluids, exercise, while avoiding things that cause inflammation. It is an autoimmune response, by and large (similar to RA), so you want an immune system that is neither robust nor weak - which will cause problems as she ages.
Her health maintenance just became a full-time job. She will have good days, and bad days (flares). Flares may last days or weeks. You will have to do more to help when she's doing poorly and you should not be resentful about it - it is what it is. You took some sort of oath, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and all that - now is the time that stops being BS and starts to mean something.
Good news - there has never been a better time in history to have lupus and it is not a death sentence. It constitutes a lifelong, chronic disease that will affect the quality of both of your lives. The better you handle it the better off you'll be.
Good luck and G-d bless you both.
The disease progresses differently, sometimes vastly, for most patients. There are exciting new drugs and treatment modalities coming out to treat various parts of it. Patients generally have to cycle onto Prednisone periodically, and that's a devil's bargain if there ever was one.
The basics remain the same, though. Remain as active as possible (although she will likely have to watch her sun exposure, particularly with various medications), eat right, get plenty of fluids, exercise, while avoiding things that cause inflammation. It is an autoimmune response, by and large (similar to RA), so you want an immune system that is neither robust nor weak - which will cause problems as she ages.
Her health maintenance just became a full-time job. She will have good days, and bad days (flares). Flares may last days or weeks. You will have to do more to help when she's doing poorly and you should not be resentful about it - it is what it is. You took some sort of oath, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and all that - now is the time that stops being BS and starts to mean something.
Good news - there has never been a better time in history to have lupus and it is not a death sentence. It constitutes a lifelong, chronic disease that will affect the quality of both of your lives. The better you handle it the better off you'll be.
Good luck and G-d bless you both.
This post was edited on 12/2/14 at 2:11 pm
Posted on 12/2/14 at 2:21 pm to Hoyt
Should you start using condoms now?
Posted on 12/2/14 at 2:22 pm to Hoyt
My wife was diagnosed a couple of years ago. What Ace said is mostly accurate. Everyone presents differently, different severity, and progression. In my wife's case, she has frequent pain in her hands. Periodically, she complains of pain in her chest like a squeezing sensation. She does not take any medications currently. Hydroxychloroquine has become much more widely used when there is evidence of early organ damage. She hasn't had that issue yet. Aside from organ damage, the biggest risk is probably clotting disorders and an increased risk for stroke, especially with age and increased blood pressure.
Posted on 12/2/14 at 5:34 pm to Hoyt
George Costanza lived in fear of lupus. Every time I hear the word I think of him.
My understanding from a friend who had it is like many other autoimmune diseases it's hard to predict where it will go and that many people live near-normal lives with it. Not to mention that modern medicine is damn-near miraculous.
Regardless, be there for the wifey, through thick and thin. My sincere Prayers and wishes of good health for Mrs. Hoyt.
My understanding from a friend who had it is like many other autoimmune diseases it's hard to predict where it will go and that many people live near-normal lives with it. Not to mention that modern medicine is damn-near miraculous.
Regardless, be there for the wifey, through thick and thin. My sincere Prayers and wishes of good health for Mrs. Hoyt.
Posted on 12/2/14 at 5:47 pm to Hoyt
Best wishes. Hopefully she has only minimal issues (or none at all, as other posters have mentioned).
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:06 pm to Hoyt
I have a couple of close relatives with autoimune diseases...what Ace says is pretty much spot on...
the whole shite is really strange as hell in that one minute, they are just fine and then a few hours later, they feel like total shite and then back to normal a few hours after that...
the unpredictable nature of it all seems to really wear on folks and if you see her getting depressed, urge her to get help...lots of the medicines used to treat the associated pain are actually antidepressants, so they help out in multiple ways...
bottom line is, the whole thing is fairly well manageable as long as the two of you work together for support...
ETA: hope you have good insurance, as your wife will be regularly visiting a hell of a lot of different doctors...
the whole shite is really strange as hell in that one minute, they are just fine and then a few hours later, they feel like total shite and then back to normal a few hours after that...
the unpredictable nature of it all seems to really wear on folks and if you see her getting depressed, urge her to get help...lots of the medicines used to treat the associated pain are actually antidepressants, so they help out in multiple ways...
bottom line is, the whole thing is fairly well manageable as long as the two of you work together for support...
ETA: hope you have good insurance, as your wife will be regularly visiting a hell of a lot of different doctors...
This post was edited on 12/2/14 at 7:08 pm
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:54 pm to Hoyt
Sorry to hear the news Hoyt. Prayers to you and your wife.
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