re: A. Peterson being investigated for physical abuse of a different 4 year old son

There was a time in history when we “cured” headaches by drilling holes in people’s heads to let evil spirits out.

There was also a time when we sent messages via pony express and/or telegraph. These were effective for the time because it was the best we knew how to do with the information available to us.

This is 2014. We no longer have to spank children to have them understand the “error” of their ways. We have made advances in parenting.

We now know how to communicate in a way that actually teaches, rather than punishes.

Doing something because it’s always been done that way and worked out in the past, is not a good reason for continuing.

Not entirely. I don't think beating your kids is ok, but I have no problem with spanking them.



My point was Louis CK used a scene in Louie to get laughs that involved him forcing himself on a woman after she had said no. Forgive me if I don't think his moral compass is calibrated perfectly

So we shouldn't punish kids at all? How are they to learn consequences for their actions?

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So we shouldn't punish kids at all?

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The Latin root of discipline means “to teach,” while the Latin root of punishment means, “to inflict pain.”

Are consequences not the inflicting of pain? Like taking away TV time or getting put in the punish corner?

How many kids do you have?

how many do you have? do you beat them with a belt? a switch? your hands?

i`m kinda on the fence about spanking, would spank my girl when she was very young because seems that was the only thing that worked on a smaller child, but at the same time i was never spanked i was "whooped' most of the time it was because my Dad had a bad day, so a wrong word, could be anything would set him off...so can`t really consider myself a fan of that form of discipline

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This is 2014. We no longer have to spank children to have them understand the “error” of their ways. We have made advances in parenting.

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There's so many holes in this statement.

Nah son. Those were the days.
Gettin beat brought your pain tolerance levels up and made you tough.

There's no substitute for that.