Encouraging you SO to cook

We both cook. She knows that if I had it my way, I'd cook on the grill or make something super simple every night, and have a few drinks on nights I'm not working.

She enjoys cooking for us, as do I. If all your SO thinks cooking is is boiling noodles and putting rice in a rice cooker, something is wrong. Has she never even scrambled eggs? Hard boiled them?

Where was this chick raised?


Anyway, I vote nay for cooking classes. Just tell her one night that you want to start cooking together. It could be fun. Pour some glasses of wine, you deal with the meat, she deals with the veggies.

See what happens. Hell, it might end with hanky panky

check out the viking cooking classes
might spur an intrest for her

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I do 95% of the cooking in the house, but some days I just don't feel like cooking and wish that she would step up.

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When I don't feel like cooking, I just hey baby, veggie burgers tonight. I'm the king of the kitchen. I don't want anybody else in there.

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veggie burgers tonight

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I just recently tried a veggie burger for the first time...wasn't half bad

My wife accepted the fact I was a better cook and just gave up. Maybe I am old school but the going trend unlike my parents was that girls would learn how to do these things from their mother. My mother is an excellent cook and so is my sister; however, it seems these days that men are taking over the kitchen in the home. Most nights I enjoy cooking but like the OP I don't always feel like it. I like the cooking class idea and my wife would like it just because we would be doing something together but with four kids it's difficult.

Both my SO and I love to cook, and we generally take turns. I usually cook more meat and veggies, simple home style meals that I grew up eating that I learned from my mother. I get adventurous when baking though. He like to do more ethnic, have to buy 15 special ingredients per recipe type things he finds online, and trying new things. His parents didn't cook, so what he knows is self taught.
I would LOVE to take a cooking class with him, just not sure there are any near here... May need to look into it

Why fixate on what she doesn't want to do? As long as she's shouldering other household duties, then I'd resign myself to the fact that cooking isn't important to her. Make a trade, you'll cook if she scrubs the toilets and cleans the cat box or irons. Works at my house.

For many women, cooking is an emotionally complex issue. Everything from eating disorders to gender roles and class identity can be rolled up in the kitchen....did her mama cook? Was she raised with a housekeeper or grammaw who did it all? You might try asking her why she isn't interested in that room of the house...assuming she actually likes to eat. (I'm always shocked by the incredible guilt and self loathing some women pack into food/eating.)

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For many women, cooking is an emotionally complex issue. Everything from eating disorders to gender roles and class identity can be rolled up in the kitchen....did her mama cook? Was she raised with a housekeeper or grammaw who did it all? You might try asking her why she isn't interested in that room of the house...assuming she actually likes to eat. (I'm always shocked by the incredible guilt and self loathing some women pack into food/eating.)

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Her mom is half Japanese and is a wonderful cook when she cooks.

One thing is that she is VERY particular about meat so her diet before I came along is what I would call "rabbit food," fresh fruit and veggies, oats, yogurt. Just stuff most people wouldn't consider a meal.

That rabbit food is healthier for you than your man dog food if you look at the data on life spans and health issues from diet.

So it's a culture clash....to many, fresh fruit/veg, yogurt, and oatmeal DO make up a meal. Why not try her eating scheme a couple times a week? It sounds healthy, it's good for the planet, and it's certainly better for your cholesterol. See this for her POV: shes not interested in a meat centric diet, yet she manages to stay w you. She may not like the sight or smell of bone in pork chops browning in a skillet....have you tried to like Greek yogurt and granola, with a side of kale chips. (I just described my lunch, and the granola is homemade oat, flax, sunflower, pecan, flavored with local honey and ginger.). What "makes a meal" is culturally determined...check out the fascinating books What I Eat and Hungry Planet: a photographer chronicled people's eating habits around the world. The first shows individuals with one days food, the second depicts families with a weeks food. Peter Menzels books

Make a date of the farmers market...she can load up on fresh veg, local milk, etc. You can talk about food in a nonjudgmental way. Maybe she has issues with your food choices too.

Some people just aren't as food motivated as others. My grammaw ate a bowl of Total w/milk, half a banana, and some peanut butter and crackers every night for at least 20 years. Nothing wrong with that, either.