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re: Dr appointment today with my mother.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 1:22 pm to Jim Rockford
Posted on 6/19/23 at 1:22 pm to Jim Rockford
Praying for you and your family.
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Posted on 6/19/23 at 1:53 pm to Jim Rockford
My wife or I spend at least 7-8 days a month taking my dad to doctors appointments. He has been diagnosed with dementia, is diabetic and has normal issues associated with being 83 years old. He also takes a public bus to several appointments a month when he can get an appointment with the bus. It is a big part of his social life. Hope everything works out....
Posted on 6/19/23 at 1:55 pm to Jim Rockford
Prayers Rock
Posted on 6/19/23 at 2:23 pm to Jim Rockford
Monitoring as my mother is going through something similar. We have no idea what’s wrong and I feel like she’s just fading away. :(
I brought her flowers yesterday and her favorite iced coffee but I wish I could make her feel like she used to. shite. I’m tearing up just writing this. Getting old is a mother fricker.
I brought her flowers yesterday and her favorite iced coffee but I wish I could make her feel like she used to. shite. I’m tearing up just writing this. Getting old is a mother fricker.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 2:26 pm to Jim Rockford
The Bible is clear as it applies to a compassionate son towards his mother and father.
"My son, when thy father grows old, take him to thyself; long as he lives, never be thou the cause of his repining. Grow he feeble of wit, make allowance for him, nor in thy manhood’s vigour despise him. The kindness shewn to thy father [and mother]will not go forgotten; favour it shall bring thee in acquittal of thy mother’s guilt.[2] Faithfully it shall be made good to thee, nor shalt thou be forgotten when the time of affliction comes; like ice in summer the record of thy sins shall melt away" - Sirach 3:14-17
You are to be commended for your compassion towards your mother and father. Your sacrifice will not go unrewarded.
"My son, when thy father grows old, take him to thyself; long as he lives, never be thou the cause of his repining. Grow he feeble of wit, make allowance for him, nor in thy manhood’s vigour despise him. The kindness shewn to thy father [and mother]will not go forgotten; favour it shall bring thee in acquittal of thy mother’s guilt.[2] Faithfully it shall be made good to thee, nor shalt thou be forgotten when the time of affliction comes; like ice in summer the record of thy sins shall melt away" - Sirach 3:14-17
You are to be commended for your compassion towards your mother and father. Your sacrifice will not go unrewarded.
This post was edited on 6/19/23 at 2:29 pm
Posted on 6/19/23 at 2:31 pm to Jim Rockford
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My dad wants me to take her because it's easier for me to help her in and out of the office. He also thinks she responds better to me. I don't think that's true, but that's what he thinks.
are you in the mood for a sarcastic joke?
Posted on 6/19/23 at 2:43 pm to Jim Rockford
Take care of your parents. I applaud you. Prayers lifted.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 2:48 pm to Jim Rockford
I wanted to say thanks for the post of support for Jim. I found out this morning that my mom passed in her sleep last night, and reading many of your words has been helpful, especially the bible quotes.
My mom (80, no pics) was lucky to go out on her own terms. In her own bed, and not in a hospital room for days on end. She was widowed, a diabetic, had a heart attack earlier this year, suffered from blood clots, and dementia. She soldiered on, and I walked the path with her. I was able to spend time with her three times last week taking her to Dr. appointments, and was able to tell her I loved here each time I departed.
I believe she is in heaven now, reunited with my father and many of her friends who have gone before.
Death sucks. Make the best of the time with those you love while you are able to. Life is too short to let trivial matters get in the way. Love them while you have them, and you won't have regrets.
My mom (80, no pics) was lucky to go out on her own terms. In her own bed, and not in a hospital room for days on end. She was widowed, a diabetic, had a heart attack earlier this year, suffered from blood clots, and dementia. She soldiered on, and I walked the path with her. I was able to spend time with her three times last week taking her to Dr. appointments, and was able to tell her I loved here each time I departed.
I believe she is in heaven now, reunited with my father and many of her friends who have gone before.
Death sucks. Make the best of the time with those you love while you are able to. Life is too short to let trivial matters get in the way. Love them while you have them, and you won't have regrets.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:00 pm to StandsWithaMeme
Standswithameme prayers for you and for the repose of your mom's soul.
Jimmy, I admire you, as well.
I'm an only child, living at my childhood home the last four years to care for my mother. It's a sad, lonesome existence. Family bails IF they're even within driving distance. It's infinitely worse if extended family live all over the country.
Marriages fail. I have some solid friends who live in other parts of the nation. I have ONE solid friend who actually comes to see me.
Doing the right thing is so difficult so often. I get out to work and the occasional night out of the house, but just a couple hours.
Folks if you have friends in the caregiver life, PLEASE think of them, visit them, call them. Texts don't do very much .
Jimmy, I admire you, as well.
I'm an only child, living at my childhood home the last four years to care for my mother. It's a sad, lonesome existence. Family bails IF they're even within driving distance. It's infinitely worse if extended family live all over the country.
Marriages fail. I have some solid friends who live in other parts of the nation. I have ONE solid friend who actually comes to see me.
Doing the right thing is so difficult so often. I get out to work and the occasional night out of the house, but just a couple hours.
Folks if you have friends in the caregiver life, PLEASE think of them, visit them, call them. Texts don't do very much .
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:02 pm to Jim Rockford
You okay man? What did Dr say?
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:09 pm to RedPop4
Only child here, too, currently living out my dad’s last few hours/days with him. My mom is a tireless caregiver, but she is wearing out, so I am spending as much time as possible with them. My husband, kids, and I do what we can. He is at home with caregivers and that is a blessing. I try to do what I know he would want, what he did for his parents, and honor how he raised me.
Prayers for strength and peace for all who have gone or are going through it.
Prayers for strength and peace for all who have gone or are going through it.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:25 pm to Summerchild
Thanks everybody. Went about as well as could be expected. Dr upped a couple of her meds and hopefully that will have some benefit. I appreciate the prayers. I truly believe they helped.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:27 pm to Summerchild
Prayers for you too and everyone else going through this.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:27 pm to MBclass83
Much appreciate the good thoughts. See below. Thanks again.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:30 pm to Summerchild
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Only child here, too, currently living out my dad’s last few hours/days with him. My mom is a tireless caregiver, but she is wearing out, so I am spending as much time as possible with them
Props to you for doing this. It's hard and many don't understand what it's like to deal with this.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 3:40 pm to Jim Rockford
This is what I have found out, please correct if wrong. Drs want quick cognitive decline or inability to complete daily task to diagnose dementia. Slow word recall, or long term memory loss not gonna cut it. There’s not just one test, but a group of symptoms that lead to diagnosis. Not really any great meds, and they say to just manage risk factors. I think vascular dementia is prevalent and they call it mild cognitive decline.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 4:08 pm to Jim Rockford
being a good son, prayers for y;all
Posted on 6/19/23 at 4:57 pm to Rust Cohle
I know to qualify for hospice, a dementia patient needs to meet a 7A score or higher:
This post was edited on 6/19/23 at 5:01 pm
Posted on 6/19/23 at 5:04 pm to CSATiger
Those knocking Rocky, you don’t know his condition, do you? He may well be physically in Dutch. In fact, I’m pretty sure the case is the same as I experienced with in laws. In their upper 80s, early 90s.
Rockford, you are a good son.
My FIL was physically incapable of handling my MIL who had Alzheimer’s for over 10 years. He was lucky to be able to get himself half dressed most days.
It killed him daily to see her all fricked up. Took a huge toll on my wife who would spend hours a day with her mother who had no clue who anyone was.
I grew up before nursing homes were around. Family dealt with family. People took care of their own. Nowadays we stick folks in a nursing home and they don’t give a shite in most cases.
Rockford, you are a good son.
My FIL was physically incapable of handling my MIL who had Alzheimer’s for over 10 years. He was lucky to be able to get himself half dressed most days.
It killed him daily to see her all fricked up. Took a huge toll on my wife who would spend hours a day with her mother who had no clue who anyone was.
I grew up before nursing homes were around. Family dealt with family. People took care of their own. Nowadays we stick folks in a nursing home and they don’t give a shite in most cases.
Posted on 6/19/23 at 5:09 pm to Jake88
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Isn't it a little late for that? So, there are apparently very few companies that still offer it and it's very expensive.
Nope. If you get it pre-official diagnosis, they will honor it.
I called several insurance companies relative to our situation and they all parroted the same - get it before or regret it later. My mom’s care prior to her death was about $120K/yr and this was during Covid.
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