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Dr appointment today with my mother.

Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:24 am
Posted by Jim Rockford
Member since May 2011
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Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:24 am
My dad wants me to take her because it's easier for me to help her in and out of the office. He also thinks she responds better to me. I don't think that's true, but that's what he thinks.

She's had some mild cognitive issues for a little over three years, more noticeable over the last ten months and a lot more noticeable over the last month. She's confused more days than not lately. I hope she just needs a medication adjustment but I am bracing myself for worse news. Any prayers or good thoughts are appreciated. I'm pretty scared.

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Posted by Tvilletiger
PVB
Member since Oct 2015
5050 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:25 am to
Keep things simple.
Posted by DomincDecoco
of no fixed abode
Member since Oct 2018
10912 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:26 am to
You a good boy rock
Posted by soccerfüt
Location: A Series of Tubes
Member since May 2013
65943 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:27 am to
Rocky is a shite to delegate this duty to you.

Good on ya for doing it though.
Posted by Yewkindewit
Near Birmingham, Alabama
Member since Apr 2012
20098 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:28 am to
Prayers offered for your mom!
Posted by L1C4
The Ville
Member since Aug 2017
13280 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:29 am to
Prayers sent
Posted by PetermanFanClub
Baton Rouge
Member since Jun 2008
313 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 11:49 am to
You’re a good son. Prayers sent your way.
Posted by TulaneLSU
Member since Aug 2003
Member since Dec 2007
13298 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:20 pm to
Dear Friend,

I was sitting in Outback Steakhouse enjoying my seventh bowl of baked potato soup as part of an all you can eat soup and salad meal when I came across your post. You always struck me as a sincere, virtuous, and humble person, but never did I know of your dedication to your dear mother. You are fulfilling God’s commandment to honor your parents.

My heartfelt prayers are with you and your mother and father. May God protect you and may you draw near to the truth St Paul explains to us in Romans 8:

quote:

we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.

What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.


God’s grace and blessing shine on your face today, friend.

Sincerely yours,
TulaneLSU
Posted by S
RIP Wayde
Member since Jan 2007
155956 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:21 pm to
Good vibrations as always James!
Posted by BluegrassBelle
RIP Hefty Lefty - 1981-2019
Member since Nov 2010
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Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:23 pm to
Sending some love and light your way.
Posted by LRB1967
Tennessee
Member since Dec 2020
15904 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:26 pm to
Sending prayers your way!
Posted by High C
viewing the fall....
Member since Nov 2012
54053 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:26 pm to
I spent four hours in ER with mine last Thursday for a UTI. She’s 75, and everything hits harder. Still lives by herself, gets around well, and has good cognition for her age.
Posted by real turf fan
East Tennessee
Member since Dec 2016
8732 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:31 pm to
When my inlaws went to a Geriatric Psych unit for evaluation (they signed themselves in for free food for a week) and because the unit found he had great insurance, I learned some things. Both failed their-mental tests abysmally. My FIL failed because he was taking directions from my MIL. I found that the nurses really do watch everything they do. THere are specific social workers to interface with family who didn't have a notion of what was happening (and my husband wanted to break them out of confinement.)

Some of the other people in that locked down part of the hospital were both sad and sweet. I will never forget one little lady who had dressed very carefully for a visitor and she came up to me and asked if she knew me. I said "no" and I walked her back to the nursing station and assured her she looked nice, etc. And she asked me again if she knew me.

The whole experience was heart breaking and depressing,. At some point we realized and accepted hos powerless we were to deal with it- they were beyond our help.
Posted by Rouge
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Member since Oct 2004
136855 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:40 pm to
quote:

My dad wants me to take her because it's easier for me to help her in and out of the office. He also thinks she responds better to me. I don't think that's true, but that's what he thinks.


This is what the kids call "weaponized incompetence".
Posted by idlewatcher
County Jail
Member since Jan 2012
79379 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:43 pm to
Not sure of your mom's age, but my mom had similar traits.

Best advice: Get long term care insurance - something my dad neglected to get - b/c her care will be super expensive.

Wishing you guys well brother
Posted by molsusports
Member since Jul 2004
36148 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:45 pm to
quote:


I was sitting in Outback Steakhouse enjoying my seventh bowl of baked potato soup as part of an all you can eat soup and salad meal when I came across your post



Dear Friend,

Put down the soup spoon. Baked potato soup in sufficient quantities makes you fat and diabetic.

Best regards,

The next person next to you on a plane
Posted by Bayou Warrior 64
Member since Feb 2021
321 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:46 pm to

Prayers sent your way.
Posted by White Roach
Member since Apr 2009
9462 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:56 pm to
I assumed care of my mother by default. My extensive family all had reasons why they couldn't help. Work, distance, other obligations, whatever...

All I can say is that when her day comes, you won't feel guilty, or at least shouldn't feel guilty, because you did the best you could, which was better than your siblings.

It's frustrating and a thankless job. But your mother needs your help.
Posted by TexasTiger33
Member since Feb 2022
13364 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 12:59 pm to
best wishes to you and your family Jimmy
Posted by Jake88
Member since Apr 2005
68435 posts
Posted on 6/19/23 at 1:05 pm to
quote:


Best advice: Get long term care insurance - something my dad neglected to get - b/c her care will be super expensive.
Isn't it a little late for that? So, there are apparently very few companies that still offer it and it's very expensive.
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