- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
Divorce Experience
Posted on 1/14/23 at 5:58 am
Posted on 1/14/23 at 5:58 am
Ok folks, who’s gotten a divorce with minor children. How was your experience dealing with lawyers, custody, and financial support. I (male) filed and merely want equal custody and not to be completely screwed financially. Just want to end things as easy as possible and not fight over things. Primary bread winner by a long shot but STBX works as well and minor child is in full time child care. Marriage was approximately 8 years.
85
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:02 am to Alimoneydave
This? At 5:58 on a Saturday morning and with one post? This will be good.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:02 am to Alimoneydave
I’ll tell you exactly what my attorney told me on my first consult two years ago: “you’re screwed “. Expect 6 months of spousal support and then the REAL pain begins.
ETA: I THINK that being married less than 10 years lessens the amount of your retirement that she can take but I might be wrong.
ETA: I THINK that being married less than 10 years lessens the amount of your retirement that she can take but I might be wrong.
This post was edited on 1/14/23 at 6:04 am
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:02 am to Alimoneydave
You've come to the right place.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:02 am to Alimoneydave
Depends on where you’re divorcing, really.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:03 am to Alimoneydave
quote:
I (male) filed and merely want equal custody and not to be completely screwed financially.
Why don’t you ask your lawyer
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:03 am to Alimoneydave
Guy I know got cut off sexually by his wife. He works she's a stay at home mom.
He got tired of no secs. Left. Filed divorce. She got it all. He's paying for her to live and do nothing.
Which is why I totally support secret infidelity over divorce.
Anyway good luck.
He got tired of no secs. Left. Filed divorce. She got it all. He's paying for her to live and do nothing.
Which is why I totally support secret infidelity over divorce.
Anyway good luck.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:04 am to Alimoneydave
Just give her what she wants Dave
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:06 am to Alimoneydave
quote:
Just want to end things as easy as possible and not fight over things.
quote:
I (male) filed and merely want equal custody
Lawyer up because if you instigated this OH BOY!! As teech said it depends what state you are in also.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:07 am to Alimoneydave
Alimonydave > Brokedave > Alonedave > Suicidalthoughtsdave
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:09 am to Alimoneydave
One of my good friends got a divorce a couple years ago (he initiated). Said the same thing you did. Got bent financially and still got fricked over in custody hearings. Fight for yourself. Especially if things aren’t ending amicably.
This post was edited on 1/14/23 at 6:12 am
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:09 am to Alimoneydave
quote:
I (male) filed
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:10 am to Alimoneydave
You need to find a side gig that pays cash and keep it off the books. Otherwise, for the next several years you’ll have to eat ramen noodles and live in a shithole, low rent apartment if you want to be able to save anything.
Honestly, in your situation, you’re better off just going to jail until your kids are 18.
Honestly, in your situation, you’re better off just going to jail until your kids are 18.
This post was edited on 1/14/23 at 6:11 am
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:10 am to Alimoneydave
quote:
Primary bread winner by a long shot
Prepare thy anus
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:11 am to Alimoneydave
Just know she will not be out of your life. Divorcing her just gives you less control. She is going to be in your life forever because of the kids. You need to play the tape out bro.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:12 am to Alimoneydave
Also, financial considerations aside, your 8 year old is going to take this hard. Be prepared to get counseling for them if you actually go through with this. My youngest two still struggle and my divorce was relatively drama free.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:23 am to Alimoneydave
If you’re in BR you’re prob not going to have to pay alimony longer than a few months if at all. Child support is a weird formula where they take both of y’all’s income into account. You should be able to calculate it if you google.
My hubby tried to give away the farm to his ex but the judge wouldn’t sign off on it.
My hubby tried to give away the farm to his ex but the judge wouldn’t sign off on it.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:38 am to Alimoneydave
8 pages minimum.
Doesn't everyone? Good luck to you. If it were me I'd switch to text only conversation until everything is settled. Only converse about relevant topics. You two can't be friends, not right now.
quote:
I (male) filed and merely want equal custody and not to be completely screwed financially. Just want to end things as easy as possible and not fight over things.
Doesn't everyone? Good luck to you. If it were me I'd switch to text only conversation until everything is settled. Only converse about relevant topics. You two can't be friends, not right now.
Posted on 1/14/23 at 6:39 am to Alimoneydave
Make sure you have a good lawyer. It's an investment. I paid for a good lawyer and have saved a lot of money in the long run.
Be there for the kids and go to their event. They need to know you care about them.
Do not bad mouth their mother. When they get older, they will respect you for that.
Be there for the kids and go to their event. They need to know you care about them.
Do not bad mouth their mother. When they get older, they will respect you for that.
Page 1 of 5
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News