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re: Complicated marriage/legal question involving finances
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:45 pm to 850SaintsGator
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:45 pm to 850SaintsGator
Both of you are entitled to withdraw money from your joint account for any purpose you or she feels like. You are allowed to have an account in just your name. Nothing illegal or immoral about either.
FWIW, since both accounts mentioned are at the same bank, I would request that your new/personal account be put on restricted access. This way a teller or csr can’t give her any information about the account.
FWIW, since both accounts mentioned are at the same bank, I would request that your new/personal account be put on restricted access. This way a teller or csr can’t give her any information about the account.
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Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:45 pm to 850SaintsGator
This doesn’t sound like it will end well for you, find a lawyer tomorrow
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:46 pm to tiggerthetooth
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Simple question: Is your wife seeing a therapist?
No- she told me early on that she feared they would say she is crazy
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:47 pm to 850SaintsGator
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She currently has the youngest with her
Whoa, how old?
Not to sound repetitive but get a lawyer
Her actions aren’t normal & a young female child doesn’t need to be staying in hotels all over town with a mentally unstable mother
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:47 pm to 850SaintsGator
probably need to protect all money related accounts if you haven't including amazon, credit card online account passwords, etc.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:48 pm to ManyTiger
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I would request that your new/personal account be put on restricted access.
that is a great idea - ill do it tomorrowc
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:48 pm to 850SaintsGator
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She currently has the youngest with her
She is a dv arrest and you are letting her keep one of your kids.
Stand up, be a man, get an attorney and protect your children!!
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:49 pm to 850SaintsGator
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Any thoughts?
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Also, in context- most of this month she has been hotel living bc she says she feels unsafe around me etc - so I’m confident that most of the credit card money is hotel rooms
Railed by l3lacks
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:49 pm to 850SaintsGator
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most of this month she has been hotel living bc she says she feels unsafe around me etc -
Setting up justification for a restraining order (aka leverage in ALL legal proceedings)
Do you own and keep any firearms in the house?
That will likely be used and held against you.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:50 pm to 850SaintsGator
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I don’t think she is doing drugs or illicit stuff
She’s up to no good. Accept that part and move forward.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:52 pm to 850SaintsGator
quote:you need to get her pregnant.
Any thoughts?
Kids fix these kind of speed bumps.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:52 pm to East Coast Band
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Probably has her own individual account you're unaware of.
Friends have suggested that but honestly up until this morning when transferred all of it to me- she had access to a shite ton more than $200 here or $300 there…why not just pull it all at once instead of doing this over 11days or so?
If she had- I’d have been effd
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:52 pm to GeauxGutsy
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She’s up to no good.
Yeah, you don't need cash for much these days unless she's depositing it into a different account she doesn't want him to know about.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:53 pm to 850SaintsGator
She’s pocketing the money because she’s already seeing someone else. She’s sending that money to her own private account. She’s already living at a hotel? She’s not paying for it, trust me. You’re being fricked bro and legal repercussions may or may not come. You have proof she’s moving money and there’s no receipts for bills. This is a bad situation all the way around.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:53 pm to 850SaintsGator
There’s a lot going on here, but I strongly recommend getting detailed credit checks for yourself and her. And pay for a legitimate credit monitoring service. You can even lock your credit from allowing any new loans.
It’s possible she could open credit cards/loans in your name if you cut off the cash access.
It’s possible she could open credit cards/loans in your name if you cut off the cash access.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:54 pm to Rouge
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you need to get her pregnant.
Kids fix these kind of speed bumps.
They are late 40s. Even if that's still biologically possible, frick that
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:57 pm to 850SaintsGator
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I don’t think she is doing drugs or illicit stuff-
What else would one need all that cash for?
Sounds like you are in denial about your marriage crumbling right in font of your face.
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:57 pm to dakarx
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Setting up justification for a restraining order (aka leverage in ALL legal proceedings) Do you own and keep any firearms in the house? That will likely be used and held against you.
So firstly, we don’t have any guns.
But secondly, on Thursday (during the stupid standoff) i suggested me leaving bc I’m way cheaper than $150 a night hotel stays etc…she said, if i did that and came back/ she would get a restraining order on me ???
Now, Im a bigger guy and i probably look intimidating to a court but i have COUNTLESS texts of her verbal/psych abuse (again …all new behaviors) - plus I’ve never threatened or laid a finger on her
Posted on 5/19/24 at 1:58 pm to 850SaintsGator
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I know I’m coming to the correct place- Ok- this has been a really rough 2024 for our family - basically, I’m pretty confident my wife is going through a mental health crisis but she is refusing therapy. I know Baker Act is an option but i feel it’s a last ditch effort- and honestly, it’s effn hard and complicated and unless you have faced it- you wouldn’t know- Ok, moving to my questions- since May 1, my wife has moved about $3k to her visa bank card and $1600 in ATM withdrawals Now, currently we are a single income family (me) - she doesn’t have a job. She has been withdrawing money starting about 10days ago…$200 here …$300 there etc (the $200 seems to be from convenience stores and truck stops) …on Tuesday of this week, after she pulled $300 ($1000 to that point) i asked why is this happening- she says, paying bills (she has been the bill payer). I didnt necessarily believe her but since our marriage has been strained (bc of new odd behaviors including this one) i let it slide but then the next day (Wednesday) she pulled more ($1200 to date). I then sent a text saying…stop pulling money out until we can sit down and discuss. She accused me of being controlling etc but honestly, i don’t care- i just want to know the truth. On Thursday, i decided to open up a separate account and once i got my early direct deposit on Friday, i quickly transferred to my new account (same bank for ease of transfers) She protested etc said it might not be legal etc blah blah - i told her that we will sit down and discuss finances and figure all this out - once we go to therapy (again, emotions are really high) Also, in context- most of this month she has been hotel living bc she says she feels unsafe around me etc - so I’m confident that most of the credit card money is hotel rooms Anyway, i just checked our mutual bank account and she has withdrawn another $400 (total of $1600) So i went ahead and transferred pretty much everything else to my new bank account until we talk about all of this My question to the legal minds- will this cause problems? (Also noted…I don’t think she is doing drugs or illicit stuff- idk the cash money - i think it’s the mental health stuff) Also…we are in our late 40s and this mental stuff is new Any thoughts?
Posted on 5/19/24 at 2:00 pm to 850SaintsGator
She's not going through a mental crisis. She is trying to take whatever she can from you all under the guise of being "afraid" of you. Cut off all finances, tell her to get a job and file for divorce. Show her pattern of behavior and keep records of everything.
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