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Having white friends comes with trauma I'm not willing to deal with anymore
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:47 am
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:47 am
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I can’t take no ‘mo, White People.
I can’t answer any White People demanding an explanation for why something is “racist”. I can’t take anymore White People sending me videos of Black People being murdered without thinking of how it will affect me. I can’t sit through any more arguments for why race “isn’t always a factor”. And I can’t keep ignoring the cowardice silence when it’s time for White People to confront each other about race.
My dad warned me about White People when I was around 7 or 8. He told me that no matter how close I felt to these people, I would always be first and foremost Black in their mind. And at no time could a Black person rely on a White person to put their privilege on the side if it ever becomes a Me vs. Them situation. As a kid, this was, frankly, another one of my dad’s pessimistic, paranoid lectures. Be on the lookout at all times just…in case. And as an outgoing, compassionate human-being his words rolled off my back. But in time I’ve learned that Daddy-o was onto something and the ugly truth is that in one way or another, White friends, largely, just aren’t safe to have.
I really learned this lesson with White Moms. They stunned me the most. Women who have known me through adolescence, fed me and looked out for me at times, let out lashes of vapor that scared me. These maternal figures have always welcomed me into their homes, embraced me warmly, and made me feel part of their limited restriction “we’d rather you do it in the house” households. The privilege of light skin, perhaps, caused me to appear less threatening to them and a respectable dose of home training meant that these experiences with white families seemed pleasant.
These immersions into white vacuums, places where I shrunk as to not take up too much white space, doing so with an unrealized desperation to re-affirm my normality. As if sharing a meal, sleeping in White folks sheets meant that I wasn’t inherently unsavory, despite the re-enforcements from the outside world.
The first of these times, I was visiting my best friend from middle school. My second trip home in Southern California after moving to Atlanta. My friend, her mom, and were chatting in the kitchen. I had already sent my own mother an SOS text to pick me up. We talked about my new life, how I was adjusting so far from the beach, and whether or not I had found a boyfriend down there. And when I said no to the last, her mother leaned across the table and grabbed my forearm reassuringly and said, “At least now you can meet someone of your own kind.”
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:51 am to Wally Sparks
Ignorance on full display.
I blame the internet for giving a voice to people who don't deserve one.
I blame the internet for giving a voice to people who don't deserve one.
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:53 am to FooManChoo
quote:
I blame the internet for giving a voice to people who don't deserve one
Not me.....it exposes people for who they are so the rest of us can ignore them.....win-win
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:56 am to FooManChoo
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Ignorance on full display.
I think it is supposed to be called diversity.
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:57 am to Wally Sparks
I had a really friendly and deferential Black Delta flight attendant on my red eye from Denver this AM and it was wonderful.
I'm so used to them being catty and full of hatred towards a young, handsome, well-dressed, first-class white baw like myself. So much resentment lately!
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:57 am to Wally Sparks
Lol. Sounds like that guy is a product of institutionalized racism by his father
Posted on 7/20/17 at 9:58 am to Wally Sparks
Sounds like someone who thinks about race 24/7 and is so set in their ways that they are exhausted by the thought of someone having a different opinion than them about the topic.
They're burned out on race... and that's bound to happen when it's what you base your entire existence around. Many black people are obsessed with race.
They're burned out on race... and that's bound to happen when it's what you base your entire existence around. Many black people are obsessed with race.
This post was edited on 7/20/17 at 9:59 am
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:00 am to Wally Sparks
It's amazing how many sentences in that are literally hypocritical within the sentence.
I mean the whole "all white people will see you as black first"............makes ya wanna go Hmmmmmm
I mean the whole "all white people will see you as black first"............makes ya wanna go Hmmmmmm
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:01 am to Wally Sparks
Linking idiots like this allows them to take up to much of our white space.
Allow her to suffer in the ignominy of writing for afropunk.com.
Allow her to suffer in the ignominy of writing for afropunk.com.
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:01 am to Wally Sparks
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He told me that no matter how close I felt to these people, I would always be first and foremost Black in their mind.
and yet she wants white people to make her black first and foremost in their minds to respect her subjective experience as a black person
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:07 am to Wally Sparks
and I will forever and foremost be white in her mind.
maybe, just maybe this silliness will pass in some future generation
let's talk about the true substance of a person, those matters which take courage and conviction to develop. This other stuff, foolishness, there are goofy, disreputable scoundrels in all ethnic groups
maybe, just maybe this silliness will pass in some future generation
let's talk about the true substance of a person, those matters which take courage and conviction to develop. This other stuff, foolishness, there are goofy, disreputable scoundrels in all ethnic groups
This post was edited on 7/20/17 at 10:09 am
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:10 am to The Mad Fratter
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Lol. Sounds like that guy is a product of institutionalized racism by his father
Well ... it's either a girl ... or light black Toddy:
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whether or not I had found a boyfriend down there
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:11 am to Wally Sparks
quote:Well, apparently that cuts only one way since "white people" seem to be first and foremost white in her mind.
My dad warned me about White People when I was around 7 or 8. He told me that no matter how close I felt to these people, I would always be first and foremost Black in their mind.
This post was edited on 7/20/17 at 10:12 am
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:12 am to SlowFlowPro
quote:This as well.
and yet she wants white people to make her black first and foremost in their minds to respect her subjective experience as a black person
Does she want to be seen as black or not?
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:14 am to Wally Sparks
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And at no time could a Black person rely on a White person to put their privilege on the side if it ever becomes a Me vs. Them situation
That's any human, ever. In a Me vs Them situation, people will nearly always choose Me.
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:16 am to Wally Sparks
quote:
Having white friends
quote:
moving to Atlanta.
good call.
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:19 am to Wally Sparks
She sounds like the perfect person to sing my parody of "Short People" called "White People".
White People got no reason
White People got no reason
White People got no reason
To live
They got all white hands
And pretty blue eyes
They walk around
Tellin' big white lies
They got pointy white noses
And pearly white teeth
They wear white tennis sneakers
On their nasty white feet
Well, I don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
`Round here
White People are not the same
As you and I
(A Fool ain't I)
White people ain't brothers
Until the day they all die
(Then it'll be a wonderful world)
White People got nobody
White People got nobody
White People got nobody
Who love them
They got ugly white kids
who inherit all their dough
Every white bitch
Is a motherfrickin' ho
We drive big Cadillacs
That go BEEP, BEEP, BEEP
They drive little Honda Civics
That go peep, peep, peep
They got grubby white fingers
And dirty white minds
They're gonna get us n****rs every time
Well, I don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
'Round here
White People got no reason
White People got no reason
White People got no reason
To live
They got all white hands
And pretty blue eyes
They walk around
Tellin' big white lies
They got pointy white noses
And pearly white teeth
They wear white tennis sneakers
On their nasty white feet
Well, I don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
`Round here
White People are not the same
As you and I
(A Fool ain't I)
White people ain't brothers
Until the day they all die
(Then it'll be a wonderful world)
White People got nobody
White People got nobody
White People got nobody
Who love them
They got ugly white kids
who inherit all their dough
Every white bitch
Is a motherfrickin' ho
We drive big Cadillacs
That go BEEP, BEEP, BEEP
They drive little Honda Civics
That go peep, peep, peep
They got grubby white fingers
And dirty white minds
They're gonna get us n****rs every time
Well, I don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
Don't want no White People
'Round here
Posted on 7/20/17 at 10:20 am to Wally Sparks
I'm glad to see that the cards are on the table.
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