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re: Collecting child support: Hire lawyer to set up or go with La. Social Services?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:30 pm to OogumBoogum
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:30 pm to OogumBoogum
quote:
I've paid my lawyer an arm and a leg -- the case stretched on for 2 years before it went to trial.
More extended litigation with him is doable but painful.
Out of curiosity, about how much did you pay.
My wifes cousin paid over $50k, while her ex only paid $20k. It drug on for nearly two years, also.
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Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:33 pm to East Coast Band
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My wifes cousin paid over $50k,
lucky stiff, I'm well into six figures, been divorced for eleven years and still going to court, just got notice today of an upcoming hearing in April
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:34 pm to Geauxtiga
quote:a lot of wisdom right there, plus she can't get consideration for custody until she pays up all of the child support. I know someone who didn't know he had a kid until the kid was almost a teen. He would have to pay over a decade of child support to get custody, which he likely would.
Man if I'm in your situation and have the kid, I'm not risking going back to court for money. You have the big prize, don't phuck around and end up worse off.
This post was edited on 2/25/15 at 8:37 pm
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:36 pm to 777Tiger
You still have minor kids?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:37 pm to 777Tiger
quote:
well into six figures
this...
I hoped the judge would award legal fees, because maybe that would have sunk in. I really believe she thinks all of this is some sort of a game, like it doesn't have a long term effect on our daughter or me. It is almost like she likes court.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:38 pm to touchdownjeebus
and not to pile on or anything, but there were no red flags she may be like this before you got married?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:39 pm to 777Tiger
I see. That makes sense
And I have a friend that's spent over a million dollars fighting the grandparents
And I have a friend that's spent over a million dollars fighting the grandparents
This post was edited on 2/25/15 at 8:43 pm
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:41 pm to boosiebadazz
Oh there were plenty, but when she got pregnant, I made the decision to step up and do whatever I could to make sure I was included in my daughter's life. There is no doubt in my mind that I made the right choice by marrying her, because had I not, there is no way she would have allowed me to have a relationship with my child. If you think it's tough getting parental rights as a divorced dad, try doing it as an unmarried dad.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:42 pm to boosiebadazz
quote:If they say otherwise, they are lying....
and not to pile on or anything, but there were no red flags she may be like this before you got married?
but on the other hand i've never been in a relationship with a female that didn't throw off the typical red flags. Although I didn't marry them or have children with them either.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:43 pm to touchdownjeebus
Fair enough. I just always wonder what comes before these crazy custody situations.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:44 pm to touchdownjeebus
quote:So you are saying you got into a marriage contract with a woman that you didn't want to marry and the ONLY reason you did was to make it easier for parental rights?
There is no doubt in my mind that I made the right choice by marrying her, because had I not, there is no way she would have allowed me to have a relationship with my child.
You aren't the smartest cat in the shelter are you?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:45 pm to touchdownjeebus
Man y'all married some fricked up people. I know without a shadow of a doubt that no matter what would ever happen between my wife and I our daughter would never be an issue. And believe it or not just knowing that is worth it.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:47 pm to SuperSaint
I got into the situation with the hope that things would be okay for my child. It was obvious that it was a bad situation to begin with, but I was going to try. Yes, I did it for my child, and I do not regret that choice. Say what you want, but I endured a ton of really bad stuff at the hands of my ex wife, and I would do it all again if I knew the outcome would be sole custody of my little girl.
Of course I would have preferred she act sane and normal, and we co-parent. That was not the case...
Of course I would have preferred she act sane and normal, and we co-parent. That was not the case...
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:48 pm to touchdownjeebus
How long were y'all together before she got pregnant?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:50 pm to touchdownjeebus
No way i'm going to get into a relationship with someone, much less a contract of marriage with someone that I don't think is sane.
No way that is healthy for the child. I'd have taken my time and money and went about parental rights like a normal person and not enter into a contract hoping things would miraculously change.
No way that is healthy for the child. I'd have taken my time and money and went about parental rights like a normal person and not enter into a contract hoping things would miraculously change.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:51 pm to boosiebadazz
It was off and on. I was always out of the country, so it was more or less a thing of convenience. I would come home, we would do whatever we would do, then I would leave. I never meant it to be anything serious. I let her stay at my home because I was never there. She took advantage of the situation, as did I. I flew her out one weekend before taking off, and we made a baby...
The rest is a short marriage, and a long court fight, filled with more grim details than I care to rehash.
tl;dr I made bad choices, made a baby, did everything I could to be decent, eventually got custody.
The rest is a short marriage, and a long court fight, filled with more grim details than I care to rehash.
tl;dr I made bad choices, made a baby, did everything I could to be decent, eventually got custody.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:53 pm to touchdownjeebus
Well kudos to you for doing the right thing by your daughter.
Way too many kids growing up without fathers today.
Way too many kids growing up without fathers today.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:53 pm to SuperSaint
I didn't think things would miraculously change. I hoped they would, but I knew better.
Hey man, God bless you. I made the choices I made, and stepped up to the plate. Eventually it all led to sole custody, and I am just trying to create an environment where my daughter can have a decent relationship with her mother, while mitigating any damage that her mother can cause.
Hey man, God bless you. I made the choices I made, and stepped up to the plate. Eventually it all led to sole custody, and I am just trying to create an environment where my daughter can have a decent relationship with her mother, while mitigating any damage that her mother can cause.
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:53 pm to OogumBoogum
How do you guys keep getting yourselves in this situation?
Posted on 2/25/15 at 8:55 pm to OogumBoogum
walk away and don't look back
there are many many men who would trade places with you in a second, child support or no
you are the provider, not your crazy ex. Make the best possible life for you and your child within the means you can afford
you don't need the hassle that will come with the money. Move on
there are many many men who would trade places with you in a second, child support or no
you are the provider, not your crazy ex. Make the best possible life for you and your child within the means you can afford
you don't need the hassle that will come with the money. Move on
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