Regarding females who want "dat arse" smacked... How hard?

50 shades

I'm also interested. Can't count how many times I've nearly ruined the moment with my SO. Gotta focus and be all in or you'll think too much and your mechanics will break down.

SO: "hit me baby."

Me(in my head): "Here it comes baby."

I either nail the landing, or lock in on my target, and BAM!....halfway miss. Or don't make even contact and instead of that nice/sexy smack sound, I get the "thud" as I basically punched her arse. Or worse of all I square her up too well and smack her right in the fricking crack. Take that, a-hole!

Needless to say, my arse smacking game isn't very strong.

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Start medium. If she says "harder" hit harder

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Never go below medium. Not a good feeling when your girl takes a break to laugh historically because you go for a smack but lightly high-five her arse instead.

Hard enough to make a noise, not so hard that it wakes her up.

Go for loud smack sound and a sharp sting...

Keepin it trill. I like.

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If it ain't bruising it ain't using is what mama always said...what's your take?

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true. your mom always screams harder harder!! and she hates being called her stage name fyi.

If a woman has to ask you to spank her, you are starting off behind the 8 ball. She is looking to be dominated and having to tell her partner what to do is the exact opposite. You should be initiating the discipline because either you desire it or she deserves it for something she did.

Go on Amazon and buy a nice paddle and riding crop. You don't have to get the top of the line stuff but don't cheap out either. You'll know what's good by the ratings and the reviews. Maybe pick up a set of thigh cuffs too. Don't let her know you've got this stuff.

The next time you get the feeling that she's open to being spanked, take the initiative and start with your palm. You need to come up with some dialogue too. Tell her why you're disciplining her. A good one to use is that she's been a brat lately and have some specific instances in mind. Brat is good because it's not a really negative word and it's playful.

Concentrate more on where you are spanking her than how hard. It's tough to overdo it in the right areas, especially with your hand. Tell her to let you know if it's too hard for her to take. The weakness should always be on her, not you. And don't ask her if it's too hard or whatever-let her tell you. She's being disciplined and she's not supposed to be enjoying it (but she probably is)!

If things are going well, break out the paddle. Save the other things for the next session-you always want to have some surprise for her. When it's over, be sure to tell her that she did well, etc. I guarantee that she will check her butt out in a mirror when you're through and she'll want to see some redness.

One day whilst shopping at the 5 and dime I saw this pretty young lady who was real, real fine. I approached her and was like "ehhhm, excuse me mam". She pulled down her pants and said "splack dees hams"

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50 shades

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I'm already sick of the stupid that's going to be created by that movie.
BDSM soccer moms SMH