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Veteran's: Make Sure You Get Help
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:24 pm
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:24 pm
So I got a terrible phone call when I was on my lunch break and it fricked me up pretty good. Apparently a dude from my Intel team in Iraq committed suicide last Friday. I know that he was recently divorced and I know that he (and I have PTSD) and I think the divorce coupled with his demons proved to be too much.
I'm not going to go into detail on what happened... but I'll just say he didn't take a bunch of pills...
I know people hear about this shite all the time and that there are plenty of resources available to help with this kind of shite... I know from personal experience that it's not always that easy to pick-up a phone and say, "I need help" especially with people who've not done/seen what you have.
The VA does have a lot of really great programs that I reach out to from time to time to share my feelings with fellow veteran's and it seems to help... That said, I know where I'll be tomorrow morning
He was a diehard Cubs fan, really great at his job and lived for the Army. I can't help but think while the onus was on him to reach out... Not all military guys are eager to "share feelings"... I'm hoping that while I know many of you on the board have friends and family in the service or served yourself, try to make a special effort to make sure they're not falling off the world.
He lived in a Chicago suburb... he was 41.
I'm not going to go into detail on what happened... but I'll just say he didn't take a bunch of pills...
I know people hear about this shite all the time and that there are plenty of resources available to help with this kind of shite... I know from personal experience that it's not always that easy to pick-up a phone and say, "I need help" especially with people who've not done/seen what you have.
The VA does have a lot of really great programs that I reach out to from time to time to share my feelings with fellow veteran's and it seems to help... That said, I know where I'll be tomorrow morning
He was a diehard Cubs fan, really great at his job and lived for the Army. I can't help but think while the onus was on him to reach out... Not all military guys are eager to "share feelings"... I'm hoping that while I know many of you on the board have friends and family in the service or served yourself, try to make a special effort to make sure they're not falling off the world.
He lived in a Chicago suburb... he was 41.
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Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:26 pm to yankeeundercover
Sad man. I did a few Afghanistan deployments myself and it seems like if you are around it long enough everyone will be affected by something like this in some way. It really is a tragedy. Sorry for your loss.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:28 pm to td01241
Very sorry for your loss Yankee...
PTSD is real
Thank you for your service
PTSD is real
Thank you for your service
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:30 pm to yankeeundercover
Yankee, I'm sorry for your loss. Good on you for helping other veterans. You and your friends family will be in my thoughts.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:30 pm to yankeeundercover
RIP Warrior. You gave it all you had.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:32 pm to yankeeundercover
Sorry, man.
Just started EMDR treatments.
Just started EMDR treatments.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:33 pm to yankeeundercover
Damn shame. I'm curious, once you get back from Irag, Afghanistan, etc. does the military have any follow up with you? Do they check on you at all?
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:36 pm to The Mick
I can't speak for others but both times I got back i went to a base for a few days and did all sorts of medical appointments, clerical appointments, etc. One of those including talking to a military mental health doctor.
This post was edited on 1/27/15 at 2:37 pm
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:37 pm to slutiger5
Damn! Sorry for your loss, man.
My Father-in-law was a Vietnam veteran and a great guy. He showed some signs of PTSD as he got a little older and didn't get help for it.
Couple years ago, he took out the trash, picked up my MIL's prescriptions for her, drove to a park and shot himself.
Not a day goes by that I don't wish we'd have recognized the signs and gotten him some help.
PTSD is no joke. Best wishes and support to any vets who are struggling with this terrible condition.
My Father-in-law was a Vietnam veteran and a great guy. He showed some signs of PTSD as he got a little older and didn't get help for it.
Couple years ago, he took out the trash, picked up my MIL's prescriptions for her, drove to a park and shot himself.
Not a day goes by that I don't wish we'd have recognized the signs and gotten him some help.
PTSD is no joke. Best wishes and support to any vets who are struggling with this terrible condition.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:37 pm to yankeeundercover
sorry to hear that man
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:39 pm to td01241
quote:That was immediately upon your return?
One of those including talking to a military mental health doctor.
What about a month or a few months after, is there any follow up from the military (maybe a call or home visit)?
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:40 pm to The Mick
It's been a few years but if i recall correctly they did call a few times, you are also on tri care for a year for free (idk if it is still like that) so if you want to make your own appointments privately you could.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:41 pm to The Mick
I hate to hear things like that...
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:42 pm to yankeeundercover
Sorry for your loss
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:42 pm to td01241
Gotcha 
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:43 pm to yankeeundercover
Sorry to hear that Yankee.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:44 pm to yankeeundercover
I lost a guy to this a little over a year ago. I hadn't seen him in a while, but anyone who went to war with me is my brother or sister.
GREAT human being. Just so sad. Left a widow and young kids, too. He had multiple deployments as well. He was a great calming influence - one of those quiet confidence NCOs.
GREAT human being. Just so sad. Left a widow and young kids, too. He had multiple deployments as well. He was a great calming influence - one of those quiet confidence NCOs.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:46 pm to The Mick
quote:
I'm curious, once you get back from Irag, Afghanistan, etc. does the military have any follow up with you? Do they check on you at all?
They do all sorts of screenings and whatnot. But the last thing you want to do when you get home is sit around and talk to a bunch of military doctors and counselors. We're conditioned to being tough and unstoppable. We check the boxes "everything is fine" and get home ASAFP. The people close to you should, normally, be the first people who are alerted that something is wrong.
But, then you get lots of false positives because everybody is usually at least a little different after a deployment. So, that can be misinterpreted.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:50 pm to Ace Midnight
Exactly. Check the "I'm fine" box and then move out and draw fire.
Posted on 1/27/15 at 2:52 pm to yankeeundercover
You do all you can to keep it together and the other "life shite" starts to come in... Divorce, job loss, etc and you've been keeping yourself together forever and something's gotta give.
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