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re: I need some honest relationship advice
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:22 am to BugaPainTrain7
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:22 am to BugaPainTrain7
I'd move on from her. My now husband and I were long distance for the first 3 years of our relationship. I did anything I could to come home as much as possible to be with him, so if she's canceling plans and being wishy washy about meeting up then she's not the one for you.
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Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:23 am to BugaPainTrain7
Give her herpes. My ex has some if you want
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:24 am to lsunurse
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One of my biggest regrets was that I never got to have that true college experience of being young and single. I didn't get to date in college and just have fun. Instead I was tied down and putting way more energy into a relationship than I should have.
THIS!!!
Only it wasn't 9 years.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:40 am to KosmoCramer
Solid graph
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:45 am to BugaPainTrain7
She's stringing you along. Don't let her. Be frank with her and tell her she either commits to you in full or she should stop saying those sorts of things to you.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:57 am to BugaPainTrain7
Beta
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:58 am to Cdawg
...no
Posted on 11/26/14 at 12:58 am to BugaPainTrain7
Someone finally called me a Beta. Go frick yourself beta.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 1:00 am to BugaPainTrain7
Bro, I did the long distance thing as well in my twenties. It sucks. You're in college and shouldn't deal with that shite. There are literally thousands of women around you every day. Cut her loose, she's simply holding on but doesn't want it. Seriously, get it over with. Enjoy yourself.
Eta: FTR, your post does sound pretty beta, but you dont know any better.
I'm 30, just beyond your age, cut her loose.
Eta: FTR, your post does sound pretty beta, but you dont know any better.
I'm 30, just beyond your age, cut her loose.
This post was edited on 11/26/14 at 1:01 am
Posted on 11/26/14 at 7:32 am to donRANDOMnumbers
You two had a set of rules that you had agreed to. Geography forced her to change the rules. She is living by the new rules and you are living by the old.
You need to date other people too. You do not have to dump her or treat her badly. She does not tell you about all of her dates and you should not tell her about all of yours. Full disclosure on either of your parts would cause hurt feelings.
I guess she is your high school GF and first, and only, sexual partner. This is why your feelings are getting hurt. Date more. You will be surprised how good life is with a little variety.
Prepare yourself to find that a lot of the women you will start dating are better in bed, mind, body and spirit than your current GF. Your limited access to Vitamin P is skewing your vision.
In the meantime, see her and talk to her whenever convenient. Just don't be so sold on the idea of growing old with her. You are 19. Things have a way of working themselves out if you take the proper steps.
School is priority. Your life, with whoever you choose to spend it, will be affected by your education now.
Have fun.
You need to date other people too. You do not have to dump her or treat her badly. She does not tell you about all of her dates and you should not tell her about all of yours. Full disclosure on either of your parts would cause hurt feelings.
I guess she is your high school GF and first, and only, sexual partner. This is why your feelings are getting hurt. Date more. You will be surprised how good life is with a little variety.
Prepare yourself to find that a lot of the women you will start dating are better in bed, mind, body and spirit than your current GF. Your limited access to Vitamin P is skewing your vision.
In the meantime, see her and talk to her whenever convenient. Just don't be so sold on the idea of growing old with her. You are 19. Things have a way of working themselves out if you take the proper steps.
School is priority. Your life, with whoever you choose to spend it, will be affected by your education now.
Have fun.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 7:50 am to BugaPainTrain7
This is a woman who doesn't know what she wants. You need to issue an ultimatum. Either she commit fully to the long distance thing and remain faithful, or you break her loose and start dating other people in earnest. You need to stand up for yourself in this. She's wishy-washy because YOU are. She has no confidence and wants to rely on YOUR confidence to know if this can work. She clearly has commitment and abandonment issues as she cries her eyes out when you're not there, but is distant when you are there. This is because she's just as scared of being alone as she is of being trapped. Show that you are supremely confident that this relationship can work as long as SHE does her part, but also show that you are confident in your ability to stand on your own if she can't.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 7:51 am to BugaPainTrain7
how old are you? College or working? If you say college then you shouldn't be in a relationship anyway, that is the worst time to be in one.
ETA: just saw you're 19 and in college....dump her arse fa sho
ETA: just saw you're 19 and in college....dump her arse fa sho
This post was edited on 11/26/14 at 7:54 am
Posted on 11/26/14 at 7:53 am to BugaPainTrain7
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For example I was going to goto the Egg Bowl win her this weekend she begged me to come up so we could be together the overnight she changed her mind and now we aren't even talking again...
There is more to this than a simple overnight change of mind with no reason. Either you pushed her too hard or became overbearing during some conversations leading up to this (you have to look at it honestly) OR she got a better offer, i.e. some guy she wants to frick more than you called her.
So, you're still going up to the game anyway, with a friend? I'd bet there is about a 99.8356% chance you "accidentally" run into her. So, when you see her with this other guy, what are you going to do? Approach her? Or run the other way so she doesn't see you and think you're checking up on her?
Anyway, this thread reminded me of that thread a couple months back where the guy was going to visit his ex with her best friend during Austin City Limits. Did that guy ever report back about his "actions" during that weekend?
Posted on 11/26/14 at 7:59 am to BugaPainTrain7
The serious advice you received in this thread has been sound. You can't let someone determine your personal happiness or lack thereof. You currently have a situation that is making you miserable (impacting focus, school, fun, etc.) with no real prospects of resolution. I think you know what you need to do
to turn this around, especially a situation where the person that you desire runs hot and cold (likely do inconsistencies in her social plans in Mississippi).
You are 19 - been there. The best thing you can do is get out of neutral, move on and if somehow it is meant to be, it will work out. Chances are it won't and you will be the guy years from now with a great wife, family and life because you took responsibility for your own happiness.
to turn this around, especially a situation where the person that you desire runs hot and cold (likely do inconsistencies in her social plans in Mississippi).
You are 19 - been there. The best thing you can do is get out of neutral, move on and if somehow it is meant to be, it will work out. Chances are it won't and you will be the guy years from now with a great wife, family and life because you took responsibility for your own happiness.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 7:59 am to BugaPainTrain7
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I know all women are insane but can someone help me out here this biotch has got me confused as hell
I haven't read the thread, so I don't know if any good advice has been given, but in all seriousness, for me it comes down to pretty simple things. Like if she wanted to be committed fully to you and loved you enough, then she would. So the fact that she won't tells you all you need to know. I'd have a serious talk with her about what you want (and more importantly, what you need), and if she can't commit to that and meet you there, then she's not for you and you're wasting your time.
Long distance relationships SUCK arse, but they can work if both people are committed to making it happen. Based on what you said in the OP, it doesn's seem like she's willing to do that. So I'd give her a chance to, and then walk if she doesn't.
If this chick is driving you crazy with all this flipping and flopping back and forth because one day she's happy and the next day she's not, then you need to move on.
Nobody's happiness is worth your misery. Nobody's.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 7:59 am to BugaPainTrain7
You want advice on how to handle a girl that obviously is just some dependent chick? You get BBDed every time she has a more attractive alternative for her gratification.
Here is what you do, get about three of those crazies going...cycle through a group of em about every year....learn to hate everything about them.....then one day marry the chick that doesn't remind you of any girl you have ever hung around with.
I did it just right, then married one too early. Had to get a do over.
Here is what you do, get about three of those crazies going...cycle through a group of em about every year....learn to hate everything about them.....then one day marry the chick that doesn't remind you of any girl you have ever hung around with.
I did it just right, then married one too early. Had to get a do over.
This post was edited on 11/26/14 at 8:00 am
Posted on 11/26/14 at 8:26 am to BugaPainTrain7
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Yeah you're probably right...thank you for the advice...I'll keep it in mind...thanks everyone for their advice I really appreciate it
Yes, go to the game if you have other people to hang with and don't call her. She needs freedom right now.
If you think it would be better for your mind, don't go and don't call.
There's so much pressure on people to stay single until you're 30. Culture, parents, friends -- everybody is pressuring her to gain freedom and not get tied down.
I guess this is a good thing because you know how everybody in the South traditionally gets married when they are in their teens.
So, let her experience freedom. Let be free to decide what to do with her dating life, her virginity . . . everything ! She knows that once she becomes a wife and Mom that freedom is gone and the commitments of life obligate her with a heavy weight of responsibility.
She deserves to have some fun before becoming a wife and Mom. You don't need to be afraid of that.
She's not leaving Planet Earth, so, she will be around later.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 8:26 am to BugaPainTrain7
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So don't wait on her and do what I want...
YES! I'm just an old guy that went through the same kind of shite in college. Turned down so much pussy during that time I'm still kicking myself. And for what? A whole lot of unnecessary heartache and wasted years on the bitch.
MOVE ON and have all the fun you can! The right woman will come along. I know it's tough, but life is too short to worry yourself over this kind of stuff.
Go to the Egg Bowl - take a date - have FUN with her.
That's all I got.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 9:00 am to BugaPainTrain7
Make plans one wknd and suddenly stop talking to her 3 days before. Women want a man who will not take any of our shite. She needs a good dose of her own medicine.
Posted on 11/26/14 at 9:01 am to BayouBandit24
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All joking aside, I know that you do not want to hear this and will probably not listen... You are too young to be worried over something like this, and you need to just end the relationship. I know how it seems man, I too once thought at 19 that my then girlfriend was going to be the one. There's like a 95% chance that is not going to be the case. You should be out enjoying college right now without having to worry. She doesn't know what she wants, and is behaving selfishly. She wants all of the benefits of being single, but still wants to have you there if something goes wrong in her conquest. Never settle for being somebody's fall back plan. You hanging around is only going to lead to you getting your emotions stomped on, trust me there's not really many positives, if any, that can come out of your current situation.
The fact that y'all are long distance is actually a blessing, because it will be easier to finally the cut the chord. I know it will be extremely difficult for you, but I promise it is likely the best decision. If somehow down the line things work out, then that's awesome but don't plan on that happening. Best of luck.
This is sage advice. The only thing I will add is that if you do not end it now you will end up regretting wasting some of your college years on this relationship.
I also had a girlfriend out of high school when I went off to college (wow, so many years ago). Broke up my sophomore year and kinda screwed me up for a couple of months. Looking back it was the best thing that happened. I had so much fun once I was untethered from a relationship. I actually now resent having had a girlfriend at all while in college. Best advice I can give a young man is to break up with your girlfriend the day you graduate high school. You need to head off to college solo in order to get the full experience.
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