Parenting, Ego & Relinquishing The Illusion Of Control...

Here's my premise, based on having three tremendously good little human beings as children , my beloved Surly, Angry and Befuddled. I will accomplish this through capitalizing random letters and words in a manner that will infuriate 53.7% of you.

The key to being an effective parent and raising kids who are well-adjusted, happy and successful is TO RELINQUISH THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL.

Some of the worst parents are the ones who operate under the assumption that they can CONTROL their children and achieve the desired results via control. Short term this works. But this will very often result in achieving the exact opposite over the long-term.

The correct approach is to create an environment where children can have maximum personal freedom, where they are allowed to make mistakes without Draconian consequences, think and express themselves freely, and be allowed to reject or embrace their own philosophy on life themselves. This depends on having a mother and father who consistently provide a warm and understanding environment and set a good example on a daily basis.

By relinquishing the egoistic idea that you can effect LASTING ( the key word here) results through Control, and allowing them to experience cause and effect on their own, you give them the best chance at a happy successful life.

Half of parenting imho is deciding that you will not damage your own children through your own deficiencies and biases, but rather put your ego away and just RELENTLESSLY LOVE AND RESPECT YOUR KIDS as they figure things out on their own.

Ok, now tell me why I'm full of shite...tldr, etc...