Obviously the Ray Rice domestic violence situation is a huge topic right now and has largely overshadowed almost anything else in sports, including the start of the NFL season. We have heard all the opinions on what should happen to Ray Rice and even what should happen to Roger Goodell. However, I want to approach this whole subject from a different perspective. It is my opinion that we are not having the discussion about domestic violence that we should be having and since it is such a relevant topic right now we need to have a hard honest conversation as a society about all domestic violence.

When we hear about domestic violence, what is the typical scenario? The typical scenario of course is a man beating a woman, typically his wife or girlfriend. With that said, what about domestic violence against men? Many studies have been concluded that domestic violence against men is one of the most underreported crimes in the country and that it is far more common than our society wants to believe. Simply put, just like we care about women's right far more than about men's rights, we only care about domestic violence when it is the women who is the victim. Why is this right?

Now many would say that men should come forward if they are a victim. We all know of course what the problem is, our society. When a woman is a victim of this horrible crime we rally around her and support her, when a man is a victim what do we do. We laugh at him, question his manhood and even worse, don't take it seriously. Both men and women are guilty of this. Just like many female rape victims don't say anything because they are ashamed, many male domestic violence victims don't say anything out of fear of how they'll be looked at. Why is this fair? Why do we accept this?

Lets look at a scenario and lets see how you all respond. Lets say a man reports that he was the victim of domestic violence by his girlfriend, who just happens to be a WNBA star or member of the US Women's Soccer team, or a Tennis star, whatever. Video comes out of this women beating and knocking her boyfriend out cold. Essentially the same thing as the Ray Rice situation, but simply reversing the genders. If this scenario happens, does it become a huge deal? Does it even make the news? My guess is it doesn't, or if it does it's easily swept under the rug and somehow it's made out to be the guy's fault, which to me is a very sad commentary on our society.

And this all goes back to how women manipulate our society. How many years now have the militant feminists and other women's rights groups roared out "I can do anything a man can do" or "anything a man can do a woman can do better" or "I don't need a man for anything." Yet when it fits them they want to go right back to the way it was in the 50s. They don't want the test for the marines to be as difficult for them as it is for men. They still want men to pay the whole bill for the first date. They want society to believe that domestic violence only happens against women. They want to keep those benefits but yet still be treated equal, they want it both ways.

So how can we even think we're having a serious discussion on domestic violence when we don't even recognize that men can just as easily be a victim of domestic violence as a women. When will we realize that we are ignoring the cries for help from the victims of an entire gender. I consider myself an average man, but I know women who do triathlons, women who do cross fit and kick boxing, women who work out regularly. Many of these women could probably kick my a** if they wanted to. Yet if one of these women were to attack me and I hit them back in self defense, we all know who the cops are going to arrest. We all know who is going to be portrayed as the criminal and who will be portrayed as the victim. This is the problem with our society on this issue and until we address this bias and this inequality we can not hope to have a serious discussion on domestic violence.

What do you all think? I'd be particularly interested to hear women's perspectives on this.