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Sometimes I think I settle for TigerDroppings because browsing reddit feels like eye cancer.

Poor bastards on the other end of those folks. I literally never want to be in a position where i am saying something like that. Maybe people should stop treating dating like a game, and stop treating marriage like a theatrical romance.

I feel sorry for the poor bastards involved with a woman because they make them feel "safe".


Because they cheat on them with their exes and those poor schlubs have no idea.

One more piece of evidence that proves my theory that women are cants

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99% of women are literal whores.

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Every woman is a whore, except for my mother.

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Every woman is a whore, except for my mother.

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And she's a prime suspect....

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women are only genuinely attracted to 10-15% of men


the rest are being used in some form - typically for their resources

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That stat sounds made up fwiw. I can't even begin to guess how very arbitrary their "stat gathering" was. I think no one is genuinely always attracted to their partner all day everyday all the time for their entire lives regardless of their level of attractiveness. So when that poll was taken, every response could be different now, or different from moment to moment. Therefore, why even spout out such a negative stat? You trying to make cynics out of people?

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I'll try to condense everything as best I can so this post isn't too long... Back in 2012, my wife had a friend that came over while I was at work all the time. I warned her against this, but she didn't listen. Long story short here, he ended up raping her. In the months following the rape, she acted out by sleeping with 2 other men, one only one time, the other many times over the course of a few months(we'll call him 'X'). I found out about this, and we went to counseling to try and work through it all. For the most part, I do trust her, but I still have problems at times. She keeps wanting to chat with the man she slept with many times as well as the 1 night stand. I've told her many times that, while not happy about it, I won't complain too much about her talking to the 1 night stand guy, but I'd prefer her to NOT talk to X. Over the past few years, she'll end up chatting with X and I find out either by her telling me, or I randomly snoop and find chat logs. EVERY time this comes to light, it causes my mistrust to skyrocket and we hve problems for weeks on end between each other. Frequently, these times I know about will be either discussing our relationship or even some moderate flirting. She even talked with him about how she KNEW the affair with X would eventually happen as they almost got together while she was married to her former husband(whom was abusive and I rescued her from, BTW). She's seeing some online counselor(can't afford to goto an in-person one right now), and he has told her to change all her passwords and such so I cannot snoop into her chats anymore. For awhile, I have accepted this and was actually doing better on my end. About a week ago, she lets me know she's talking to X again. I have no idea for how long. Just yesterday(8/3/15), she was in the other room when an alarm on her phone went off. I went ahead and turned it off for her, and for some reason it completely unlocked her phone. Curiosity got the better of me and I tried to look at her conversations with X. In what little I did get to read, she was chatting with X about our relationship problems and basically belittling me in the process. She comes in and sees me on her phone and immediately takes it back. I explained what had happened to give me access to her phone, and asked her nicely if I could read the rest of the conversation so as to avoid me taking stuff out of context. She tells me she wants to ask her counselor if it'd be alright and that he had already scolded her for talking about our relationship stuff to ANYONE else. Her counselor tells her(just posting the relevant bit as he goes on about trial separation and such after this) "Tell him he needs to drop it. It isn't going to do either of you any good. It just feeds his desire not to trust you and invades your individual privacy." First of all, the ONLY times in the past year or so I've had trust issues with her is when X comes into the picture. Secondly, it feels to me that NOT showing me the entire onversation history feeds my mistrust in her more than reading it would. By not letting me read it, it makes it feel like there's something she's hiding. Things that she KNOWS would upset me even more than I already am. Am I in the wrong here? Even if they weren't chatting about relationship stuff and/or flirting, I feel like she just completely disregards my feelings on the matterI'll try to condense everything as best I can so this post isn't too long...
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A little backstory - we have been married almost 3 years, no kids. My wife and I have always had a pretty good relationship, other than standard little things and a few money issues as of late. She has not been working for the last year. The house is in my name, and basically everything is mine. She has a lot of guy friends, and I am fine with all of them, except for one guy. The one guy (who has a girlfriend) is older, and really sorta ratty. She knew him from her old job. I remember a year or so ago, I flew back from out of town - and went out to meet her and her co-workers. I came into the room and this guy and my wife were sitting REALLY close together. I came in, went to the bar quick, and went over to where they were sitting - and the guy had moved seats quick. I think, whatever.. he is just a nerdy dude looking for friends. So I just wrote it off as a 'whatever'. Needless to say, my wife lost her job - and about three months ago my wife says she is out with some girlfriends. We stay in contact, and at about 2 am, she says she is wasted and crashing at her girlfriend's house. I say sure. no problem! The next morning she comes home and admits that she met that guy downtown - he is a facebook friend and it was his birthday and he was home alone - they hung out, she got drunk, and crashed on his couch. She volunteered this information. I was not happy about it, but glad she came clean. A few weeks after that my wife says she is crashing at another girlfriend's house to do a job. Im fine with it, and am not suspicious. A few weeks after that this guy comes to hang out at our place.. we are chatting, etc.. and he mentions hanging out with my wife at this girlfriend's house. Im thinking -why would she not tell me? Later I ask her. She admits it, and also admits to going to lunch with him a few times over the last few weeks. I tell her that I am not happy with her lying to me about this - and I would like for her to cool it with hanging out with this guy, and I think that he is a sneaky sh!t. She apologizes, but says she wants him as a friend. I warn her that she needs to be careful. Fast forward. They have hung out a few times, he has even come over to my place a couple of times. He seems okay, but Im still uneasy. A couple of weeks ago my wife went to a girlfriend's birthday party and crashed at her place. This Monday she went out with this guy for happy hour - she said she was also meeting a girlfriend - I had other plans. She did not get home until well after 2am. I was home and awake - I had also checked the phone logs and saw that she was spending an unusual amount of time texting this guy. (maybe I was late in doing this research) She pulled into the driveway and sat there for a while. Like, in the driveway for 10 minutes with the car off. I lay in bed and pretend I am sleeping. She gets into bed and immediately passes out. I grab her phone. Its got a code on it - this is new. I punch in a few numbers, and then punch in her birthday. viola. its unlocked. I go to read the texts to and from this guy. It appears she has deleted all of his texts prior to a month ago. Scrolling through the texts, most of it is just jibber jabber.. but there are quite a few texts where he says he misses her, and she says the same - has some xoxoxo hugs and kisses, etc. One of the texts is a picture of a singer with an orgasmic facial expression.. The singer looks like my wife, and the guy says "she looks like you, i recognize that expression' I keep looking, and find some texts from the night she went to her friend's birthday party. Needless to say at 1am she invited him to the party. The conversation basically went like this: him: I sure do have blueballs her: you should come to this party at X house him: okay, Ill see you soon Then texts from the next morning: her: thanks for not making me bleed him: I made a video for you thinking about last night. then back to regular chit chat. I find it strange that she didnt give him directions, and there was no address exchanged, etc. At this point, I want to throw up and I put the phone back under her pillow. I feel really sick that I didnt notice the red flags earlier, and now it seems like she screwed the guy. I slept on the couch that night. I told her yesterday that I think she is having an affair with this guy, she said I was crazy and that he is just a friend. I told her that I dont want her to hang out with him any more. She said she wouldnt hang out with him, but she is mad at me for being jealous and will sleep in the spare room for a while until she 'thinks about things' She didnt text him until last night at around 1am - multiple times.. What is the best way to confront with this evidence? It sure seems damning to me... She will get mad at me for snooping, but I dont care at this point. Please help!! I made screenshots, and I can print this stuff out. Should I just say 'look b!tch, I know you are cheating, here is the evidence, get out!' I love her like crazy, and our relationship has been great.. but now I feel sick

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That forum desperately needs the O-T in its life.