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I left my ex after he showed his true colors.

I'm a 38 year old childfree woman. I have a great career, a loving boyfriend (31) , great pets and friends. I have never, ever wanted kids. Five years ago, I ended a relationship with a man named Jason (name changed) who, I thought wanted the same things that I did.

We had been together for 2 years in 2015. We'd travel together, read comics, play video games and do all kinds of fun things. I had always been honest with Jason that I never wanted kids. He told me he didn't either. Then, in the summer of that year, I began to notice changes in him. He would talk about how great our friends' kids are. He'd try to get me to spend time with his nephews, even though I wasn't close to them. He also began talking to my parents way more than usual.

Then one evening, he said he wanted to have dinner with my whole family. I found this a bit strange as I don't often spend time with my family. But for him, I agreed. We were having dinner, my parents and siblings (my brother and sister) were there. Then, he dropped a bomb on me.

He got down on one knee and said "I love you. I want you to be the mother of my children".

"What the actual frick!" was the first thing that came out of my mouth. We hadn't talked about getting married, much less kids. I never wanted kids and wasn't ready for marriage. I took him to another room and asked him what the hell he was doing. He dropped another bomb and told me he had been talking to my parents about us getting married and starting a family. Let that sink in. He talked to *my parents,* not me about our future. He said he had asked my dad's permission. My dad's permission, before he asked for my consent. I was furious. All this was obviously meant to pressure me into saying yes.

My mother, being nosy, walked right into the room we were in and asked what was wrong and why I had not said yes. I told her and the whole family that they needed to leave. When they left, I tore Jason a new a-hole. I asked him how dare he assume that I was going to marry him and have kids with him, when I had made it very clear that I did not want those things. He told me he was hoping that I would "grow up and want something meaningful". He had the gall to act like I was the bad person in all of this. I threw him out and the following day, I ended the relationship for good.

My parents were pissed at me. My mom cried about how she had been looking forward to getting grandkids from me and how I had let her down. My siblings too told me I had made a huge mistake by "letting such a nice guy go". My dad actually told me to apologize to *him.* Their behavior told me that my desires and consent didn't matter to them one bit. They just wanted me to follow the same life script that they did. Till today, I haven't forgiven them, mostly because they still think that they and my ex were right.

My current bf and I have been together for 3 years. He and I share the same passions and he has had a vasectomy, so I feel much more secure when he says that he doesn't want kids.

I never spoke to Jason again, though he did try to reach out to me. I still believe that what he did was scummy (to say the least), but I bear him no ill will and I hope he's happy.

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