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Successful (or not) Long Distance Relationships
Posted on 5/6/17 at 12:54 pm
Posted on 5/6/17 at 12:54 pm
Anyone have any good stories about long distance relationships? I was in several before I met Mrs. STLDawg. The most interesting was with an archaeologist studying the Inca civilization. Needless to say, her work kept her away from the States too much for our relationship to work.
These days, I know several married couples living in different states for years as they finish up residency, post-docs, etc. I can't imagine how they deal with the distance.
These days, I know several married couples living in different states for years as they finish up residency, post-docs, etc. I can't imagine how they deal with the distance.
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Posted on 5/6/17 at 12:55 pm to STLDawg
I had one for a while. One of us used to fly 600 miles at least once a month to see each other.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 12:56 pm to STLDawg
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Posted on 5/6/17 at 12:59 pm to STLDawg
I was in a long distance relationship once. I flew 5,500 miles to visit her for a month. When I got home she told me she couldn't deal with the distance and that we should go our separate ways. We lived together for a while before she left the United States. It crushed me.
Long distance dating sucks. I'll never do it again.
Long distance dating sucks. I'll never do it again.
This post was edited on 5/6/17 at 10:48 pm
Posted on 5/6/17 at 12:59 pm to STLDawg
In general, I have found that long distance relationships can be successful if they are grounded in a firm relationship. So, if you've been together for years and have to be apart for whatever reason, then you can make it work because you are willing to.
Newish relationships that are far apart tend to end poorly.
YMMV
Newish relationships that are far apart tend to end poorly.
YMMV
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:02 pm to Fatty Magoo
Me and mrs drexyl dated long distance in college for 2 1/2 years. Married for going on 16.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:10 pm to RogerTheShrubber
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I had one for a while. One of us used to fly 600 miles at least once a month to see each other.
Damn. That's pretty awesome man.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:12 pm to STLDawg
Long distance relationships work if you can't stand to be around each other and you can still see other women.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:13 pm to STLDawg
Me and the ex-wife are several hours apart now and it's working out great.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:38 pm to PaperPaintball92
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When I got home she told me she couldn't deal with the distance and that we should go our separate ways.
After about 9 months of long distant dating, we ended up together and it lasted about 4 years.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:42 pm to STLDawg
Mrs. Bubblehead and I dated long distance for 6 months, married for a year apart, then moved in together. We've been married 9 years now. We dated for about 6 months in high school, then the 6 months of dating started 3 years later before marriage. We knew we were right now each other. If not for military, we would've married sooner
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:43 pm to STLDawg
The rush is fun at first but for the long haul? Not worth it.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 1:50 pm to Chiefagain
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The rush is fun at first but for the long haul? Not worth it.
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The rush is fun at first but for the long haul? Not worth it.
My wife and I are happier now than the first 5 years. Think your statement's an anomaly? We have more fun than most of our friends who have been with each other daily
Posted on 5/6/17 at 2:00 pm to STLDawg
I once drove for 27 hours straight for a sex weekend then had drive 27 hours right back. When you're in your twenties sleep isn't a concern.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 2:26 pm to STLDawg
My now wife (no pics) lived in Australia. We talked online for about a year before I flew out there to meet her Christmas/New Years 1998/99. She flew to the U.S. in April 1999 and we got married in June 1999. I lived in Oz from 2000-2005 when we returned to the U.S. for good. Next month is 18 years of marriage. I had to travel 9,000 miles to find the only woman on this planet that can tolerate my bullshite.
This post was edited on 5/6/17 at 6:53 pm
Posted on 5/6/17 at 2:32 pm to Fatty Magoo
I have to agree about the firm relationship aspect. One of my long distance relationships was with a girl I knew in college, but we didn't hit it off until a Christmas break after we had graduated. She lived in Philly, and I was in the St. Louis. The relationship was good, but it ended up fizzling out because the roots just weren't deep enough.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 2:32 pm to STLDawg
Mine were all successful while long distance (this was back in the day, with long distance phone charges and no texting). Get together once a month for vacation-esque sex, talk twice a week on the phone. Of course both of us were hooking up locally, and when you're in the same town, it loses the lustre.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 2:46 pm to STLDawg
Me and the SO survived two deployments to the ME.
Over 12 months each.
Over 12 months each.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 2:50 pm to STLDawg
They don't work
Men in long distance relationships simply have no options. To the point where their best option is someone who lives hundreds of miles away
With women. Out of sight, out of mind. It's hard to keep their interest when there is distance, unless she is treating you like a long distance ATM machine. Out of sight out of mind. The moment Chad walks across her sight and gives her attention the long distance relationship is over. It's really hard to be the best option in a woman's life when you are far away from her. Because a woman is only interested in her best male option. Considering most higher value women get attention from dozens of men every day, good luck with that.
In other words. It only works if the woman you are in the LDR with is low value who isn't getting a lot of male attention, or she is pillaging you for resources long distance but guarantee you she is still getting her sexual needs met anyway.
Never a good idea. Hard to have any leverage in the relationship dynamic.
Men in long distance relationships simply have no options. To the point where their best option is someone who lives hundreds of miles away
With women. Out of sight, out of mind. It's hard to keep their interest when there is distance, unless she is treating you like a long distance ATM machine. Out of sight out of mind. The moment Chad walks across her sight and gives her attention the long distance relationship is over. It's really hard to be the best option in a woman's life when you are far away from her. Because a woman is only interested in her best male option. Considering most higher value women get attention from dozens of men every day, good luck with that.
In other words. It only works if the woman you are in the LDR with is low value who isn't getting a lot of male attention, or she is pillaging you for resources long distance but guarantee you she is still getting her sexual needs met anyway.
Never a good idea. Hard to have any leverage in the relationship dynamic.
Posted on 5/6/17 at 2:50 pm to goldennugget
Men are more likely to stray in the ldr, in my experience
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