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Seriously need some advice here

Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:22 am
Posted by Germinator
Member since Mar 2014
78 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:22 am
I'm 25, and I'm building my own life. The problem is my parents are constantly asking me for money. I don't live with them, and haven't for about 5 years now. I guess my question is, when do you have to just say "I can't do it anymore". I love them, but they are really mooching off the things I've accomplished. Any advice?
Posted by GeorgeReymond
Buckhead
Member since Jan 2013
10161 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:26 am to
What's their financial situation? Recently fired? Living over their means? Some additional details would help
Posted by Captain Rumbeard
Member since Jan 2014
4130 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:26 am to
When either you truly can't do it anymore because of the math, or you can't do it anymore because you're ready to break the cycle.
Posted by theantiquetiger
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Member since Feb 2005
19227 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:26 am to
Tell them you don't have it. Period
Posted by Germinator
Member since Mar 2014
78 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:28 am to
Basically, they have been taking my money since my first job at fifteen years old. My dad is basically a bum who doesn't want to work, and hasn't for about ten years now. Financially, they aren't doing well, but how much can I give before I end up broke as well ya know?
Posted by Germinator
Member since Mar 2014
78 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:29 am to
Basically, I have to break the cycle. I have given them more than any child should have to give their parents. They just keep asking for more. It's like they seem entitled to my money because I'm their son.
Posted by GenesChin
The Promise Land
Member since Feb 2012
37706 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:30 am to
You are enabling them. Just tell them you are financially strapped and don't have the ability to support two households.

If he was working and in hardship it would be different but he is just being a prick for mooching off you
Posted by tketaco
Sunnyside, Houston
Member since Jan 2010
19540 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:31 am to
It's tough love, just stop giving to them. My father kicked my 30 year old sister out of his house after she was divorced a year prior and wanted new scenery for progress. Problem was she wasn't making progress, she kept being down and making my step mother depressed and she wouldn't even take a management position at Hobby Lobby cause she was nervous about the position. So he told her she had to leave and she moved in with my mother. It's unfortunate but you can't let yourself go down with their sinking ship.
Posted by SG_Geaux
Beautiful St George
Member since Aug 2004
77992 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:31 am to
quote:

I have given them more than any child should have to give their parents. They just keep asking for more. It's like they seem entitled to my money because I'm their son.


Tell them this.
Posted by Jones
Member since Oct 2005
90541 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:31 am to
Slow down on the thread starting.

You already reek of being a shite poster
Posted by GeorgeReymond
Buckhead
Member since Jan 2013
10161 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:33 am to
I gotcha. If I were you I wouldn't continue giving your money to them. I know it'll be hard to cut them off but in all honesty you need to use your money for your needs & to save for your future.

It's not your responsibility to support two grown adults who sound like they don't want to better themselves. Tough love

Good luck.
This post was edited on 3/15/14 at 1:36 am
Posted by lsuwontonwrap
Member since Aug 2012
34147 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:39 am to
Wow, that sucks. Just tell them that you don't have it. They don't know exactly what you make (hopefully) and it should stay that way. If they get upset (they will) just apologize and let that be that. Good for you for making something of yourself after coming from a man who doesn't want to work.
Posted by 2close2Gainesville
Huge
Member since Sep 2008
4795 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:43 am to
Cup your fart and put it in their face.
Posted by Germinator
Member since Mar 2014
78 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:47 am to
quote:

Cup your fart and put it in their face.


This may actually work
Posted by molsusports
Member since Jul 2004
36119 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 1:56 am to
move further away

distance will help some. telling them no when they ask for more money is easier and I doubt they are really providing you any mental/emotional support in return for your financial support.

Posted by Topwater Trout
Red Stick
Member since Oct 2010
67590 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 2:00 am to
I would say when it puts you in a bind you have to say no...especially if you have a family to provide for. If the amount you're lending isn't a burden then maybe continue.

Sounds like your parents suck though.
Posted by Zappas Stache
Utility Muffin Research Kitchen
Member since Apr 2009
38723 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 2:02 am to
This is why Obama wanted death panels.
Posted by tgrbaitn08
Member since Dec 2007
146214 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 2:03 am to
frickin jones.
Posted by J311slx
Las Vegas
Member since Sep 2011
1978 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 3:22 am to
quote:

Slow down on the thread starting
Posted by Bushmaster
19th Hole
Member since Oct 2008
39627 posts
Posted on 3/15/14 at 3:41 am to
Your parents sound like Joe Dirt's family. Tell them to sign up for obama disability.
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