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re: Question for the OT about starting a life
Posted on 2/18/15 at 7:57 am to Walking the Earth
Posted on 2/18/15 at 7:57 am to Walking the Earth
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nsisting on paying the money back is all well and good but you have to actually, you know, pay the money back. Don't make a production out of doing that and then not deliver.
This. I would accept the money graciously and be very very appreciative towards him. Make sure that you won't be insecure about it or that he won't rub it in your face though.
I wouldn't say you'll pay it back, because life happens.
However, I'd accept it, succeed and then pay it back in a surprise rather than drum on and on about how you'll pay it back.
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Posted on 2/18/15 at 8:05 am to LSU Tiger09
Sounds like your ex-step dad that raised you is in fact the best dad you have. Accept the money and attempt to pay him back at a later date, though I seriously doubt he'll take it.
Don't forget about him on father's day.
Don't forget about him on father's day.
This post was edited on 2/18/15 at 8:06 am
Posted on 2/18/15 at 8:07 am to LSU Tiger09
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Should I take him up on the offer (which he doesn't want to be reimbursed for)?
"Thank you. I will do my best to reward your faith in me".
no promises to pay it back. Just really put in the time and effort to make it happen.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 8:07 am to LSU Tiger09
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I mean he practically raised me, but I'm not connected to him anymore
If the dude raised you and is willing to give you this money, I am willing to bet he feels he is still connected to you.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 8:10 am to Danny Woodhead
This is one of disadvantages of having your parents carry you through college. You're able to focus on academics because you don't have to work, but then you graduate with limited, if any, personal financial skills. Often compounding the problem are the unrealistic expectations of a spoiled child. All that extra stuff mommy and daddy paid for and the student becomes accustomed to adds to the financial burden of a new graduate, because it's hard to go backward in life.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 8:34 am to White Roach
I insisted that both of my kids get student credit cards to start establishing a credit history while they were in school so they can enter life after college without having to start at square one with everything.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 8:40 am to LSU Tiger09
Any idea how much money we're talking about? Doesn't seem like it'd be too much if the job is already secured.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 8:56 am to USMCTiger03
How old are you? If you have another job lined up, why do you need this payout?
Posted on 2/18/15 at 9:04 am to CidCock
This all sounds very suspicious.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 9:13 am to LSU Tiger09
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I applied to med school and... got wait listed
They accept people off of the wait list up until the start of school (July-ish), don't give up yet. If this is your first time applying, why not take a year to reapply, get a job close to home, and build up your credit. If you get into school next cycle, great. If not, you've got the credit and the cash to move where ever you want and won't have to take a 36% loan.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 9:42 am to mytigger
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Sounds like your ex-step dad that raised you is in fact the best dad you have. Accept the money and attempt to pay him back at a later date, though I seriously doubt he'll take it. Don't forget about him on father's day.
This.
In fact, I'm kinda perplexed as to why you've cut ties with this man who practically raised you, has always been good to you, and is a much better person than your piece of shite biological father.
Of course I don't know the whole story on this but you seem like a good young guy that just needs some real world experience. I'll give you this advice: blood don't mean shite. The guy who raised you, and is now offering to help you out, he's the guy you need to continue to have a relatationship with. If he wants one. Your mom will always be your mom, but as you admitted, women are crazy. Don't write this guy off because things didn't work out between him and your mom.
Graciously accept the money, use it wisely, and pay him back when you can.
And stay in touch with the guy, he cares about you. You should care about him too.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 9:56 am to LSU Tiger09
I still don't know whats you are needing money for?
Is this to move and get an apartment in the new town you have a job in? If you've been living away from mama the last 5 years, how did you pay to live? How do you not have enough money to get an apartment considering you have a job? Is he giving you a few hundred books to move?
or Are you going back to school? I have to assume this b/c its the only one that makes sense.
Is this to move and get an apartment in the new town you have a job in? If you've been living away from mama the last 5 years, how did you pay to live? How do you not have enough money to get an apartment considering you have a job? Is he giving you a few hundred books to move?
or Are you going back to school? I have to assume this b/c its the only one that makes sense.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 10:09 am to TeddyPadillac
It doesn't take much. All you need is money to get there and a few hundred bucks. Find rooms to rent on Craigslist until you get a couple of paychecks and can out a deposit on an apartment complex and pay rent.
That said, sounds like there is a desire on the "step dads" part yo foster a relationship. If the OP called him advice, he still means at least something. Maybe the guy wants to have more of a part in his life and he sees this as the way. OP just needs to decide what's best for him. There is no sense in turning down help just to feed ones own sense of foolish pride.
That said, sounds like there is a desire on the "step dads" part yo foster a relationship. If the OP called him advice, he still means at least something. Maybe the guy wants to have more of a part in his life and he sees this as the way. OP just needs to decide what's best for him. There is no sense in turning down help just to feed ones own sense of foolish pride.
Posted on 2/18/15 at 10:18 am to TygerTyger
When the OP wakes up around noon, I hope he reads your post and a few other from this morning.
I'm sure I'm coming across as a dick in this thread, but I have minimal patience for his kind of whining. I REALLY put myself through college, and then later, grad school. It wasn't easy. I started saving for college my Sophomore year in high school, because I figured out that my parents weren't going to foot the bill. I worked through college and had to take semesters off when I didn't have enough money. Getting help from a relative or even TOPS (didn't exist yet... I'm old.) would have been a Godsend, but having to make it all happen by myself - financially, logistically and socially - forced me to mature earlier than many. More importantly, I acquired an extremely well developed sense of the difference between things I wanted and things I needed.
Maybe the OP should start a GoFundMe account, like all those other sorry sacks of shite who want something they can't afford.
(GET OFF MY LAWN!!!)
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I'm sure I'm coming across as a dick in this thread, but I have minimal patience for his kind of whining. I REALLY put myself through college, and then later, grad school. It wasn't easy. I started saving for college my Sophomore year in high school, because I figured out that my parents weren't going to foot the bill. I worked through college and had to take semesters off when I didn't have enough money. Getting help from a relative or even TOPS (didn't exist yet... I'm old.) would have been a Godsend, but having to make it all happen by myself - financially, logistically and socially - forced me to mature earlier than many. More importantly, I acquired an extremely well developed sense of the difference between things I wanted and things I needed.
Maybe the OP should start a GoFundMe account, like all those other sorry sacks of shite who want something they can't afford.
(GET OFF MY LAWN!!!)
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