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Parent blaming and shaming
Posted on 6/15/16 at 11:58 pm
Posted on 6/15/16 at 11:58 pm
Warning....long wall of text ahead...
This popped up on my fb wall. Not a parent(hopefully soon though) but gotta say I agree with a lot of what she says. And I will add that at times I've been guilty of instinctively seeing a headline, not knowing the full story yet, and think "well where were the parents at?"
This popped up on my fb wall. Not a parent(hopefully soon though) but gotta say I agree with a lot of what she says. And I will add that at times I've been guilty of instinctively seeing a headline, not knowing the full story yet, and think "well where were the parents at?"
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Parents, I beg of you, stop blaming and shaming other parents.
35 years ago, a mom shopping in a Sears department store went to go look at lamps, and left her six year old with another group of boys, who were all trying out the new Atari game at a kiosk. That boy’s name was Adam Walsh.
30 years ago, an 18 month old toddler playing in her aunt’s backyard fell into a well. Rescuers worked nonstop for 58 hours, finally freeing “Baby Jessica” from the well.
In both cases a tragedy happened, an unforeseen tragic accident took place which left Adam dead, and a toddler fighting for her life deep underground. But they also has something else in common; they had an entire country of moms and dads supporting the grieving parents.
Let me repeat that, EVERYONE SUPPORTED THE RESCUE EFFORTS WITHOUT BLAME. NO BLAME. None. ZERO.
No questions asked, not one single “Where were the parents?” comment. Just a country of other moms and dads, grandmas and grandpas watching in horror as a set of parents, one of their own, went through the unthinkable. Adam was our son. Jessica was our baby daughter.
THOSE PARENTS WERE US.
Flash forward to 2016, the year of THE PERFECT PARENT.
Yesterday, a two year old boy, splashing in the magical lakefront waters of a Disney Resort, succumbed to the wilds of mother nature. An aggressive alligator scooped him out of the water, right under the watch of his father, who attempted to fight with the alligator to free his baby son. Pure horror. Sheer Terror. Parents who actually had to watch their baby be taken from them, as if they were in some African nature documentary.
A tragic and unforeseeable accident. An accident.
I weep for this mother and father. I am sick with anguish for the pain, agony, misery, and regret pulsating through their viens this very second. And I bet you are too.
But not everyone is.
You see, we now live in a time where accidents are not allowed happen. You heard me. Accidents, of any form, in any way, and at any time, well, they just don’t happen anymore.
Why? Because BLAME and SHAME.
Because we have become a nation of BLAMERS and SHAMERS.
And how are accidents allowed to happen if we can’t blame someone? Surly, they can’t, right? I mean, random acts of nature, unpreventable tragedies, and fateful life changing events that take place in a matter of nanoseconds cannot possibly take place if everyone is being a responsible parent, right? NOPE.
They can’t, because this country and its population of perfect pitchfork carrying mothers and fathers sitting behind keyboards needs to accuse. They NEED TO BLAME, to disparage, to criticize in every damn way and at every damn corner, the parenting of another.
And when do they really get to lick their blaming chops? When a tragic accident happens. That’s when the pouncing is at its freshest, when raw emotion and ignorance collide, and they dig their word claws in, and take hold of whatever grace these grieving mothers and fathers have left in their souls.
And then they tear it out.
Listen to me very clearly perfect parents, VERY CLEARLY.
I’VE HAD ENOUGH.
I’ve had enough of scrolling through comment threads and seeing over and over again questions like “Where were the parents?” and thoughts like, “This is what happens when you don’t watch your kids.”
I have simply HAD ENOUGH.
I have one question for the blaming and shaming moms and dads. You know the ones who immediately blame the parents, the ones who go on the internet and type comments like, “This is nothing but neglect by the parents,” and “They should have known better. Who was watching that little boy?” and my favorite, “I would never let that happen to my kid.”
Here is my question,
Have you ever been to a child’s funeral before?
I have.
The funeral of a child is an event in life that you never, ever want to experience.
Now let me ask you another question.
In the coming week these parents will fly back to their home in Nebraska without one of their children. They will leave a vacation resort, packing up his Buzz Lightyear pajamas and his favorite blanket, and they will make an excruciatingly difficult journey home. A journey that they never in a million years thought they would be making.
They will meet with a funeral director, pick out a tiny casket, a tiny burial suit, and surrounded by family, they will bury their baby boy.
And they will suffer every single day for the rest of their life.
At the funeral for this two year boy who died in front of his parents, can you do me a favor? Can you walk up to the mother and say the words that you just typed out last week? Can you? Can you greet her, hug her, shake the father’s hand and then say, “ Who was watching that little boy? You should have known better. I would never let that happen to MY child.”
Can you do that for me? I mean, you felt those words so deeply in your heart and soul that you typed them for a million people to read. Certainly you can say it straight to the faces of the people you meant it for, right?
Here, let me help you.
Put away your pitchfork for a moment and try this.
To the mother and father who went for a walk on vacation for the last time with their little boy yesterday, I am deeply sorry that you had to experience the worst kind of tragedy possible, an accident. I grieve with you. Your baby was my baby. Your son was my son. I have nothing but love for you, love to help you get though the pain yesterday, today, and for what is gonna seem like a thousand tomorrows. I wrap my thoughts and prayers around your aching heart and soul. May the God of this universe in some miraculous way bring peace to you and your family.
That is what you say. THAT. And just THAT.
Stop the blaming.
Stop the shaming.
In their darkest hours, can we please just LOVE other parents. Please?
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:01 am to lsunurse
Congrats on the sex lsunurse.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:04 am to lsunurse
Obviously it isn't right in every situation, but I still think the gorilla kids' parents are shitty.
If a parent fricks up I'll be here to call em out first on TD.
If a parent fricks up I'll be here to call em out first on TD.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:05 am to lsunurse
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Not a parent
Stopped here.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:05 am to lsunurse
Those poor parents. I have thought about their return to Nebraska and the judgement from their community. Feel bad that every time they go somewhere they will be recognized for this horror.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:05 am to lsunurse
No blame from me on the alligator thing. Now if you leave your kid to die in a hot car, I am blaming
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:06 am to Breauxsif
I'm fertility-challenged
Sex is just for fun now
Sex is just for fun now
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:06 am to lsunurse
Agree completely. The semi-anonymous nature of the internet has turned us into a culture of pretend perfectness.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:09 am to Winston Cup
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Those poor parents. I have thought about their return to Nebraska and the judgement from their community. Feel bad that every time they go somewhere they will be recognized for this horror.
Not to mention they have a 4 year old daughter...who also saw the whole thing. They have to stay strong for their daughter, they don't get the luxury of totally breaking down in their grief. I hope they have a very strong network of support from family and friends back in Nebraska.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:10 am to Paul Allen
All I can say is amen brother. It is because of a attribute of self defense or self serving bias to say this couldn't happen to me. it is complete fricking bullshite but very very common now. Part of Reptile brain and self esteem movement.
The perfect example is when doctor miss breast cancer women jurors will say it is dead woman's fault for not getting second opinion. Juror would have gotten a second opinion. When the frick has anyone ever gotten a second opinion from doctor saying u are fine, dont have cancer? Answer never.
But this allows person to believe that this could never happen to them. They are too smart, too keen, etc.
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The perfect example is when doctor miss breast cancer women jurors will say it is dead woman's fault for not getting second opinion. Juror would have gotten a second opinion. When the frick has anyone ever gotten a second opinion from doctor saying u are fine, dont have cancer? Answer never.
But this allows person to believe that this could never happen to them. They are too smart, too keen, etc.
LINK
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:11 am to lsunurse
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No questions asked, not one single “Where were the parents?” comment.
BULL. shite. People said it, they just didn't have the internet to share it with random strangers. And I will continue to say it.
I didn't do shite as a kid without my parents being right there. I couldn't even ride my bike around the block alone until I was 12. They were the same way with my sister. We hated it, but we "get it" now. You do what you have to to keep your kids safe. Don't let them climb up on a rail at a zoo and fall in. Don't let them wander close to water without you. Don't give me that B.S. of "support the parents". I support good parents who watch their kids and crazy shite still happens. That's who I support.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:13 am to lsunurse
Good lord nurse I ain't got time to read this
Lies you are married
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I did see the sex is just for fun part
Lies you are married
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:17 am to lsunurse
I agree with this post so much, there are times when parentsnare just extremely neglegent. But there are others when shite just happens. Accidents happen that you couldnt have predicted. I know we live in a world where people like to pretend to be perfect but that simply isnt reasonable
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:17 am to lsuwontonwrap
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I couldn't even ride my bike around the block alone until I was 12
That's sad. How old are you?
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:20 am to northshorebamaman
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I couldn't even ride my bike around the block alone until I was 12 That's sad
That is sad. I was babysitting other kids in my neighborhood at 12.
Child of the 80s though....We roamed the neighborhoods by ourselves at like 8-9 on our bikes.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:21 am to lsuwontonwrap
BTW, every fricking parent and I mean every one, has lost a child somewhere at sometime.
Freaking disney world at night during damn fireworks for me. kid with almost exact same shirt same size standing next to me watching fireworks and I thought was my son. Was not. Never so scared my whole life. Did Code Adam immediately.
(He got scared and went into souvenir shop) He was 7. All I could do was think of Adam Walsh. Disney people were awesome. He also thought he was next to me and realized it was someone else. Amazing how little distraction like fireworks can do that. It was dark as hell too. I did glow necklaces on kids at night for years after that.
Freaking disney world at night during damn fireworks for me. kid with almost exact same shirt same size standing next to me watching fireworks and I thought was my son. Was not. Never so scared my whole life. Did Code Adam immediately.
(He got scared and went into souvenir shop) He was 7. All I could do was think of Adam Walsh. Disney people were awesome. He also thought he was next to me and realized it was someone else. Amazing how little distraction like fireworks can do that. It was dark as hell too. I did glow necklaces on kids at night for years after that.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:22 am to lsunurse
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Child of the 80s though
We're the same age. I was all over the place at 12.
Posted on 6/16/16 at 12:25 am to TutHillTiger
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BTW, every fricking parent and I mean every one, has lost a child somewhere at sometime
Isn't this why those leash things exist?
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