My wife wants a divorce

I had a really long day at work and I come home and no one was there. I texted my wife and she is at her parent's house with the kids. I asked what's going on and she wants a divorce. I called her and basically she said she can't do it anymore because I'm "over-bearing." She wants her space. Honestly I could see it coming from a mile away, she kept distancing herself from me, it felt like I was in a friend zone for quite some time, I could tell she was unhappy and forcing herself to smile. I didn't want to believe she was unhappy so I fooled myself.

I'm pretty distraught, this sucks. I really want to make this work, for us and the kids. I'll probably go see a counselor and try to become a better person but I also want to do marriage counseling with her. There is no way I am signing any divorce papers without her at least agreeing to some type of counseling. This sucks so bad.