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re: My fiancee cheated on me.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 4:49 am to GEAUXmedic
Posted on 11/17/17 at 4:49 am to GEAUXmedic
Hire a PI and good attorney now--get evidence. Emotions can really screw up a lot of lives at the stage you are at. In the end you will be wondering why you didn't hire a PI and good lawyer.
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Posted on 11/17/17 at 4:54 am to GEAUXmedic
you need to decide if you want to stay in a relationship with her or not. For me, once trust is gone, it is over. But, that is up to you. It would always linger in the back of my mind when she was out somewhere.
Also, as you navigate through this, no matter how much you may hate her, try not to make the situation worse. Use her misdeeds against her as leverage should you have to negotiate with her - makes no sense to get her all fired up and angry at you (which will probably happen anyway since she is a woman - somehow this will be your fault). Once you have some type of legal agreement / child custody arrangement, etc., you can tell her how you really feel about her if you want to.
Also, as you navigate through this, no matter how much you may hate her, try not to make the situation worse. Use her misdeeds against her as leverage should you have to negotiate with her - makes no sense to get her all fired up and angry at you (which will probably happen anyway since she is a woman - somehow this will be your fault). Once you have some type of legal agreement / child custody arrangement, etc., you can tell her how you really feel about her if you want to.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:02 am to GEAUXmedic
Man hate to hear that. I can understand why you would forgive her though. Even though the right thing is to leave her behind its not always that simple.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:02 am to GEAUXmedic
Sucks man. I would most definitely start planning an exit strategy. She sounds like a narcissistic selfish sneaky bitch.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 5:03 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:03 am to Zchlsu
btw, forgiveness takes time. no way you have truly forgiven her. eventually, you need to work towards forgiveness for yourself, not her.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:04 am to GEAUXmedic
It happened because you're not putting it down good enough. Plain and simple. Why would you keep her when some other guy is plowing her? Was it BBC? That is some big boots to fill; not work boots but boots. It will happen again. Dude get out now to keep yourself from getting hurr worse.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:09 am to GEAUXmedic
I have a Uncle who is going through this very same thing except he has twins. He holds so much hate in his heart for her they can’t comunicate. It’s terrible the kids are stuck in the middle and the worst part is the whole family is involved and it’s a shite show. They HATE her to the fullest now even going out the way to make her life miserable. For the most part I don’t fault them. But he is a grown man he should be able to handle his own business instead of acting like a little bitch. It’s been like 3 years now. It’s time to get over it.
What I’m trying to say don’t be like him. Try to let it go and move on. Make your daughter the number 1 priority. Don’t use her as a pawn like he does with his twins.
Good luck to you. I know it sucks a bag of dicks. But be strong for the little one.
Ohh yeah frick that cheating whore. Go frick her sister or best friend..
What I’m trying to say don’t be like him. Try to let it go and move on. Make your daughter the number 1 priority. Don’t use her as a pawn like he does with his twins.
Good luck to you. I know it sucks a bag of dicks. But be strong for the little one.
Ohh yeah frick that cheating whore. Go frick her sister or best friend..
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:13 am to lsuwontonwrap
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shite dude. All I can say is be happy you found out before you married her. Start making moves to get your share of time with your kid. Seriously, start calling family lawyers tomorrow.
Guy deLaupe in Jeff Parish
Jeff Hoffman in Orleans Parish
Good luck
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:17 am to GEAUXmedic
medic, you and your daughter will come through this fine I’m sure. As others posted, your ex-fiancée doesn’t have your best interest at heart anymore. Remember to reach out to family and friends for support to get through this.
Sorry to hear this happened to you.
Sorry to hear this happened to you.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:24 am to GEAUXmedic
You have to give the devil her due, for telling you. It sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, and I bet it ain't this other dude either. I would be interested to know about her family background.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:26 am to CajunSoldier225
Prays sent, but can the bitch. Take care of yourself and make sure to take care of your daughter. You will be facing some hard times ahead. Stay strong for your daughter. She will grow up knowing that you love her. 
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:31 am to GEAUXmedic
That absolutely sucks, but you should be ecstatic that you found this out before you got married and you should be in a lawyers office this morning already drafting a custody agreement.
I know you don't want to think about this but trust me:
frick that bitch, when it comes to family court you cannot be nice. Call a lawyer immediately and begin custody proceedings. Never concede and DO NOT tell her you did it.
Save all text messages and emails and go download an automatic call recorder and save all her phone calls and voice mails
Lastly, do not become petty or jealous or angry. The best revenge is a life well lived. Keep your head high and don't let her upset you. She'll get off on it. Be cordial and polite. Treat her like a nice stranger. Don't ever shite talk her to your daughter.
Nothing will ruin your ex's life more than you staying respectful, being the bigger man, and completely moving on with your life. She'll get no vindication or justification and she'll just rot.
I know you don't want to think about this but trust me:
frick that bitch, when it comes to family court you cannot be nice. Call a lawyer immediately and begin custody proceedings. Never concede and DO NOT tell her you did it.
Save all text messages and emails and go download an automatic call recorder and save all her phone calls and voice mails
Lastly, do not become petty or jealous or angry. The best revenge is a life well lived. Keep your head high and don't let her upset you. She'll get off on it. Be cordial and polite. Treat her like a nice stranger. Don't ever shite talk her to your daughter.
Nothing will ruin your ex's life more than you staying respectful, being the bigger man, and completely moving on with your life. She'll get no vindication or justification and she'll just rot.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 5:39 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:31 am to GEAUXmedic
The best medicine for this is new pussy.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:34 am to GEAUXmedic
You got to cut ties and protect yourself legally.
Way too many bitchy women that will love to marry you, treat you nice if you can stand the bitchey, and make your life miserable to put up with a cheater.
Now if she treats your child good both of you should work out a deal to make sure she has visitation rights and keep that separate from your relationship. If she cheats while you watch your child you should fight for primary custody.
Way too many bitchy women that will love to marry you, treat you nice if you can stand the bitchey, and make your life miserable to put up with a cheater.
Now if she treats your child good both of you should work out a deal to make sure she has visitation rights and keep that separate from your relationship. If she cheats while you watch your child you should fight for primary custody.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:35 am to cubsfinger
Nice. Your IRL acquaintances must really lean on you for support.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:40 am to johnnyrocket
I'll reason with y'all, and yeah I'll get called a beta but whatever.. I know my daughter isn't biologically mine. She was just pregnant when I met her. But my daughter is my daughter. She's my world and nothing will ever change that.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:43 am to GEAUXmedic
I just read your thread and have a couple of random thoughts. You have gotten some good advice here. You are now the only one on your team. Your team mate left and is telling her new coach all of your plays.
When somebody tells/shows you who they really are, believe them.
If she has a credit card with you, cut it off. She will load it up while she can. If you have joint accounts, close them. She will drain them and not give a frick if you are homeless. Don't pay her car note, etc. You owe her nothing. It was her that bailed on your partnership, not you.
Handle your financial business, get your legal strategy rolling, then put her out. If you do not, she is going to hurt you worse later. This was just a practice run for her.
Does she work? Does she contribute anything except arse kickings to your relationship? She has probably done this before. It is just the first time she told you about it. Rest assured it will not be her last time.
She could not have told you more plainly and openly that you are not what she wants. Believe her.
And last, pics?
When somebody tells/shows you who they really are, believe them.
If she has a credit card with you, cut it off. She will load it up while she can. If you have joint accounts, close them. She will drain them and not give a frick if you are homeless. Don't pay her car note, etc. You owe her nothing. It was her that bailed on your partnership, not you.
Handle your financial business, get your legal strategy rolling, then put her out. If you do not, she is going to hurt you worse later. This was just a practice run for her.
Does she work? Does she contribute anything except arse kickings to your relationship? She has probably done this before. It is just the first time she told you about it. Rest assured it will not be her last time.
She could not have told you more plainly and openly that you are not what she wants. Believe her.
And last, pics?
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:44 am to GEAUXmedic
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But my daughter is my daughter. She's my world and nothing will ever change that.
As a Dad with a daughter, I understand.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:45 am to LSU_Smash_the_West
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It’s terrible the kids are stuck in the middle and the worst part is the whole family is involved and it’s a shite show. They HATE her to the fullest now even going out the way to make her life miserable.
Examples of this?
Posted on 11/17/17 at 5:45 am to GEAUXmedic
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I know my daughter isn't biologically mine. She was just pregnant when I met her.
How old is she?
Did you legally adopt that girl?
Because if not there is some heartbreaking news on the horizon for you.
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