re: Looking back at times where you missed out on an obvious opportunity for sex

Honestly the missed opportunities don’t bother me too much because I succeeded plenty enough to be happy with my performance as a single man.

What really eats at me is there were a few amazing girls that probably would have been great girlfriends but I let them go because I wanted to play the field. Looking back I should have stuck with a couple but partying and hooking up was more important

Eh, I wouldn't put any amount of thought into this as it's only a singular view on past. You also might have avoided a lifetime of VD or dealing with a child out of wedlock with a crazy woman too.

Sex isn't the end all of your relationships with women. It's important but completely overvalued, which funnily enough is probably why many of you have "missed out". You put too much value in it and tried to make it too special by putting the woman on a pedestal instead of just treating her like a person and letting the situation flow naturally.

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Looking back I should have stuck with a couple but partying and hooking up was more important

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there's a couple that fall into that category as well, I was
a driven, determined man ho, and sworn on never getting married, that was even a tactic to be used I found out, when I would say that to a girl it seemed to be a challenge to her to try and reverse that thought, I know I let a couple of really good ones get away

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This is a subject that I hate thinking about

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Agreed. Here is one of way too many.

Freshman in college and at my first night club. Met some attractive young blonde who was maybe a few years older. We are bumping and grinding on the dance floor. I start to get a little touchy with her and she does not mind. Later that night she asked if I had a car in the parking lot. Like an idiot I said I rode with someone and asked her if she needed a ride. She said no no. Night ended. Later that week I told one of my buddies about her and he laughed telling me why she was asking about a car in the parking lot. I was clueless and banging my head in the table. Never saw her again.

When I was 18, I’d been hanging out with this girl from high school. She was a year younger than me. I graduated with her older sister.

My parents were out of town that day, so I had the house all to myself. I picked her up and brought her back to my bedroom. We were laying in the bed just talking. Her curfew time came and I took her home. After that, we just stopped hanging out.

I didn’t realize til a while later what I did. It’s probably because I was the most shy, nervous, clueless virgin in the world. I haven’t talked to her since. I think she’s still legit mad about it.

There are other opportunities because of my own stupidity I missed out. Some turned out to be a blessing in disguise I didn’t.

I fricked up the only opportunity I've ever had at a threesome while home on leave from the Army. At least the only opportunity that was handed to me on a silver platter. A short story:

I had slept with one of the chicks a few times through out high school and into my 20s. Life long friends that would get drunk and sleep with each other at parties every now and then, but never anything beyond that. Anyways, I make a post online that I just got home & that I'm on leave for a month and to reach out if anyone would like to grab dinner/drinks and link up. My friend Kasey hits me up and tells me that a mutual friend of ours wants to see me and to come over to where they were at for the night. I end up going to see them at Kasey's now boy friends house who I don't know to watch football and have some drinks. The guy was a great host and took care of me for the night with food, drinks, entertainment, etc. Unfortunately for him he ended up getting sloppy drunk and passing out early into the evening.

The two girls, his now girl friend who I used to hook up with and our mutual friend decide to go upstairs and ask me to follow them. Of course I do and get pulled into one of the spare bedrooms. Swear to God I get told that they're both horny and ask if I've ever had a threesome before. I tell them no and get asked if I want to check that bucket list item off. Initially, I said absolutely: Let's ride. Thinking strictly with the meat hammer -- And then my conscience kicked in & started guilt tripping me. "Are you really gonna sleep with this guys lady given all of the accommodations he's provided to you, a complete stranger, tonight"? I ended up weighing my options and decided against it due to this guy going out of his way to be kind to me. Ultimately I think it was the right decision, but something I'll think about until the day that I die. Both girls were legit OT 7s too. Anyways, the night still had a good ending. In the moment after saying no, the mutual friend told me that she was single and that the drunk guy downstairs didn't have any impact on what she wanted to do. I ended up giving her the worst 3 minutes of her day, thanked her and the friend for the hospitality and went downtown with the boys afterwards. Moral of the story - being a decent human is always the right thing to do, but in certain situations will absolutely cock block you from threesome situations.

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Years later, I run into her gay younger brother. We were talking about his sister (with whom he apparently had a falling out) and he said "she would have fricked your brains out all summer if you hadn't have been so busy treating her like some Princess."

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You almost had us fooled until the very end. No brother is going to say that about his sister to some guy. Even a gay.

After seeing some of these stories, I think it's imperative that I join a hunt club.

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so that's how you rationalize not getting any from the wife?

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Not married and I have never had any problem with "getting any". You guys try too hard. Probably why you appear thirsty and desperate, which is a huge turn off for a woman and why you have trouble with it in the first place.