re: Cheating is pretty much the new norm

What if she did it because she wants more of your attention and felt neglected in the marriage?

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What if she did it because she wants more of your attention and felt neglected in the marriage?

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WTF. Did yours give you that excuse? So, sucking someone else's dick is her way of seeking your attention?

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I'm a female lol but it's just me trying to get insight as to how others think.

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My apologies.

But we both know the deal. If someone thinks sleeping with another person is a good way to get their spouse's attention, then something is wrong with that person.

Affairs don't just happen. Takes time. And thought. By the time the decision has been made to sleep with someone, you can bet that their spouse is the last thing on their mind, other than getting caught. Do you really think that if someone really gave a damn about their spouse that they would screw someone else?

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What if she did it because she wants more of your attention and felt neglected in the marriage?

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Have you given this excuse to justify your cheating? Honest question.

This thread is why I didn't want to get married. There are too many who don't respect the sanctity of marriage, either those in it or those that are outsiders trying to forge their way in. Although I have an elderly couple I see every now and then at my job who restores my faith in the idea of marriage just by saying how they Joe around with each other and how they care for one another. It's what I hope you have one day.

I do wonder about those marriages that ended because of cheating. The spouse who cheated, do they ever wish they could have what they had with their side person, with their actual spouse or possibly was the cheating a way to get out of the marriage?

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"This is the last time. This can't happen again. What if he finds out?"

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Did your boyfriend ever catch you?

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My ex who just died. she aws really cute. But not the hottest girl I have ever seen. Anyone who knows me knows I have hte worst foot fetish on earth lol. I like cute feet. She had really cute feet, like unbelievably cute feet lol. and soft lol. soft cute feet. But it wasn't the fact that she had cute feet, it was the fact that she played on my fetish that turned me on. When we'd be in bed together she'd put her feet up against my leg and let me hold her. When I'd be sitting at the end of the bed programming or talking to someone she'd put her feet right next to my head. she'd let me rub her feet all night long if i wanted. she didn't think it was gross she thought it was cute and let me endudge and because she did she knew exactly what my ticks where. she knew it was an itch I needed to scratch. And she'd let me scratch away.


To me, the woman's foot is the sexiest most feminine part of her body. I can tell just how feminine a woman is by looking at her foot, if she takes care of it, if she is walking on it all day, does she take care of her feet.



I coudl see a situation where if I was dating someone who thought "feet are nasty" and "yuck you're odd" or some shite like that, and she made me suppress my love of her feet she'd get cheated on with the quickness. Because that's how I express affection and her narrow mindedness is not allowing me to do so.

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lol

*Disclaimer* the explanation as to why I cheated does not mean I think it was right. It was 100% wrong any way you look at it.

I was in a long term relationship that had just become long distance. I was catching a lot of crap from my S/O and she wasn't being supportive at all about me going back to school and changing careers. She wanted me to work a dead end job for the rest of my life if it meant we got married sooner. I didn't feel wanted, useful, or emotionally/sexually satisfied. She was an HR girl and not exactly smart, it left me seeking mental stimulation elsewhere. While this was going on I met a girl while tailgating. She was doing her med school residency here and her s/o was out of town. We became friends, we talked a lot and it never went anywhere physical. This went on for a couple of months. We were pretty close. There was some attraction but we never put ourselves in a position to act on it. Then, one night we went out for a graduation party. We didn't ride in the same vehicles or anything and there was no plan to cheat. Ended up hulk smashing her at my house. Kept hooking up with her for about a month before we stopped it. She didn't tell her s/o and is now married to him. I was going to confess to it but my s/o had already stated that she wouldn't leave me if i cheated. I felt that telling her would be more to ease my conscience than it would be doing right by her so i just carried it with me. I left her a month or two later when she gave me an ultimatum about getting married ASAP.

Cheaters usually cheat for a reason. Yeah, there are some people who are just scummy but good people can end up doing it too. There were a lot of red flags and I should have ended the relationship before it got to that point but I was hoping it would get better.

Scum