re: Baby mama situation opinions

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Dating chick for about 2 years ,

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Holy shite!!!! A freakin' novel and not one damn pic of the crazy woman?

Here are actual cliff notes.

Two 40 year old idiots may not know how babies are made so they have unprotected sex and another bastard is brought into the world.

Op thinks womens is crazy, but was having unprotected sex with her anyway.

Op has kids, so maybe he does know how kids are made and is to big of an idiot to not take precautions to not have another.

Op already has one failed marriage and so does the baby mama. These two should really know better at this point in thier life.

Op puts his future baby mama on the backburner after he impregnates her. Women is furious op is such an idiot and self centered arse.

Op does one decent thing and actually shows up for the birth.

Op has not had a dna test, likely kid is not his.

Op is to cheap to get lawyers to come up with a custody agreement, but gets pissed baby mama is not adhering to the back of a napkin parenting schedule he made up for a one week old child that needs to breast feed.

Op says he wants a relationship with the kid, but abandoned the baby mama do to some negativity around the pregnancy.

Lastly, op is solely responsible for the choices he made in life. He is partly responsible for the unwanted pregnancy. He is partly responsible for abandoning the baby mama. And he will be partly responsible for another young kid growing up a bastard in a broken home.

Op, your in your 40's its time to grow up and take care of business. Get the dna test. If it's yours find a way to be part of the kids life no matter what. Be a man, step up, quite acting like a 16 year old kid.

I have to admit this is the GOAT "subtle I had sex brag post" ever.

You got yourself a winner baw

Mother frick are you going for a world record or something. Why so wordy omfg

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Here are actual cliff notes.

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OP is a white trash dumbass who sprayed a psycho crazy's guts at age 40 and is having a hard time accepting responsibility for his actions.

Would have saved a lot of time, money, heart ache, and, not to mention, the future of our planet if you had just invested in some rubbers or a vasectomy. Don't rant about her to us. You're the fricking moron enabling her.

Should have thought about this before you went without protection. You never ever know how they'll really act until it happens.

Excellent cliffs.

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So yes I know I need to go lawyer route but wth dads get zero! Child support isn't the issue that's black & white .... But what she offered me for visitation custody was triple what lawyers say I will get right now for an infant plus she's breast fed.

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The only thing that matters is that you get to be with your son.

Tell her you want to start over. Tell her you want to be a family for at least the first year or two of your son's life. Tell her you want to enjoy it...and that you two will address the situation later. In the meantime, tell her you are hopeful that you go back to the relationship before all of this.

Be in your son's life for 2 years. If it's not working out then (or at some reasonable time before then) then you can move to address it in court. Make sure she understands that you want to remove the pressure from the relationship...and that you won't bolting on her...and that hopefully that will allow you two to reconnect. You've got to remove the pressure. Until you are ready to make a final decision on your relationship with her, you have to make her feel like everything is great. Once you make a final decision you discuss. If you want to stay, it's a great conversation and maybe you discuss long term arrangements. If you don't want it, you've at least bought 2 years with your son and are in a better situation for custody...and you aren't in any worse position than you are now.

Good luck.