re: Any of you guys done online premarital counseling?

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Many things you cannot prepare for ahead of time. Marriage is one of them. No matter how well you know the person, doesn't matter if you've shacked up, once yall say I do, everything changes. A good premarital counseling program can give you some good tools to help with the adjustment if you take it seriously. Emphasis on a good program. Personally I would recommend it as well to all to be married couples. I dont understand people who say if you're thinking about getting counseling you shouldn't be married. That's dumb. Even video games give tutorials before you play.

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You a pastor? You act like premarital counseling is a necessity. The only people that need it is those that don’t talk about finances or kids beforehand or don’t agree on those and wanna get married anyway. Essentially, it’s for dumb people making a bad decision

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Where you at, baw? I'm ordained and am able to do weddings and pre-marital counseling if that's important to you.


Don't do this, OP. He doesn't charge a dime but he requests one night alone with your fiance.

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This is utter nonsense. No way I need an entire night.

Before my wife and I got married we did 6 weeks worth of classes with the head priest. In addition to relationship advice he also talked to us about finances.

The one thing that has always stuck with me is when he told us that “Love is a choice. It does not come naturally. It doesn’t not just happen. People that say you can’t choose who you love are full of shite. Love is absolutely a choice you make and it takes a lot of work.” He was 100% right.

The classes were worth it for that quote alone. I’ve had to remind myself of that a lot over the years.

I think you would get more out of it if you did in-person counseling.

If y'all are too busy to do the right thing, your marriage is doomed anyway.

We had to do the Engagement Encounter thing through our Catholic Diocese. We thought that we didn't need it (and we really didn't).

But then we saw the reactions and discussions between other couples and realized why the Diocese required it. There were couples there who hadn't discussed birth control or raising their kids in the church or pretty much anything other than where they were going to live and if the wife was going to have to work. I doubt that any didn't marry, but at least it forced them to discuss some important stuff prior.