- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
"4 Ridiculous Questions People Asked Me When My 11-Year-Old Came Out as Gay"
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:12 pm
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:12 pm
quote:
When my son was eleven, he came out to my husband and me as gay – or as he initially put it, “I think I’m finally ready to realize something about myself.” (He’s smart and hilarious.)
My husband and I are both queer – more on that later – so he knew we likely wouldn’t have a negative reaction. We did go out to dinner to celebrate his “realization,” but in a lot of ways, it was largely a non-event.
quote:
Even though everyone has been really proud of him for being willing to take the plunge of coming out, I have gotten some questions from people that were, um, eyebrow raising.
quote:
1. ‘Do You Think He’s Gay?’
quote:
I completely understand the impulse behind this question: The asker is trying to get the perspective of an adult that spends a lot of time with him. I also resent the unspoken undercurrent of this question that somehow I would know better than him what his sexual orientation is.
#Woke
quote:
First of all, we don’t default to heterosexuality as the “norm” and everything else as “other.” And he also had said and done things in the past that my husband’s and my gaydars picked up
quote:
2. ‘Do You Think This Is Just a Phase?’
LOL
quote:
No. So what if it is? Given the fluidity of sexual orientation and desire, isn’t everything kind of a phase? There is no way to use only a single word to describe the uniqueness of a person’s sexual orientation and desires.
Boom. Headshot. Point for Progress.
quote:
However, in the society that we live in, calling something a “phase” is a way to delegitimize it as an identity.
Any other questions, white assholes?
quote:
3. ‘Don’t You Think He’s Too Young to Know If He’s Gay?’ This question is just straight-up bullshite. The answer is no.
I don't even know why this needed to be addressed, tbh. lol
quote:
4. ‘Do You Think He Came Out Because You Glorify Gayness in Your House?’
quote:
As I mentioned above, my husband and I are both queer. “How can a man and woman who are married to each other be queer?” people I barely know ask me. There’s this cool new thing (actually it’s old and not usually seen as that cool) called bisexuality! I highly recommend it.
quote:
Anyway, we both identify as bi and queer and we make sure that our kids know that. They have even been to a summer camp for kids in queer families. I know there’s a ton of privilege in being a straight-appearing couple with kids, but queerness is a really important part of our identities and the way we parent.
Well done I say.
quote:
Katie Tastrom is a lawyer, writer, blogger, trainer, zinester, activist, and all around loudmouth who focuses on fat activism, legal issues, parenting issues, disability and queer topics. She is a content writer for The Body is Not an Apology, and her work has appeared at The Establishment, Mutha Magazine, Hip Mama, and xoJane. She is based in Syracuse, NY. Follow her on Twitter @KatieTastrom. Read her articles here.
EverydayFeminsim
This post was edited on 1/6/17 at 2:15 pm
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:14 pm to SabiDojo
You're better than this, Sabi.
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:15 pm to SabiDojo
Not gonna lie. By 11 I had already discovered porn and was praying for the day I could nut on some big fake tits...
13 years later and I'm still waiting
13 years later and I'm still waiting
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:16 pm to SabiDojo
haha stuff like this really does trigger me
Something about whacked out brain dead parents acting like an entire childhood of fricked up stuff (queer camp for families ffs) hasn't impacted their kids' decisions just rustles my jimmies
Something about whacked out brain dead parents acting like an entire childhood of fricked up stuff (queer camp for families ffs) hasn't impacted their kids' decisions just rustles my jimmies
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:17 pm to SabiDojo
You're giving these people the attention they're starving for.
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:17 pm to SabiDojo
they say kids grow up wanting to marry mommy, did your gay son grow up wanting to marry daddy?
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:18 pm to SabiDojo
The author:
if this person doesnt know the best way to raise a child, who does?
ETA:
LINK
if this person doesnt know the best way to raise a child, who does?
ETA:
LINK
quote:
Katie Tastrom-Fenton is a rural, queer, disabled, fat femme mama of four who is slowly moving toward finding the work she is meant to do in this life. Though technically a lawyer, she mostly just writes in bed. Her writing has been published by The Establishment, Mutha, Hip Mama, and of course TBINAA (among others). She may try stand-up comedy soon. You can reach her at Katie.Tastrom@gmail.com.
This post was edited on 1/6/17 at 2:22 pm
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:18 pm to SabiDojo
quote:
Katie Tastrom is a lawyer, writer, blogger, trainer, zinester, activist, and all around loudmouth who focuses on fat activism, legal issues, parenting issues, disability and queer topics
I 'd
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:20 pm to LSUfanNkaty
I will say this, I knew for sure I was straight at 11 years old.
I have no problem with an 11 year old coming out as gay tbh.
His parents are raising a weakling though. You can be gay and not be a weak person, SJW, and flamer.
I have no problem with an 11 year old coming out as gay tbh.
His parents are raising a weakling though. You can be gay and not be a weak person, SJW, and flamer.
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:20 pm to SabiDojo
The frick is a zinester?
Sounds like how aliens measure stages of pregnancy.
Sounds like how aliens measure stages of pregnancy.
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:21 pm to SabiDojo
Pics?
Nevermind.
quote:
focuses on fat activism
Nevermind.
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:21 pm to SabiDojo
They should be assassinated.
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:23 pm to lionward2014
quote:
focuses on fat activism
Perhaps they wouldn't be fat if they were more active
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:24 pm to lionward2014
quote:
Pics?
quote:
fat activism
Not sure about the active part, but the fat part seems legit AF
Posted on 1/6/17 at 2:25 pm to SabiDojo
quote:
They have even been to a summer camp for kids in queer families
This sounds like a South Park episode
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News