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Do any of ya'll help out your grown kids?
Posted on 3/31/11 at 8:49 am
Posted on 3/31/11 at 8:49 am
Do you do nice things for them like take them on family vacations or give a few hundred to help out with back to school, etc?? I've got a couple of grown kids. One seems to need help now and then and the other one seems to do fine on their own. When I do something for one do you feel like you should do for the other even if they don't need it??
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Posted on 3/31/11 at 9:04 am to West Monroe
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help out
define help out
Posted on 3/31/11 at 9:13 am to West Monroe
I'd rather them spend some of my money while I'm here to see it.
To add, when the wife and I die, they will not get a lump sum. "X" amount a month.
To add, when the wife and I die, they will not get a lump sum. "X" amount a month.
Posted on 3/31/11 at 9:14 am to LSUDad
My parents helped with my young sons medical bills, I didn't ask, but they offered and we could use the help so i accepted. I'm not too proud.
Posted on 3/31/11 at 9:17 am to barry
my wife and I moved to Boston from New Orleans, recently. Both of us were fresh out of gradaute school and we were moving for a research fellowship for me. Long story short, both sets of parents, especially in In-Laws, helped out when they could. We couldn't have done it without them!
Posted on 3/31/11 at 9:59 am to West Monroe
My dad does lots of little things that I don't need but appreciate. He pays for any family vacation we go on. Whenever we go out to eat he usually pays. He heard me saying a few months ago that I wanted to try a new restaurant out and he bought be a $50 gift certificate. Just small things like that that mean a lot to me.
I'm fairly successful, but no way in hell would I be where I am today without his help (financially and emotionally.
I'm fairly successful, but no way in hell would I be where I am today without his help (financially and emotionally.
Posted on 3/31/11 at 10:00 am to I Love Bama
how grown?
Im 24 and dont have kids but I have had help from my folks.
Im 24 and dont have kids but I have had help from my folks.
Posted on 3/31/11 at 10:21 am to West Monroe
Help out? Yes.
Support? NO!
Support? NO!
Posted on 3/31/11 at 10:21 am to West Monroe
Since I graduated from my required internship after college, my parents haven't ever helped me. I haven't asked ... they haven't offered. There was no need.
Regarding your other child, I know that my parents have done for my 2 brothers (1 is 5 years younger than me and 1 is 15 years younger) ... and I didn't feel that it needed to be done for me to be equal.
That's called "being an adult". But if you can and feel that you want to do for the other one that's your choice and you have to do what you're comfortable with.
NOW, when it's my kids (now the're 18, 13 and 10) I don't know what I'll do. When we do a family vacation it's US ... not either one of our families to this point (except for a time or 2 when the oldest was about 3 and we had already paid and then invited my inlaws to come).
Regarding your other child, I know that my parents have done for my 2 brothers (1 is 5 years younger than me and 1 is 15 years younger) ... and I didn't feel that it needed to be done for me to be equal.
That's called "being an adult". But if you can and feel that you want to do for the other one that's your choice and you have to do what you're comfortable with.
NOW, when it's my kids (now the're 18, 13 and 10) I don't know what I'll do. When we do a family vacation it's US ... not either one of our families to this point (except for a time or 2 when the oldest was about 3 and we had already paid and then invited my inlaws to come).
This post was edited on 3/31/11 at 10:23 am
Posted on 3/31/11 at 10:28 am to The Hamburglar
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my wife and I moved to Boston from New Orleans, recently.
who on this board DOESN'T know this by now?
Posted on 3/31/11 at 10:43 am to West Monroe
My in-laws helped us out alot when we first got started out as newly weds. I am not too proud at all to accept money if people are offering it.
The big bonus was giving us enough money to put 20% down on our first house. Generally it was just helping out with the vacation if we invited them and paying for meals in restaurants.
Edited to also add that my retired father-in-law is a skilled jack of all trades type, so he has probaby saved me at least $10K over the years by doing home improvement projects for us. I am learning from him, so hopefully I will not need his help any longer with that kind of stuff.
The big bonus was giving us enough money to put 20% down on our first house. Generally it was just helping out with the vacation if we invited them and paying for meals in restaurants.
Edited to also add that my retired father-in-law is a skilled jack of all trades type, so he has probaby saved me at least $10K over the years by doing home improvement projects for us. I am learning from him, so hopefully I will not need his help any longer with that kind of stuff.
This post was edited on 3/31/11 at 10:51 am
Posted on 3/31/11 at 10:43 am to DieselTiger1
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how grown?
I'm 27
Posted on 3/31/11 at 10:57 am to I Love Bama
hey Slow, did I mention that my wife and I just moved to Boston?
Posted on 3/31/11 at 11:06 am to LSUDad
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LSUDad
Dad- I need a hard wood floor installer and finisher. The real stuff.(not the factory pre finished stuff)
Posted on 3/31/11 at 11:16 am to notiger1997
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The big bonus was giving us enough money to put 20% down on our first house.
i think that's mortgage fraud if you didn't declare it
Posted on 3/31/11 at 11:31 am to SlowFlowPro
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i think that's mortgage fraud if you didn't declare it
I don't know about mortgage faud, but I am sure the IRS would not have like the way we handled the "situation".
Posted on 3/31/11 at 11:39 am to notiger1997
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This post was edited on 7/21/23 at 11:43 am
Posted on 3/31/11 at 11:43 am to West Monroe
My son and his wife are very careful with money. So, when the wife's car was falling apart I gave them $7K as down payment for a new one.
My daughter and her husband spend a lot of money on ski trips to Aspen. I don't give them anything.
My daughter and her husband spend a lot of money on ski trips to Aspen. I don't give them anything.
Posted on 3/31/11 at 11:45 am to Zach
Does my adult brother count as a kid?
Posted on 3/31/11 at 12:03 pm to Zach
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My son and his wife are very careful with money. So, when the wife's car was falling apart I gave them $7K as down payment for a new one.
Do you think your daughter might resent that you gave your son 7K and not her.....this is what I wonder about.....even if one doesn't need it, I'm sure it would help them out and be fair to give each the same....
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