re: Trashy or not? I threw down on my mother tonight on the phone

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My parents visit us very infrequently. They see my sister and their kids several times a year.

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Where do your parents live and where does your sister live? My mom visits my sister far more often than me but my mom lives in Florida, my sister lives in Alabama and I live in Washington state so it makes sense.

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I threw down on my mother tonight

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What is wrong with you Louisiana people?

Have you tried to calmly tell them how much it means to your daughter that they show up? Old folks are stubborn. My parents usually dig their heels in if I get aggravated with them but if I calmly lay out what's going on they are usually more receptive.

fricking victims...

When will you people just go away?

A week after graduation your daughter will never remember who was at graduation...how many on here that are 10 years+ out of high school remember who came to yours? You are being way over the top with your Mom and your obvious feelings that she treats you differently than your Sister and her family. Face time them in and let them see your daughter in her cap and gown and let it go. Maybe they see you infrequently because its hard to deal with you. Might be time to examine your behavior. When you are headed for 80 her position will make more sense.

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My grandfather turns 94 in a few months. He still has his health and makes to every big event. Your parents just didn’t like your family

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12 hours away because that's what the OP is asking his parents to do? It's a little different because of his daughter's challenges, but to ask two people to go to Illinois is a pretty big ask. He should have explained to them how big a deal it would have been to his daighter and if they still don't come its on them. Acting like a baby and telling them he "was going to punish them" didn't help I'm sure.

Lol they love your sister more than you.

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I’d have sent them plane tickets to ease the trip on them, assuming they were going to drive

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I offered but they don't want the layover in Dallas and don't want to drive to NOLA for a direct flight to St Louis or Chicago where I offered to pick them up. Funny.. going to Denver, connection flights are never an issue. They do it often.

I offered to come down and drive them here and back. May daughter has aspergers and worships them. She is going to ULL because of them living in Lafayette. Perhaps I should let them have a pass. But how will that play when they carry their arse to Denver next year to my nephews graduation? I guess I am feeling a bit bitchy these days.

my daughter is high functioning Autistic as well

how close is your daughter to your parents?

is money an issue? is the trip a hardship for them financially? can you afford plane tix for them?

do they see your sister because they live close?

if your parents and your daughter are super close and they were instrumental to her upbringing, then I think you did the right thing

but I am having a hard time believing that; especially if the visits are infrequent as you say

it sounds like having your parents there is important to you moreso than your girl - that is my read based on what you put in OP

graduation will be great for your daughter and she will be bombarded with stimuli; she may not have much time to spend with your parents

most autistic kids would not get upset by having people that they do not see often miss an event; even one like graduation

based on that, I say you were too hard on the old folks



Answers- Close enough to decide to attend ULL for college while we live in Illinois. Yes, they are retired. Money is an issue. A $300 a person flight was ok but $385 not. I offered to pay and even go get them. I get the old thing and health. But their arses go to Denver 3x's a year. My kids know it and no one says a thing. This is a big deal. I have no confidence my daughter will graduate college. We will do all we can but this may be her "high water mark". IDK. Yes she would be very upset if they weren't there.