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Friends of family funerals?
Posted on 1/9/17 at 8:57 pm
Posted on 1/9/17 at 8:57 pm
Very good friend, know dad & wife and a couple cousins...
Grandparent of friend dies, never met or heard about. Do you go? Wife says yeah with our entire family, I say no.
What does it say?
Grandparent of friend dies, never met or heard about. Do you go? Wife says yeah with our entire family, I say no.
What does it say?
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Posted on 1/9/17 at 8:59 pm to hubreb
I would
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:00 pm to hubreb
At the least go to wake & pay respects to the family
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:01 pm to hubreb
Funeral or funeral home? Usually a visit to the funeral home is enough.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:01 pm to hubreb
People tend to go to support their friend.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:01 pm to hubreb
It isn't going to hurt anything unless it is an explicitly small family only thing. If it is a public thing with the funeral open in the obituary then you can assume that it is appropriate. Your friend will probably appreciate it.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:02 pm to hubreb
If it's local and you feel any sense of obligation, then yes. Wouldn't travel for it for sure.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:03 pm to hubreb
Send condolences with a Flower arrangement and offer to cook for the family's meal afterwards.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:04 pm to hubreb
You absolutely go. You go to support your friends, not the deceased. The dead guy could care less, it's the family you show up to support.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:05 pm to hubreb
If in same city/town/close, go to wake.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:07 pm to hubreb
You bring entire family? Really? To someone's wake you have never seen? Surprised by y'all's response
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:33 pm to hubreb
Most services have a nice little food spread.
Bring some tupperware or plastic bags and load up.
Bring some tupperware or plastic bags and load up.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:36 pm to hubreb
FWIW it meant a lot to me to see my friends who barely knew my paw paw at his funeral... even if they only stayed for 20-30 minutes, it meant a lot to me that my friends and some coworkers showed up
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:37 pm to hubreb
If its a good friend, then at least try to make it to the wake. Wouldn't be so worried about bringing your entire family out there, but at least show up to either wake or funeral for your friend
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:37 pm to hubreb
Go. At a minimum it'll help you appreciate your own life for a little while. The family of the deceased appreciate a well attended visitation.
As far as the burial, you always know if you need to be there.
As far as the burial, you always know if you need to be there.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 9:39 pm to hubreb
Funerals are for the living not the dead. Your friends grandpaw died, if you feel like you need to be there for your friend go. I would not tote the whole family along.
Posted on 1/9/17 at 10:04 pm to hubreb
Send Flowers
Posted on 1/9/17 at 10:23 pm to hubreb
Funerals are uncomfortable for everyone....including the folks who are grieving. I used to have myself convinced that I shouldn't attend these kinds of things because I wasn't the best of friends with the family. turns out that lots of times when you attend funerals or visitations, talking to you for even a minute or two is a really nice escape for the family. a few times, what I thought wouldn't really mean much has been deeply appreciated by the folks that I visited.
I say if you have any doubt at all, go...even if you just step in for a few minutes.
I say if you have any doubt at all, go...even if you just step in for a few minutes.
This post was edited on 1/9/17 at 10:47 pm
Posted on 1/9/17 at 10:26 pm to hubreb
you go, wife/kids stay home
Posted on 1/9/17 at 10:44 pm to hubreb
You should go if you can but don't think your whole family (wife & kids) need to go. You would not be going for any other reason but to be there for your friend. It lets him know you are thinking about him even when he never asked you to come. When my mom died many years ago there were more friends at her funeral who did not know her than there were her actually knew her. Surprised the hell out of me and it lifted my spirits. Some I didn't even get a chance to talk to but I saw them. Some were just eye contact and a head nod as we were leaving the chapel and following her casket to the hearse outside. It meant a lot to me. It was really kind of shocking in a way. I think your friend would probably never forget the gesture.
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