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What would you do for someone who makes suicidal threats?

Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:34 am
Posted by Tigerfan56
Member since May 2010
10521 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:34 am
We have a close relative with a lot of issues. She's in her 50's, divorced and single, lonely, terrible financial situation (in a lot of debt, no retirement, shitty job), probably an alcoholic. All those issues have lead to depression.

She's always been a very dramatic person who exasperates her problems and likes the attention. The thing is, the past year or two she has repeatedly mentioned that she wants to kill herself. Friends and family have tried to tell her repeatedly that she needs to seek help, but she never does. We've also started to become desensitized to her suicidal talk because of her dramatic demeanor and her excessive use of it - ie. it has become easy to brush off that she isn't really serious and will come to her senses.

Regardless, her behavior isn't normal and there is no denying she is having suicidal thoughts- regardless of her level of intent to actually carry through. I think eventually without help she will reach a breaking point and do it. But, as many times as we've talked to her and tried to have her seek professional help- she won't do it. Is there any other option out there? I'm not sure if you can contact police or medial authorities for suicidal threats, or if that is even too harsh? Feels like one of those situations where they have to want help before they can get it themselves, and there's nothing really we can do, but just trying to think of any other options, if any, we have?
Posted by 4LSU2
Member since Dec 2009
37347 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:34 am to
I'd just leave her alone.
Posted by baseballmind1212
Missouri City
Member since Feb 2011
3264 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:35 am to
kill her
Posted by ctiger69
Member since May 2005
30616 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:35 am to
Get her help.
Posted by WaltTeevens
Santa Barbara, CA
Member since Dec 2013
10990 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:36 am to
12 cats and a dildo
Posted by junkfunky
Member since Jan 2011
33956 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:36 am to
Pretty sure the only thing you could do is talk to the coroner about a cpo (I think that's what it is).
Posted by Rouge
Floston Paradise
Member since Oct 2004
136847 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:38 am to
serious answer: try to help

OT answer: set up life insurance policy with you as benefactor
Posted by AU_251
Your dads room
Member since Feb 2013
11559 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:39 am to
You can have her committed if it gets really bad. It's hard, especially for someone like your relative, to admit they need help. But literally EVERYONE would benefit from speaking to a counselor. Even the most healthy and stable of people could use an objective person to vent to. I say have a very serious convo with someone else that cares about her, and then you both approach her together with the idea of going to a counselor/therapist. That person will be able to determine what steps need to be taken. If she won't listen to the two of you together, try and think of someone whose opinion she REALLY values. Approach her again with that person, coming from the standpoint that you don't think she's crazy, just that you love her and want her to be able to talk to someone.


Don't give up. Suicide is the worst thing in the world

Edit: I've just seen where you "can't stand her" and she is your wife's relative. Well have a serious convo with your wife and do what I said above, but have your wife and someone else talk to her. Seriously
This post was edited on 1/4/17 at 11:41 am
Posted by Wtodd
Tampa, FL
Member since Oct 2013
67497 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:44 am to
quote:

She's always been a very dramatic person who exasperates her problems and likes the attention

Which probably means she not suicidal.
quote:

probably an alcoholic

Buy her a case of her fav bev and tell her to drink up
Posted by NoHoTiger
So many to kill, so little time
Member since Nov 2006
45747 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 11:59 am to
quote:

What would you do for someone who makes suicidal threats?

Ask her if she's serious, if she knows how and when she wants to do it. If she's serious and has a plan, call 911 and report all of that.

quote:

divorced and single, lonely, terrible financial situation (in a lot of debt, no retirement, shitty job), probably an alcoholic.

Pretty good recipe for suicide. Make sure you report this too.

quote:

I'm not sure if you can contact police or medial authorities for suicidal threats, or if that is even too harsh?

Yes you can. If you think the threat is credible, make the call. Don't threaten to do this. Ask about her intention and plan, if she gives you the above, make the call. Let professionals take it from there.

<----Therapist who had to deal with this more often than I care to thinka about.
Posted by Boudreaux35
BR
Member since Sep 2007
21578 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:02 pm to
You have a choice. Take her to help, if you have any thought she is serious or leave her alone. Worrying about her and talking about it only gives her the attention she is seeking.
Posted by cwil177
Baton Rouge
Member since Jun 2011
28452 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:42 pm to
Call the police and ask for a request of protective custody for her. They will take her to an ER for psychiatric evaluation. She may get held in a psych ward for a few days if the physician is concerned.
Posted by SECdragonmaster
Order of the Dragons
Member since Dec 2013
16245 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:47 pm to
She cannot be helped until she wants to be helped. Everything else until then is a waste of others time and others money.

She already knows how and where to get help.
She even knows someone who is willing to pay for it.

Just pray for her and wait for her to reach out.
Posted by Hawkeye95
Member since Dec 2013
20293 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:49 pm to
Sounds like she is borderline. That is a big hole to dig yourself out of.

I have no suggestions other than keep distance between you.
try LINK
This post was edited on 1/4/17 at 12:50 pm
Posted by OysterPoBoy
City of St. George
Member since Jul 2013
35514 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:50 pm to
First 3 responses:

quote:

I'd just leave her alone.



quote:

Kill her



quote:

Get her help


One of those is bound to help.
Posted by someLSUdoosh
Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2016
882 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:52 pm to
I dealt with suicidal thoughts in the past and the only thing that took me out of it was being sent to the ER and the stuck in the psych-ward for three days.

You stick her in the loony bin for more than 48 hours she will realize that the thoughts are just thoughts and learn how to deal with them.

The trick to the loony bin is they wont let you leave until you have set up an appointment with a therapist.
Posted by LSUaFOOL
Jackson, La
Member since Jan 2008
1864 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:56 pm to
Seems like she needs the D.....Pics?
Posted by Rebel80
Member since Sep 2016
259 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 5:25 pm to
Cut them off!! I feel like playing into their pity party is only enabling them.

Had an ex that used to play this card
This post was edited on 1/4/17 at 8:45 pm
Posted by OweO
Plaquemine, La
Member since Sep 2009
114044 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 5:41 pm to
That's tough and someone who is experienced in dealing with these things could give you a much better answer, but when you talked with her were you straight to the point?

Just tell her "Look ___________, you continue to threaten to kill yourself and it is really concerning. To the point I can't sleep thinking about it (make it a situation where she might feel like she could help you) but I really want you to seek help or tell me you are just saying it just to say it and that you don't really mean it"..

Let her know that what she is saying is troubling others.. Maybe do something for her.. Plan a night out or something.. Is she hot?
Posted by Paige
Vice President of the OT
Member since Oct 2010
84748 posts
Posted on 1/4/17 at 6:00 pm to
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