re: Proposal etiquette when SO isn't close with father

I mean I wouldn't go as far as to say he wouldn't give a shite. He'll definitely be there and be a part of it. I've seen them interact in person and can tell he loves his kids dearly, he's just not the best role model I guess you could say.

We've been talking more and more recently about how we would want wedding stuff to go like planning and such whenever that time would come. Got on the subject of who gets invited to a rehearsal dinner and she mentions her parain. And I'm like why? That's just going to snowball into having to invite all sorts of people. And she says its because he already promised to pay a lot for her wedding and she knows her dad won't be able to contribute financially at all.

Perhaps I should just propose and let everything unfold from there. I understand the tradition and would like to take part in it, I just don't find my situation ideal.