re: Big Island Hawaii vs other islands

For me, the only reason to visit Oahu is to see Pearl Harbor. If that interest you, you could take an early flight to Oahu. Take a half day bus tour and return to your island of choice.

Maui is a terribly overcrowded tourist trap these days.

I'd suggest the Big Island or Kauai over Maui.

Depending how long you will be there, you could spend time on both islands.

On the Big Island, you need to consider the Hilton Waikoloa Village. Your kids will love it. Take a look online.

Kauai is much more lush than the Kona area of the Big Island where you were.

On Kauai there are two highly rated resorts. The Grand Hyatt is the more kid friendly of the two.

If you just have to go to Maui, the Four Seasons, Grand Wailea and Andaz are all right together. The Grand Wailea is the most kid friendly.

You and your family will go stir crazy on Lanai. There is nothing there but two Four Seasons hotels. Lanai is a good place to go unwind and vegetate.