re: Tips for dealing with young kids and "traumatic" experiences?

This is what I was going to say. But we both know that the circle of life is something a 3-4 year old can't comprehend. They don't start being able to until about age 6 and then it still seems unjust to them. At age 6 or so they just want to know why the evil coyote could not have just eaten something other than their pet. Hard to make them understand that the coyote does not view their pet as a pet, rather, instinctively as an opportune and vulnerable necessity for survival.

For the OP. It's a hard one just because she witnessed the attack. Just try and comfort her and tell her that coyotes only kill small animals like squirrels, rabbits and tiny pets when they can. Put your hand to about the level of her waist and tell her they don't mess with anything bigger than that and that they are scared of all humans...even her.