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Rental Property Question- own an upstairs unit in a fourplex
Posted on 1/14/15 at 10:07 pm
Posted on 1/14/15 at 10:07 pm
Resident below mine is mentally disabled. His step dad told me he was beaten in the womb by his natural father. Step dad is his legal guardian as his mother has passed away. Step dad lives a half mile away in a single family home.
The kid (30ish) has an attendant paid for by the state for twelve hours a day. 8am-8pm.
The problem starts after 8 pm. He is fine as long as the drugs the nurse gives him before she leaves knock him out. But if they do not he is playing music loudly, walking around in the common area in his pajamas and making some really loud noises.
To top it off, he tells his caregivers and the residents of the other units that my tenant is his girl friend. He meets her when she drives up, leaves her gifts on her door and ask for hugs. He watches for her to pull in.
I feel sorry for the kid. It is not his fault. My previous tenant lived there for 7 years with this kid in place for about 4 of the latter years. The difference is that he was a 80 year old male with terrible hearing and enjoyed visiting with the kid.
His step dad is running for a spot on the HOA. He is so enthusiastic about it. I believe it his intent to squash any dissent to his son.
What are my options? This is causing me financial harm. I have reached out to him to address the situation but every time I do he ends up punishing the kid and caregivers.
PS: I lived there for a few months while remodeling and I know that my tenant is telling the truth regarding the music and wandering the halls.
The kid (30ish) has an attendant paid for by the state for twelve hours a day. 8am-8pm.
The problem starts after 8 pm. He is fine as long as the drugs the nurse gives him before she leaves knock him out. But if they do not he is playing music loudly, walking around in the common area in his pajamas and making some really loud noises.
To top it off, he tells his caregivers and the residents of the other units that my tenant is his girl friend. He meets her when she drives up, leaves her gifts on her door and ask for hugs. He watches for her to pull in.
I feel sorry for the kid. It is not his fault. My previous tenant lived there for 7 years with this kid in place for about 4 of the latter years. The difference is that he was a 80 year old male with terrible hearing and enjoyed visiting with the kid.
His step dad is running for a spot on the HOA. He is so enthusiastic about it. I believe it his intent to squash any dissent to his son.
What are my options? This is causing me financial harm. I have reached out to him to address the situation but every time I do he ends up punishing the kid and caregivers.
PS: I lived there for a few months while remodeling and I know that my tenant is telling the truth regarding the music and wandering the halls.
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Posted on 1/14/15 at 10:34 pm to StrangeBrew
What's the current financial harm?
Posted on 1/14/15 at 11:15 pm to StrangeBrew
It's clearly a tough spot.
Perhaps you can work with the stepfather to change out speakers and reduce max volume but I'm sure the biggest issue is her feeling safe.
Unfortunately I think you are going to just have to be selective of your next tenant and find that old man type.
Kinda that or sell.
Perhaps you can work with the stepfather to change out speakers and reduce max volume but I'm sure the biggest issue is her feeling safe.
Unfortunately I think you are going to just have to be selective of your next tenant and find that old man type.
Kinda that or sell.
Posted on 1/15/15 at 8:48 am to StrangeBrew
May be a dick move but I'd tell my tenant to call police when loud music or assault occurs
Posted on 1/15/15 at 8:54 am to StrangeBrew
Tough situation for sure. Kinda question why the step dad has him living by himself, but that's neither here nor there to your situation.
I'm assuming step dad owns the unit if he's angling to get on the HOA?
When you've reached out to him about the situation, have you mentioned your female tenant's uneasiness with what is going on?
I'm assuming step dad owns the unit if he's angling to get on the HOA?
When you've reached out to him about the situation, have you mentioned your female tenant's uneasiness with what is going on?
Posted on 1/15/15 at 10:40 am to StrangeBrew
Do you know of anyone that works with people with developmental disabilities? If so, maybe you can talk to them.
The mentally disabled have a lot of rights, but so does your tenant. Maybe the guy just needs constant reinforcement. His disability may not allow him to remember certain behaviors for a long period of time, so maybe the stepfather can remind him more often. It's like a child (which this guy probably has the mental capacity of a child). With a child, you need to constantly remind them what is acceptable. They do good for a while, then relapse.
We have a family friend that has a mentally disabled child that is in his late 20s, and he is very huggy as well. The kid is a sweet, golden person, he just wants affection. If most of these interactions with the tenant are happening when the sitter is gone, the kid probably just wants some human interaction.
The mentally disabled have a lot of rights, but so does your tenant. Maybe the guy just needs constant reinforcement. His disability may not allow him to remember certain behaviors for a long period of time, so maybe the stepfather can remind him more often. It's like a child (which this guy probably has the mental capacity of a child). With a child, you need to constantly remind them what is acceptable. They do good for a while, then relapse.
We have a family friend that has a mentally disabled child that is in his late 20s, and he is very huggy as well. The kid is a sweet, golden person, he just wants affection. If most of these interactions with the tenant are happening when the sitter is gone, the kid probably just wants some human interaction.
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