re: Help me pick mine and the GF's new carry guns

A. Scratch .380's from your list. No matter what else you read or hear, the 9mm is not just a little better, it's a lot better (more effective) at stopping bad guys.

B. There are a lot of good reasons to get both guns with the same operating controls/manual of arms. Mixing guns with manual safety (like the Beretta) with guns having no external safety isn't a great idea.

C. Scratch guns with manual (external) safeties from your list -- unless she tends to fiddle around with guns. If that's the case, scratch her from the list until she gets a lesson in gun safety and some experience.

D. Not sure how you formulated your list. But RELIABILITY should be your primary (and secondary, and tertiary) concern. For out-of-the-box reliability you should focus on Glocks, M&P's and H-K's. Kahrs are fine guns, but require several hundred rounds through them for break-in (according to the owner's manual).

E. Do not base your choice on reviews in gun magazines, reviews on youtube (probably the worst option of all), and opinions expressed on this or any other internet forum. Go find out out what law enforcement agencies issue -- this is usually your best clue as to reliability.

F. After you narrow your list to three or four makes of reliable guns, you can pick based on your personal preferences, or can just go "eeny, meeny, miney, mo."

G. My comments qualify as free internet advice, so you can ignore it as well.