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LaBornNRaised
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You are the only one that can answer that. No one on earth will know what your child needs more than you.

My advice, hold that beautiful gift until you have to set it down. YOLO, applies to this more than anything else. People with kids will know exactly what I am saying.






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USMCTiger03
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What's the reasoning behind the other option (what my bil and sil are doing?

Weak parents.






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Darla Hood
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My wife and I plan on letting them cry it out etc because our niece is a nightmare as far as crying is concerned. We feel it's because they never put her down.



I was the perfect parent, too, before I had kids. Doesn't matter what you say now. You will eat your words on many, many matters.

That doesn't mean you won't make a great parent. Just not a perfect one.






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LSUEnvy
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We had our twins sleeping all night at 9 weeks. Our pediatrician said the key was getting them to eventually only feed every 4 hrs. At times he said they would be fussy but then feed better and feed more, therefore sleep longer between feedings. He said if we didn't get them on a schedule our lives would be hell. It worked because it was a chore being up with them all night. By the time you fed one, changed diapers and rocked to sleep, then did the other one, it was time to do it all over again. Sleep deprivation really hit about the one month mark.





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Dorothy
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Doesn't matter what you say now. You will eat your words on many, many matters.

That doesn't mean you won't make a great parent. Just not a perfect one.


I agree, and remember, every kid is different too. One of mine would have slept through the night at week 2 but her doctor wanted us to wake her every 3-4 hours to feed her. Second kid would throw up everything he ate if he cried for more than 5 minutes, so then I'd HAVE to change his outfit, his bed, and re-feed him, so picking him up for a few minutes was easier. It also makes a difference if the little one crying is keeping up other people in the house, which may not be ideal either.

Then just when you think you've got a good schedule going, their patterns will change--they'll get sick or start teething or go through a growth spurt and require more feedings. It's not going to be perfect every night, no matter how hard you try.

I agree with the earlier posters who said make sure all needs are met (clean diaper, fed, etc.), but also with the one who said newborns can't really self-soothe. Later you can try letting them cry it out, but you know what? You may also decide (later on) that you'd rather just hold them anyway.



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mmcgrath
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My wife and I plan on letting them cry it out etc because our niece is a nightmare as far as crying is concerned. We feel it's because they never put her down.
An infant crying has nothing to do with why a toddler cries.

Like other posters say, get them on a feeding schedule. If your wife breast feeds most of the time, you might find that giving them some of the ready to go formula every now and then lets them sleep longer because it fills them up longer.

One thing my wife was strongly opposed to but helped us in the long run was avoiding the pacifier as much as possible.

Just prepare for the worst. Your baby could have minor medical issues that while not life threatening can cause it a lot of pain. It would be bad parenting to ignore it or to think that a baby crying is some sort of discipline problem, imo.






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barry
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Read the book baby wise. It's basically between responsive parenting and letting the kid scream till he chokes. The book just makes sense





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NashvilleTider
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this





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Isabelle
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I always held my babies. Life is too short not to!





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jmh5724
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We just had twin daughters and said the same things you're saying. Then you bring then home and spend the entire night just watching them sleep. Like another poster said, you can't spoil a newborn. If they are crying, sometimes all they need is to be held close and hear your heart beating to soothe them.





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BananaHammock
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My wife tended to my kids whilst I worked or slept in preparation for more work (I was getting my business off of the ground at the time). She was a bit vigilant for my taste, but since she was doing all of the childcare work, who was I to judge?

In general, my feeling is that they are crying for a reason. A good mom can figure out what it is fairly easily and mitigate the problem. A shitty mom will drop them in their crib and let them cry until they choke on their own spit.

My kids are 5 and 8 now and have never been bratty or needy, despite having their needs met very attentively during their infant and toddler years.



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SabiDojo
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Hold on, cowboy. Babies need affection and your touch. It creates a bond of trust. You want your baby to look at you as a source of comfort.

You can allow them to fry it out when they are older, but certainly not when they are newborns.






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rebeloke
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Dude I have 4 kids, I got this one. You have to help them find that sweet spot. When they are dry and feed they should go down without pulling the plug. It may be they need to try a different position or change the sounds in the background. The biggest thing is do not over stimulate them. Most parents screw up by giving babies way too much stimuli. Routines are a must. Good luck.





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Tactical1
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If you pick them up all the time you are gonna end up with a "hold me baby".







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LSUGUMBO
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re: Newborn parenting (Self sooth or Pick them up all the time?)


With our son, we mostly let him cry it out. With our daughter, she gets alot more worked up when she cries, so it's a little harder to let her cry it out.

It definitely different for every child, and you'll just have to decide for yourselves how/when you want your child to cry it out.






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LSUtigerME
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Hold on, cowboy. Babies need affection and your touch. It creates a bond of trust. You want your baby to look at you as a source of comfort. You can allow them to fry [sic] it out when they are older, but certainly not when they are newborns.


This. Don't overstimulate them, but we were never a "cry it out" in the traditional sense. Routine was key for us, and beside being sick, he does pretty well now (1).






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diat150
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first, practice your swaddling technique. check out moms on call method of swaddling. you can also pick up their book. they have alot of good info on how to make the baby form a schedule.





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Popcorn
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Self soothing teaches them they have to take care of themselves and not expect to have their every need cared for immediately.





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Sir Drinksalot
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Infants just don't cry to pass the time. They cry when they are hungry, wet, have gas, tired, sick, etc. don't ignore those things.

They aren't little a-holes who cry just to piss you off







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St Augustine
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re: Newborn parenting (Self sooth or Pick them up all the time?)


combo...If he's wailing, I would pick him up. If just a bit whiny I'd let him work it out. My son isn't big on being held now at 8 months though...likes his space.





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