re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD

Even though I know they may believe some of the BS they spew, I still struggle to find it acceptable, in any way.

I can be told medically their wires are crossed up. Or that they have a chemical imbalance.

I can be told that spiritually they are hurting.... or that they have real legit mental health problems. Ok I get it. I can understand that.

I cannot explain how they get on their absolute best behavior, and then in less than 30 days they turn on you. And don't mind doing it....

On a Tuesday. Over something petty. Being hateful or never speaking to you again.... and then actling like they've forgotten all the mean $hit they said or did to you.

Another thing Borderline's do - triangulate.

Be carefull with this. Let me explain -

The wife comes home from work Day after day complaining about Melissa, the co-worker. Melissa is the meanest co-worker ever. You should hear the things Melissa says and does to your wife while they are at work.

Over time, you start to really dislike Melissa, and you've never met her.

But guess what? She goes to work and tells Melissa how terrible of a human being YOU are. How horrible of a husband you are. And guess what? Without seeing any of this herself or meeting you, Melissa starts to dislike you.

See where I'm going with this? If you ever meet Melissa at the company Christmas party, there might be some fireworks. Two grown arse adults fighting over her.

OR - if your wife starts flirting with another man or talking about meeting another man in front of her co-workers, they won't feel like telling you at all.

This is one of the many, many games Borderline's play.