re: So last night I had a moment

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It’ll pass. Tell you a little story. Have a buddy that married his college GF. She was a hottie in college, thin and athletic. Vibrant personality. They get married, three kids, and the relationship sours. She turned into a fat, lazy, bitter person. Sorry, it’s the truth. They fight, a lot. Finally he has enough and leaves. Go thru a messy divorce. FF a little while, she starts the Facebook crusade about how hard it is being a single mother, blah blah. Starts going to the gym and loses a ton of weight. Constantly posting about how tough it is when you’re a single mom to take care of yourself. Now I haven’t seen her since they split up, but he had a low moment one night about it. Upset with himself for why he couldn’t make it work and blamed himself for making her into that person. Wanted to call her. At the end of the day, we are the people we are with our spouses. No one in this world knows you as well as that person. Some people are toxic. Some people go into a relationship thinking that a person will change once they’re married. Some people drop the act once they’re married because they think they don’t have to try anymore. I don’t think my buddy changed all that much once they got married. He’s pretty even keel. I know she did. Not just physically. She just quit trying. And I can promise you she doesn’t see it that way. Going on a social media crusade to try to get people to feel sorry for you because you waited until your husband left to start giving a shite about yourself tells me that. Point is, whatever you think you see isn’t reality. She may be different with a different person. And if you two can develop the type of relationship that you can coexist with your kids in the room happily then that’s great. But whatever you think you see, no matter how awesome the initial events will be, you’ll end up right back where you were. Because people don’t really change all that much.

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