re: Married men of the OT, how many of you are single income HH?

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If I were a woman there is NO way in hell I would be subject to the whims of a man and not be capable of financially supporting myself. I would not want a wife who was in that position because far too many stay around just for security instead of being a family. There is just as much dysfunction in single family homes as there is in 2 family homes and in single income homes as there is in 2 or more income homes. The problem is the adults in each instance, not their being employed outside the home or not.

I am very proud that my daughter is being raised by a woman who is financially independent. It is my greatest hope for her in her life, to be financially independent and if she marries to do so for love and companionship, not 3 hots and a cot because that shite has proven fatal for way more women than women having a career has proved fatal for their kids. If a man is a daddy and not just a father he will pick up the slack...but thats too much to ask of many men.

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100% It just amazes me that men don't think their daughter should be completely able to take care of themselves financially if needed. It's not about being independent or dependent. Instead, it's all about being a partner and not a subordinate in your relationship. Also, you never know the hand you will be dealt. The husband could die or be disabled. Anything could happen. I am a widow. I have other friends who lost their husband in their 40s or 50s. Some of them are really struggling because they don't have much earnings potential.

We were always there for our kids activities. I went to school parties and volunteered. Just because you work doesn't mean you aren't an active participant in your child's life. Good jobs also have good benefits and time off.