re: Keeping my son from finding porn online

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some advice i'd also offer is that no matter how much you don't want to have that conversation and your kids don't want to have the conversation, they 100% want it coming from the dad instead of the mom.

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They will get it from both of us. I’m the mom by the way. (The OT always assumes you are a dude.) I’m going to let my husband cover 99% of the sex/porn talk with my sons. I don’t need to be there. I get that no boy wants to talk about that with his mom, but I specifically want to drill into my sons to never try to pressure a girl into doing something sexually that she doesn’t want to do. That was always a line in the sand for me, but I watched so many of my close girl friends get pressured into doing things. It always made them feel like shite, and it infuriated me. I would die if my sons turned into those types of men, and I want them to know that. You can tell a lot about a guy’s character by how he acts in those moments.

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why is it bad? i need to know what to tell my 5yo in a few years

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I’m not sure if you’re trolling, but if you aren’t I’ll tell you.

It’s not good for young people to consume pron because it skews their perception of romantic relationships and expectations in the bedroom. Everything in pron is staged and a product of what the crew wants you to see. The men and women are putting on a show. It creates an unrealistic expectations of both men and women, and can negatively affect how people treat potential sexual partners.

It’s not the same as an adult who just needs some content to get off. An adult should know the difference between fantasy and reality, but there are still consequences for adults. Adults can become dependent on it and not paying attention to their partner on a physical or emotional level.


There’s also a possibilty of addiction. Pron provides a massive dopamine dump. Some people chase that feeling and some never realize the damage it can do to their families.

12? He’s already found it.

Late in the thread, but you’d be best to help your son have a healthy relationship with sex and understand that porn is not real life.

I too worry about my son discovering it after having firsthand experience with the negative effects of porn addiction. However, I’m more worried about the extreme violence and depravity that algorithms can quickly put in your feed.

I didn’t go searching for it, but a dude getting his head sawed off popped up on my Twitter feed. I think it’s because I watched a few videos of fights, and the algorithm thought I must want gore to go along with it.

That scares me. Kids today can easily watch the most inhumane aspects of humanity while falling asleep at night.

Love all the Gen X/Y/Z/Millenials on here who think they're going to outsmart their 13-yr old when it comes to internet access technology.

Newsflash--Your 13-yr old has two pre-paid burner phones you don't know about that he bartered from some middle school gangster. That "resource fee" you sent to the school with him?? Burner. "Field trip fee"?? Burner. Teenage boys WILL get around you if they want to bad enough.

Your ONLY hope is to provide a good example of a health loving relationship, raise them right, have as much of a discussion as you can have with them and try to surround them with as much love and good influencers as you can.

Technology may provide a speedbump, but it is not the answer.

There is software for that.

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Keeping my son from finding porn online

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It wasn’t particularly difficult to find porn online in the 90s. You have no shot keeping your son from finding it if he has use of a computer, tablet or smart phone