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Rotating work schedule- children
Posted on 8/21/23 at 12:56 pm
Posted on 8/21/23 at 12:56 pm
May have a good career opportunity requiring a 21/21 rotation.
Catch is that I have a 6-month old at the house, and my wife has a full time job.
In addition to future career doors being opened, I’m expecting the increased pay to cover the cost of hiring help on nights/weekends when I’m working.
Anyone here have experience/advice to share?
TIA
Catch is that I have a 6-month old at the house, and my wife has a full time job.
In addition to future career doors being opened, I’m expecting the increased pay to cover the cost of hiring help on nights/weekends when I’m working.
Anyone here have experience/advice to share?
TIA
Posted on 8/21/23 at 1:08 pm to redbaron
Nothing to add other than that’s a lot of time away. It would need to be life changing money, and even still your child would likely prefer you to be home.
Posted on 8/21/23 at 1:20 pm to redbaron
Would have to be enough money for me to where my wife would quit her job.
Missing half your kids life is big time.
Missing half your kids life is big time.
Posted on 8/21/23 at 2:30 pm to redbaron
At this stage of my life, with a 2.5 year old and one year old, I can confidently say I'd pass on an opportunity like that if it required me to be away from my kids for 21 days. The next year of your kid's life will be an extremely important time, not to mention the milestones you'd miss. It seems like after every hitch you'd spend the first week you were back learning who your kid is all over again.
Just my $0.02.
Sometimes the responsibility of being a provider comes with sacrifices, and there's nobility in that, and sometimes you have to make difficult decisions like you are faced with now. Good luck in whatever you choose
Just my $0.02.
Sometimes the responsibility of being a provider comes with sacrifices, and there's nobility in that, and sometimes you have to make difficult decisions like you are faced with now. Good luck in whatever you choose
This post was edited on 8/21/23 at 2:33 pm
Posted on 8/21/23 at 5:11 pm to redbaron
Will you make enough for your wife to quit her job?
Once my kids were born my wife quit her job and I would have it any other way. My daughter is in college and son is a senior in HS.
Her being home with them is the best thing for everyone involved.
Once my kids were born my wife quit her job and I would have it any other way. My daughter is in college and son is a senior in HS.
Her being home with them is the best thing for everyone involved.
Posted on 8/21/23 at 5:21 pm to bbvdd
When is enough enough? $$$ can't replace time at home with a growing child. Quality time IS time at home to a child.
Probably wrong board, too.
Probably wrong board, too.
Posted on 8/21/23 at 6:28 pm to redbaron
Will you have good cell service or options to call home or FaceTime/Zoom? Do you live close to family/close friends that could help your wife?
With an even time schedule like that, you will technically have more time at home than a regular 9-5 job, but as others have mentioned you will miss everyday life moments. What others haven’t mentioned is that you will have large chunks of time off that you solely dedicate to your family. That is a luxury that many people don’t have.
It really should come down to a discussion with your wife, and if she can handle everything while you’re gone and if the added financial security is worth missing out on every day life.
With an even time schedule like that, you will technically have more time at home than a regular 9-5 job, but as others have mentioned you will miss everyday life moments. What others haven’t mentioned is that you will have large chunks of time off that you solely dedicate to your family. That is a luxury that many people don’t have.
It really should come down to a discussion with your wife, and if she can handle everything while you’re gone and if the added financial security is worth missing out on every day life.
Posted on 8/21/23 at 7:48 pm to redbaron
No amount of money is worth three weeks away from my child on a routine basis, especially at that age.
Dad first. Career man second.
Dad first. Career man second.
Posted on 8/22/23 at 10:25 am to redbaron
The only way this might be doable is if 1) she can quit her job or go part time, 2) she is very independent and secure in your relationship and 3) she has friends and family and a solid support system nearby. Even then, things can still go south. Missing holidays and birthdays sucks.
Just my .02.
ETA: You will also have to pick up the slack when you get home for 21 days. You have to be home, be attentive, and give her a break while you're there. When my husband's home, he handles all school drop offs/pick ups, sports practices, homework time, etc.
Just my .02.
ETA: You will also have to pick up the slack when you get home for 21 days. You have to be home, be attentive, and give her a break while you're there. When my husband's home, he handles all school drop offs/pick ups, sports practices, homework time, etc.
This post was edited on 4/11/24 at 8:50 am
Posted on 8/22/23 at 11:11 am to redbaron
I took an out of town temporary assignment during the first year of my firstborn’s life. I would come home every 2nd weekend. While the extra money was nice, Looking back I would never do anything like that again if i had the choice.
I missed out on so much of that first year, and it’s one of the events in my life that truly changed my perspective on things for the better.
I missed out on so much of that first year, and it’s one of the events in my life that truly changed my perspective on things for the better.
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