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re: Beef with girlfriend. Curious to hear from both genders about who's right/wrong.
Posted on 7/30/23 at 1:32 pm to Ernest T Bass
Posted on 7/30/23 at 1:32 pm to Ernest T Bass
Obviously it’s her fault but if you want to be
happily married you just let them have it
happily married you just let them have it
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Posted on 7/30/23 at 1:37 pm to Ernest T Bass
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Ernest T Bass
You should probably reference that whole "Is marriage the end of sex" thread from a couple days back. I see you possibly being a little blue-balled in 20 years (probably less).
Posted on 7/30/23 at 1:56 pm to la_birdman
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How old are you? Really asking.
31. You know he's not married and there's other girls out there right? Some of whom might even not raise hell over missing their sisters' birthday parties.
Posted on 7/30/23 at 2:01 pm to 75503Tiger
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You’ve got a lot to learn. You treat your woman right and she will take care of so many needs you have. Act like the fakers and losers on her and you will be stacking beer cans into your 40’s. Trust me, I lived out the bro’s before ho’s and it isn’t worth it. You promised, she made plans and now she has to adjust her plans so you are not being fair to your girl
definitely do not listen to this guy
the melodrama is hysterical
OP IF U DONT GO TO UR GIRL'S SISTER'S BIRTHDAY PARTY YOULL DIE ALONE!!!
Posted on 7/30/23 at 2:07 pm to OKBoomerSooner
We can easily put the lie to the gf's side with a simple hypothetical.
You told your buddy that you're going to his birthday party.
Then your gf closed on a house and due to circumstances needs your help moving exactly during that.
Would any of the people going "yOu PrOmIsEd HeR fIrSt" tell you to go to your buddy's party? frick no they wouldn't (except that now they feel they have to, so they don't look like hypocrites).
Because they're really just putting the chick first because they live in fear of the women in their lives complaining and raising hell.
Don't be like them. You know what's more important
You told your buddy that you're going to his birthday party.
Then your gf closed on a house and due to circumstances needs your help moving exactly during that.
Would any of the people going "yOu PrOmIsEd HeR fIrSt" tell you to go to your buddy's party? frick no they wouldn't (except that now they feel they have to, so they don't look like hypocrites).
Because they're really just putting the chick first because they live in fear of the women in their lives complaining and raising hell.
Don't be like them. You know what's more important
Posted on 7/30/23 at 2:17 pm to OKBoomerSooner
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Then your gf closed on a house and due to circumstances needs your help moving exactly during that.
Circumstances fully in the friend's control.
Hire movers. Friends move you when you rent apartments. If just sold your house for cash, and you want to mooch on your friends for manual labor, you are a shitty friend.
It's not that he can't find a mover, it's that he doesn't want to pay for movers available on 7-days notice.
This post was edited on 7/30/23 at 2:19 pm
Posted on 7/30/23 at 2:48 pm to Ernest T Bass
Must be under 40. Older folks help people first. The look at us at this party comes second
This post was edited on 7/30/23 at 2:49 pm
Posted on 7/30/23 at 3:06 pm to Ernest T Bass
Your friend made a lick on selling his house.
Time for him to spend some money on movers and for you to keep your word to her.
Your friend’s lack of forethought does not constitute an emergency for you (and your gf too).
Time for him to spend some money on movers and for you to keep your word to her.
Your friend’s lack of forethought does not constitute an emergency for you (and your gf too).
Posted on 7/30/23 at 3:07 pm to Ernest T Bass
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I was supposed to attend her sisters birthday party in a few weeks.
A lifelong friend just accepted an offer on his house that stipulates that the buyers get occupancy 7 days after closing.
So your friend has a few weeks advance notice to find a mover. OR...you both have a few weeks to start getting his stuff packed up and moved out.
I would definitely be hurt if my boyfriend of one year planned to go to my sister's birthday with me and then acted like his buddy moving was supposed to stop time for me. Especially when the guy has SEVEN days to get his stuff out. Why on earth would that need to infringe on my plans? These are not mutually exclusive situations.
Yes, the friend needs some help, but by helping him do the entire thing, the friend is now putting YOU in a bind.
There is no reason whatsoever that you can't do both of these activities. If you just don't want to go with your girlfriend, you need to figure that out.
Posted on 7/30/23 at 3:16 pm to OKBoomerSooner
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Then your gf closed on a house and due to circumstances needs your help moving exactly during that.
But the entire point is that it's not at "exactly" that time. The dude knows NOW, right at this very moment, that he will be moving in a few weeks. That place needs to be packed up days before the big stuff gets moved out.
So, for example, the party is Saturday night, the two guys could move big stuff out on Friday night and Saturday morning/day. Then OP can go to the party.
This whole situation is just stupid. None of this is hard.
Posted on 7/30/23 at 5:18 pm to Ernest T Bass
Your gf is wrong
Posted on 8/1/23 at 12:52 am to OKBoomerSooner
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You know he's not married and there's other girls out there right?
All I know is that he has a girlfriend. I have no idea for how long he's been in this relationship. Is it a month old? Is a couple years old? If it's in it's beginning stages, some men are like, "we just started dating so I'm going to help my boy out...." Not saying that's what's going on here though. But if this is a relationship that is, let's say at least a year old, I wouldn't blame her for being ticked off.
In any case, why bring up "there are other girls out there?" He already has a girlfriend. Should he be looking for a new one? Should she be shopping for a new boyfriend?
If the relationship is serious, you make compromises.. Again, not saying kiss her butt but if you blow off someone you're dedicated to, she'll get pissed. Maybe this relationship is in it's beginning stages. I have no idea. However, if it's one that has been going on for a while, I can't say I blame her because if the situation was reversed, you'd get pissed. You'd expect her to be there for you.
He has enough notice to plan to help his friend and attend his girlfriend's sister's party. It shouldn't have to come down to choosing one or the other. You make compromises.
This post was edited on 8/1/23 at 2:22 am
Posted on 8/1/23 at 1:03 am to OKBoomerSooner
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Some of whom might even not raise hell over missing their sisters' birthday parties.
This is the part that is most laughable to me. Who the frick cares whether an SO goes to your sisters birthday party? I guess that might be important to his gf for whatever retarded reason but being loyal to a friend that helped him move in the past and returning the favor seems to be important to OP. She needs to respect that.
Posted on 8/1/23 at 1:03 am to OKBoomerSooner
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because they live in fear of the women in their lives complaining and raising hell.
Nonsense.
You just help out people. And if you're dedicated and devoted to someone (the OP referred to her as his girlfriend so I think it's save to say that they've moved on from it being a "fling"), be it male or female, you should be and are expected by the other person to be there for them.
It has nothing to do with "fear."
If the situation was reversed and you had a girlfriend for, let's say even a few months, and it gets to your birthday, something like that, and she drops this in your lap a day before your birthday, "Um, I'm going out with Cindy tomorrow night. I know it's your birthday but I promised her."
You'd be like WTF. Don't pretend you wouldn't be. Any guy would be. And then you'd react the same way the OP's gf reacted.
This post was edited on 8/1/23 at 1:32 am
Posted on 8/1/23 at 6:08 am to Ernest T Bass
I’m in agreement with the sentiment that your buddy is being cheap, not in a bind. I find it very hard to believe that there are actually no movers available.
Posted on 8/1/23 at 6:14 am to Ernest T Bass
I have only read like 5 posts in the entire thread but my general thoughts are this has nothing to do with a birthday party or a commitment to a friend but rather two people fighting for your validation.
My suggestion is to first identify what you honestly feel is right and talk to them both about it.
Both of them should give you honest feedback and tell you that it's okay if you do the other thing and if they don't you obviously know that's not the one who really wants the best for you.
Any successful long term relationship, whether romantic or not, will have differing agendas and perspectives at times and if you're unable to talk about them the relationship will never he as healthy and prosperous as it should and can be.
There is no "right" or "wrong" here.
My suggestion is to first identify what you honestly feel is right and talk to them both about it.
Both of them should give you honest feedback and tell you that it's okay if you do the other thing and if they don't you obviously know that's not the one who really wants the best for you.
Any successful long term relationship, whether romantic or not, will have differing agendas and perspectives at times and if you're unable to talk about them the relationship will never he as healthy and prosperous as it should and can be.
There is no "right" or "wrong" here.
Posted on 8/1/23 at 6:27 am to Ernest T Bass
”I have plans for xxx day at xxx time. Can help any time but that"
I'm all for doing someone a solid but he has 7 days to move in he can with around your schedule if he wants free labor.
I'm all for doing someone a solid but he has 7 days to move in he can with around your schedule if he wants free labor.
Posted on 8/1/23 at 6:37 am to soccerfüt
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Your friend made a lick on selling his house.
Time for him to spend some money on movers and for you to keep your word to her.
Your friend’s lack of forethought does not constitute an emergency for you (and your gf too).
I agree with this observation.
Grow out of the bros before hoes mindset. Conflicts like this will take place throughout marriage. You committed to her first and he dumped a request on you short notice.
Now if this girl is not something you see long term and is just a trophy, then help your boy. If this is a serious GF and you see a future with her, stick to your plans. That shows her that you have the ability to fulfill a commitment. If you told her from the beginning that your best bud needs help but you told him you already had plans with her, that night she will be on her knees giving you a slow popping BJ while looking up and be in heaven.
Posted on 8/1/23 at 7:14 am to Ernest T Bass
Dudes not a friend if he asks you to help him move
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