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re: Married w/ kids OT--does your family take priority over your parents
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:24 am to StrongSafety
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:24 am to StrongSafety
I'd say that in general, no one on this planet will ever do more for you than your mom has already done...
I would say that if I was forced to rank, them mom and kids would be tied at the top of the list...me and wife would come a step or so below those priorities...
I would say that if I was forced to rank, them mom and kids would be tied at the top of the list...me and wife would come a step or so below those priorities...
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Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:27 am to StrongSafety
That's pathetic
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:27 am to StrongSafety
Sounds kinda tras....
This post was edited on 4/19/15 at 11:28 am
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:27 am to StrongSafety
my mother's still helping out her kids and every damn one of the deadbeats qualifies for AARP
ETA: that didn't come out right
ETA: that didn't come out right
This post was edited on 4/19/15 at 11:28 am
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:31 am to StrongSafety
quote:Southerns like to think that, but no.
Interesting, is that a sub cultural thing? I feel like The emphasis on family in the south is larger as opposed to other parts of the country
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:31 am to Spankum
Ha!
A man that puts his mother before his wife is no man any woman would want. Not saying you shouldn't love your mother, but you chose to spend your life with your wife. Your mother will die and you will still have your wife. Your mother also doesn't suck your willy
(This is in response to spankum.. Not Op. No reason not to buy mom a laptop)
A man that puts his mother before his wife is no man any woman would want. Not saying you shouldn't love your mother, but you chose to spend your life with your wife. Your mother will die and you will still have your wife. Your mother also doesn't suck your willy
(This is in response to spankum.. Not Op. No reason not to buy mom a laptop)
This post was edited on 4/19/15 at 11:32 am
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:31 am to 777Tiger
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my mother's still helping out her kids and every damn one of the deadbeats qualifies for AARP
Probably 15% or more of our income goes to support adult kids between 25-29 years of age. Wife's kids. Grown, with children and made horrible choices. If they didn't have kids, wouldn't spend a dime on them.
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:32 am to StrongSafety
Umm it's a fricking laptop he can suck it up and pay for it
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:32 am to StrongSafety
My kids come first but I wouldn't hesitate to buy my mom a laptop. As others have said, the fact that all 6 of them won't, makes me think there's more to it.
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:36 am to RogerTheShrubber
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Grown, with children and made horrible choices. If they didn't have kids, wouldn't spend a dime on them.
there is a line, and I'm not saying I know where it is, to where you begin to make the situation worse for them because they never try to become independent knowing that they can always rely on your assistance, kind of sad to watch
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:37 am to StrongSafety
That's not prioritizing one over the other, that is a set of kids that are just unaware or selfish
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:37 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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Southerns like to think that, but no.
Well, SOUTH Carolinians can, dammit!
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:42 am to 777Tiger
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there is a line, and I'm not saying I know where it is, to where you begin to make the situation worse for them because they never try to become independent knowing that they can always rely on your assistance, kind of sad to watch
We're way past that with her oldest son. He's married, two kids and doesn't let her work. We brought them up here, pay $800 on their apartment every month, buy food, gas etc. Got him a job.
We only do it because if he left here, the kids would have no shot. They're about the age to start school and getting a lot of help that's not available down South. I realize he's dependent, but without our help, those kids have no shot in life.
We're raising two other kids right now, and I'd take his in a hearbeat if he doesn't get his shite straight soon. My wife keeps making excuses for him, but she's just enabling him.
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:44 am to StrongSafety
That's bs. My brother and I are in our 20's in school and came up with a grand to get our mom a MacBook.
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:50 am to StrongSafety
The brothers are shite.
I have spent my adult life doing for my parents, now just one, in gratitude for all they did for me. I have thanked them to their face also.
Unfortunately, your friends tale is not uncommon.
People can and often do just suck.
I have spent my adult life doing for my parents, now just one, in gratitude for all they did for me. I have thanked them to their face also.
Unfortunately, your friends tale is not uncommon.
People can and often do just suck.
This post was edited on 4/19/15 at 11:51 am
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:52 am to rockchlkjayhku11
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I'd say that your own kids come before your parents, but I'm not sure what that has to do with buying your parents a present that you can apparently afford
this.... i'm not seeing the correlation of putting your "new" family vs. your "old" family in this situation in the OP...
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:53 am to StrongSafety
jesus. if they are that succcessful and can't muster up enough to buy your mom a good laptop then you're a piece of shite.
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:56 am to northshorebamaman
Well the mom hates one of the wives with a passion because she feels as if she was going to stop a from following his dream.
I forgot that one son was a surgical resident, and was burnt out towards the end of his residency. He had life long dreams of specializing but fatigue and priorities (a baby on the way and a fiancé) he was having some second thoughts about pursing his goal. His now wife didn't want him to specialize and she wanted him to start working to support the family.
Well his mom was livid. She couldn't believe how she could sway him or convince him to not carry out his dreams he had be working his whole life for. She saw this as a red flag and didn't think she was a good fit to marry her son at this point. Her son was already granted a year sabbatical and was on the verge of making some important career decisions.
Well the son goes ahead and had has a civil union with his now wife before the church ceremony and his mom refused to show up. In fact, she actually threw a bit of scene outside the courthouse
Fast forward to the wedding. The boys don't have many extended family members at the church wedding, so seating at the reception shouldn't be too hard. Well the wife seats the mom all the way in the back of the wedding reception dinner away from her family. It was pretty ducking rude.
And to top it off, her son was supposed to pay for his moms hotel room at the wedding, but he and the wife dipped to go on their honey moon before paying for his moms hotel room, leaving her to foot the bill herself
I forgot that one son was a surgical resident, and was burnt out towards the end of his residency. He had life long dreams of specializing but fatigue and priorities (a baby on the way and a fiancé) he was having some second thoughts about pursing his goal. His now wife didn't want him to specialize and she wanted him to start working to support the family.
Well his mom was livid. She couldn't believe how she could sway him or convince him to not carry out his dreams he had be working his whole life for. She saw this as a red flag and didn't think she was a good fit to marry her son at this point. Her son was already granted a year sabbatical and was on the verge of making some important career decisions.
Well the son goes ahead and had has a civil union with his now wife before the church ceremony and his mom refused to show up. In fact, she actually threw a bit of scene outside the courthouse
Fast forward to the wedding. The boys don't have many extended family members at the church wedding, so seating at the reception shouldn't be too hard. Well the wife seats the mom all the way in the back of the wedding reception dinner away from her family. It was pretty ducking rude.
And to top it off, her son was supposed to pay for his moms hotel room at the wedding, but he and the wife dipped to go on their honey moon before paying for his moms hotel room, leaving her to foot the bill herself
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:56 am to StrongSafety
quote:
I feel like The emphasis on family in the south is larger as opposed to other parts of the country
Family dynamics in the south are statistically worse than other parts of the country by a wide, wide margin
Posted on 4/19/15 at 11:56 am to RogerTheShrubber
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We're raising two other kids right now, and I'd take his in a hearbeat if he doesn't get his shite straight soon. My wife keeps making excuses for him, but she's just enabling him.
tough situation, you're a good man
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