Anyone else not go visit gravesites of loved ones?

The dead can't hurt you.

I had a parent pass when I was in high school, and I've only gone to the grave site a few times in the last 10 years. It's not that I don't care, or am callous about it, I really just don't think about doing it.

Also, going there won't really "do" anything for me. Their memories live with me and I think about them daily, so going to the site would just kinda be pointless, IMO, as bad as that sounds.

Who down voted?

My family has always gotten cremated. We find it's easier and I believe it is as well. I hate funerals.

It took at least a year for me to go visit my grand paws grave. It was truly devastating for me. Healthy and full of life one week, and died the next. He was my hunting and fishing partner since the age of 8. It's still hard going to his grave and its been 8-1/2 years.

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Who down voted?

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someone who feels differently about the subject. Don't bother me.

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We'll have a church service then a party afterwards to celebrate that persons life. It's much easier on everyone involved.

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I can see this for anyone maybe except the tragic death of someone young.But this sounds exactly like the way I'd want my family to do for me.

People grieve in different ways; some people find comfort in visiting a designated place to remember their loved ones, while others choose to remember them in other ways. I've done it both ways, and it doesn't mean you love or miss that person any less if you don't visit them often.

After my dad died unexpectedly, I went to visit his grave every week. I was pregnant with my first kid when he died, and I would go out there and eat ice cream "with him", something he & I did when I was younger. It made me feel closer to him, and helped me deal with the loss. After my daughter was born I started going less frequently, about once a month. Now I go maybe once or twice a year.

My mom passed a few years ago after a long illness, and her cremated remains are in the same cemetary...I've only been out there about 3 times. I've taken the kids with me, and my youngest freaks out (she's scared of the graves/dead people), so it's much harder to go now.

After seeing how much my parents take care of their parents and grandparents graves, its going to be hard for me not to when they pass. Just to keep it nice and kept looking decent won't hurt me at all. plus taking 15 minutes to stop for them compared to the now 30+ years of bullshite they've put up for me won't hurt.

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I can't see how any true Christian would want it any other way honestly.Not knocking what others do but this really seems like the most logical thing to do.

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Some hardcore Christians believe that cremation is an abomination, and that in the end of Revelation, all the corpses will rise up and be judged. Hard to do that as a pile of ashes.