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Posted on 6/21/16 at 11:46 am to Strannix
Respond with "congratulations", and pretend you didn't read the info.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 11:48 am to Strannix
I've seen photographers do special shoots for these parents that their baby was stillborn. The ones I've seen, the baby just looks like they are sleeping. And usually done in the most tasteful way possible.
While others may think it is weird, you have to understand.....those are the only pictures those parents will have of their baby. That mother carried that baby for 9 months, anticipating with joy the day she could finally meet and hold her child. She also looked forward to sharing pictures of her precious baby to friends and family. To the mother sharing that pic on fb....she likely did it because she wants to feel like her baby isn't just forgotten by others. That he/she had a distinct face that the mother wants others to know about.
Granted, if I lost a baby like that I don't know if I would share pics on fb like that. But who knows, I have not been placed in such a heartbreaking position either.
While others may think it is weird, you have to understand.....those are the only pictures those parents will have of their baby. That mother carried that baby for 9 months, anticipating with joy the day she could finally meet and hold her child. She also looked forward to sharing pictures of her precious baby to friends and family. To the mother sharing that pic on fb....she likely did it because she wants to feel like her baby isn't just forgotten by others. That he/she had a distinct face that the mother wants others to know about.
Granted, if I lost a baby like that I don't know if I would share pics on fb like that. But who knows, I have not been placed in such a heartbreaking position either.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 11:50 am to lsunurse
it'd be hard naming the child. do you go with the name you already picked cause that was your favorite so do you waste your favorite on the still born or save that name for the next one?
Posted on 6/21/16 at 11:50 am to Chad504boy
Posted on 6/21/16 at 11:52 am to lsunurse
Got it. This makes true sense.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 11:54 am to lsunurse
Taking the pics i kinda understand
Its posting it so the world can see a dead baby on FB that is unsettling
Its posting it so the world can see a dead baby on FB that is unsettling
Posted on 6/21/16 at 11:58 am to Cosmo
The world? Or sharing with friends and family?
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:00 pm to Cosmo
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Its posting it so the world can see a dead baby on FB that is unsettling
Understandable. That's why I said I don't know if I personally would post them on fb. However, I can imagine a mother grieving over the loss of her baby isn't necessarily thinking about how others may react to the picture. Like you said, everyone grieves differently.
Also....think of it this way....when people lose a child(or any loved one) it's not uncommon for them to post pics of that child/loved one on their fb to remember them/honor their memory,etc. With a stillborn...there is no picture except the one of them in death.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:01 pm to Strannix
Used to be it was thought holding or at least seeing the miscarried fetus or dead baby would bring closure. Now it's not enough, and the experience has to be acknowledged on social media.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:02 pm to Cosmo
I wonder if we have the same FB friend bc I saw those too.
It's disturbing. My ex-wife and I lost our first child to a still birth. It was the 90's but we would have never posted pictures anyways.
The medical staff recommends you spend time with the child to "say goodbye". It's an excruciating ordeal that will not see you in your finest moments of social awareness.
Preeclampsia was the cause of death for the baby and nearly killed my ex-wife as well.
First time parents need to educate themselves on the signs by visiting this website
It's disturbing. My ex-wife and I lost our first child to a still birth. It was the 90's but we would have never posted pictures anyways.
The medical staff recommends you spend time with the child to "say goodbye". It's an excruciating ordeal that will not see you in your finest moments of social awareness.
Preeclampsia was the cause of death for the baby and nearly killed my ex-wife as well.
First time parents need to educate themselves on the signs by visiting this website
This post was edited on 6/21/16 at 12:05 pm
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:03 pm to lsunurse
What about those who enshrine that they lost someone on the back of their truck or El Camino in white lettering so everyone can see?
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:06 pm to Strannix
People bitch a lot about Facebook, it's all a reflection of you though. It's not a requirement to be friends with anyone. If you disagree or think someone is a weirdo, then what's the point in having them on there?
When I see you have 4K friends I think you're a douche anyways tbh
When I see you have 4K friends I think you're a douche anyways tbh
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:07 pm to Breauxsif
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What about those who enshrine that they lost someone on the back of their truck or El Camino in white lettering so everyone can see?
I don't agree with that and personally find it odd, but understand it's likely a cultural thing.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:08 pm to Tigeralum2008
Informative link. Lots of excellent info.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:12 pm to Tigeralum2008
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Preeclampsia was the cause of death for the baby and nearly killed my ex-wife as well.
That is horrible, I'm so sorry that happened to you and your ex-wife.
I think people sometimes get too comfortable with modern medicine in regards to childbirth. They don't realize that even though women aren't dying from childbirth as frequently as they did before modern medicine...there is still quite a lot that can quickly go wrong. Very informative link you posted.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:12 pm to Strannix
I get annoyed with oversharing on social media, but realizing what those parents must be going through to lose a baby, I'm not going to fault them or criticize them for how they grieve on this one. I can't think of a more heartbreaking experience so I'll just say I hope this helps them cope in some way.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:13 pm to ForeverLSU02
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I deactivated it 5 years ago when my grandmother friended me. I knew then it would never be the same
I curse the day they opened FB to non college students/alumni.
This post was edited on 6/21/16 at 12:14 pm
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:19 pm to lsunurse
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I think people sometimes get too comfortable with modern medicine in regards to childbirth. They don't realize that even though women aren't dying from childbirth as frequently as they did before modern medicine...there is still quite a lot that can quickly go wrong. Very informative link you posted.
Thanks...It was a tough time and is why I can give the benefit of the doubt to parents who just lost a child. The amount of shock I may endure seeing that post pales in comparison to what they are going through.
I make it a point to talk about our experiences with preeclampsia to my friends who are pregnant with their first child. Not to scare the hell out of them but to be mindful not to write off the symptoms as false labor. The doctors told us it occurs in 15% of first time pregnancies and 5-8% overall.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 12:19 pm to Tigeralum2008
I believe millenials, like myself, believe that everything will be copacetic during a pregnancy. I'm not a father personally, however, one day I'd like to be and reading articles like this helps to further educate myself about how truly delicate the process of pregnancy can be.
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